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Recently, a high-profile case occurred in Taiyuan, Shanxi Province. A woman did not receive a return gift from her graduate student classmates when she got married, so she decided to return the 500 yuan gift money that the other party gave her that year. The woman believes that the exchange of gifts is a conventional tradition, and the other party did not act according to the agreement, so she chose to recover the gift money. This is not uncommon, and in recent times, similar cases have been common.
According to reports, in 2017, the woman gave a gift of 500 yuan to the other party when she married her classmates. Recently, she got married and specially invited this classmate to the wedding. However, the other party said that she was pregnant, so it was inconvenient to attend, and she did not take the initiative to return the gift. In order to let the other party understand the truth of the exchange of gifts, she found a screenshot of the transfer that year and asked the other party to return the 500 yuan gift money. She said: "I also asked mutual friends later, and she didn't give anyone a gift in return. She said that such people should be punished to a certain extent, and suggested that in the future, it should not be given to those who have no contact, so as to save trouble.
The case sparked public thinking and discussion on the issue of gift money, and some people expressed support for the woman to recover the gift money, believing that the other party should return the gift. Others, on the other hand, argue that while it is a tradition to exchange gifts, the purpose of the gift is to express blessings and emotional exchanges, not to exchange them for an equivalent value, so there is no need to be overly concerned about the amount and return.
Such cases are not isolated and have occurred frequently recently. According to reports, a woman in Mianyang, Sichuan Province gave a gift of 400 yuan to her former colleague for marriage last year, but she was ignored by the other party after she got married. After she made the request, the other party still ignored it. The woman felt very angry and said that she had not offended the other party, and that there should be a relationship between them and courtesy. On the Internet, there is a heated discussion about the recovery of gifts, and some people think that the recovery of gifts is an act of relieving anger, and the other party should return the gifts; Others believe that the purpose of the salute is to express blessings and should not be overly considered.
In response to netizens' questions about whether they could return the gift, Fu Jian, director of Henan Zejin Law Firm, said that the act of gift is usually regarded as an irrevocable act in law, unless there is fraud, coercion or other illegal factors. If the gift money is given voluntarily without the above-mentioned illegal factors, the law generally does not support the giver's subsequent request for return. He further explained that it is a common custom to give money when getting married, and it is often seen as a blessing to the couple and a support for the marriage. Once the gift money is given, according to traditional customs, it no longer belongs to the giver, but to the property of the newcomer. Therefore, a combination of factors, including the possible social and legal consequences, should be considered before considering the recovery of the gift money.
"Suili" has always been a part of wedding customs, but in recent years, the amount and requirements of the congruence have become more and more valued and disputed. Some young people have begun to rectify the concept of "gift money", hoping to return to its original meaning, that is, to express blessings and emotional exchanges, instead of dwelling on the amount of money and the degree of return.
People's attitudes towards casual gifts have gradually changed, realizing that casual gifts are not an economic transaction, but an emotional exchange. To bring "gift" back to its original meaning, try other forms of gifting, such as picking out a special gift or offering some practical help and service. At the same time, it can also be used to reduce the scale of the banquet and the amount of gifts, and pay more attention to the emotions and communication between people.
To sum up, the pursuit of courtesy is a part of the traditional custom, but in practice, more attention can be paid to the expression of sincerity and emotion, rather than too much attention to the amount of money and the degree of return.
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