16. We can never understand people who are deeper than ourselves, just as two-dimensional people can never understand the three-dimensional world.
17. If others have helped you, try to give substantial thanks. You can bring him breakfast, send him a red envelope, order takeout, these are all easy to do, but the effect is 100 times greater than just saying "thank you".
18. Accept some small sharing from others with a normal heart. For example, snacks, homemade desserts, or specialties brought from home, don't always feel bad about taking other people's things. Others share sincerely, and your firm refusal will only embarrass them.
19. Generally people who are not overly enthusiastic about everyone and rarely talk to people, if they are neither humble nor arrogant, assertive, tolerant and principled, they are basically people with a very high pattern. This kind of person has a long-term vision and is difficult to communicate with, but once they do, they are willing to give up their own interests to help you.
20. When you are angry, please suppress 99% of your anger with 1% rationality. Otherwise, it will not be someone else who will make the mistake, but yourself. When there is a conflict, don't let emotions cloud your judgment and learn to use reason to maintain justice. It's better to play stupid than to take stupid seriously.
21. Don't get entangled with people at different levels, just like a person quarrels with a pig: if you win, it can only prove that you are better than a pig; Draws are the same as pigs; Defeat is worse than a pig.
22. Asking others to do you some small favors within your power can enhance the relationship. Just entering a new environment, not knowing each other, in order to break the embarrassment, you can borrow a pen from the people around you, ask for advice, ask for directions, these are small requests, but they can bring a good sense of self-affirmation to the helper, and will naturally have a good impression of you.
23. You can be polite, but don't give people a feeling of "good bullying". Being overzealous to help, condescending to kneel, and unprincipled pursuits can make your life a mess.
24. Keep your distance from those who can't get along. Forcing a gregarious and pretending to face it with a smile is not only wronged by yourself, but also a waste of time. Relationships that are made by hypocrisy and flattery are often not strong, but relationships that are impressed by sincerity are strong.
25. You are not a punching bag, there is no need to lose your temper for others. There is a limit to patience, and if necessary, fight back, but don't be trampled on the bottom line and stupidly indifferent.
26. Don't always think about clinging to others, when you are strong yourself, others will naturally surround you.
27. Use less rhetorical questions: "Otherwise, what do you think?" How do I know? Do you understand? "These words may not be said with malicious intent, but they can hurt people's hearts and have a very negative impact. In life, try to use declarative sentences instead of rhetorical questions. 80% of rhetorical questions are just a big killer to end the conversation.
28. Don't make up for it afterwards. Don't say "I listened to me" and "I said it", although these words are refreshing, they are undoubtedly salt to the wounds of the person concerned. Either comfort the other person or offer help.
29. It's best to show gratitude for lending you money when others are in trouble. You can subsidize something like interest, or treat the other person to a meal. You know, he could have not lent it to you.
30. After borrowing someone else's things, you must maintain them before returning them.
High emotional intelligence