Enjoy the New Year Equinox 100 million gold Voltaire has such a sentence:
When a person has nothing to say, he must be speaking very poorly.When it comes to people, language is the passport to relationships.
This is especially true in the relationship between men and women, and the relationship will be good when there is something to say. However, everything needs boundaries, and no matter how much you like a man, there are a few privacy things that are best not to be said when getting along with the other person.
1. Keep silent about the "dislike" of menI've seen such a **. The boy happily went to his girlfriend's appointment, walked to the door of the hotel, and was about to push the door in, when he heard his girlfriend talking to his friends inside. Someone asked the girlfriend, when will they get married? The girlfriend replied without thinking: "What kind of marriage, there is no house and no car, and I still belong to the poor." Actually, this is a polite word from his girlfriend, and it happens to be part of the sentence that his boyfriend heard. He didn't hear what his girlfriend said about the expression of love before the man and some of the expectations for the future that the boyfriend said after he turned away, and the misunderstanding between the two people arose. Don't talk about a man's badness behind other people's backs, even if it's just a simple joke, it may affect the relationship between each other. Because such words can easily damage a man's self-esteem, make him insecure, and then question whether you are sincere with him. If love brings a man bad feelings, and what he gets from you is pressure instead of love, he will think of turning away.
Second, it is best not to tell the "secrets" of the people around youIn "Ode to Joy", Qiu Yingying fell in love with the male colleague of the unit, Director Bai, and talked about everything when she got along with each other. Qiu Yingying has four close friends, two of whom are particularly easy to talk about. One is the rich Qu Xiaoxuan, and the other is the boss who is not small but has no boyfriend, and hates to marry Fan Shengmei on the other side and no one looks down on her. Qiu Yingying and Director Bai talked about Qu Xiaoxuan's economic conditions, and also created an occasion for the two to meet. Under Qu Xiaoxuan's active temptation, Director Bai soon empathized and abandoned Qiu Yingying for money. Qiu Yingying and Director Bai said that Fan Shengmei hated to marry, and when the two broke up, Fan Shengmei was angry for Qiu Yingying, but was scolded by Director Bai poking the pain point and lung tube, Fan Shengmei learned that Qiu Yingying had sold herself, and she felt very uncomfortable.
Keeping quiet about other people's affairs is a kind of emotional intelligence. No matter how much you like someone, the gossip of the people around you is not suitable to be a talking point in each other's love. On the one hand, if you are not sure about a man's character, you will easily tell the other party that it is someone else's privacy, which will cause trouble for yourself; On the other hand, liking to talk about other people's private things as a topic to close people knows, is a kind of emotional intelligence in itself. It is said that men and women should get along honestly.
Indeed, if the relationship is not guarded, it will be more intimate. It's just that when the topic between men and women is talked about, there should also be a sense of boundary, no matter how much you love someone, but any privacy that will have a negative impact on each other's feelings would rather rot in the stomach than easily confide. There is an old saying: Words are unintentional, but listeners have hearts. In a relationship, a lot of bad things are made out of too many words, don't say things that shouldn't be, grow your heart for a long time, and manage your feelings in your comfort zone, which is the secret that men and women can be happy together. All girls must understand that love is not at the cost of their own privacy, and to love someone again, you must keep what you should keep.