At this moment, are you already on your way home?
Those netizens who have already arrived home have posted the changes with their families after returning home:
Why does our relationship with our families often evolve into "silent mode" or even "quarrel mode"?
In fact, this is a common pain point faced by Chinese families: in the matter of expressing love, they are either too subtle, do not perceive love, and are speechless; Either the words are hurtful, and the words that are obviously worried and considerate of the other party become blame when they come to the mouth.
Share three tricks to make your family relationship with your family soar during the Chinese New Year!
Good at discovering the details of love, learn to blow "rainbow fart" to your parents.
The subtle Chinese are not good at expressing love directly, never saying "I love you", but hiding care and warmth in silent details.
Maybe when I was a child, my mother's admonition, and a few short sentences on my parents' WeChat when I was working overtime, may be a few homely ...... when the family sits down and chats
These seemingly trivial things in life are actually the flow of love between family members.
As stated in this set of New Year posters.
The Chinese "I love you" has only a sentence that is accustomed to in the few romantic trivialities.
Go to bed early! ”
Eat on time! ”
Take care! ”
Day after day, why do you need new ideas, but it is the most confident mind. 」
After finding these details of love, output them to your parents through rainbow farts.
Mom, the food you cook is always delicious, better than what I ate in the restaurant before."
It's been broken for a year, but I didn't expect it to be repaired by our dad, it's really good."
If you feel embarrassed and embarrassed to say it in person, posting a love bag is a good choice.
Between family members, love should be in the heart.
Try "role substitution" to have more empathy.
Empathy refers to a way of communicating in the perspective and position of family members, empathizing with their roles and situations, understanding their feelings, and conveying this understanding to the person concerned.
To put it simply, it is "empathy, heart to heart".
A good family relationship must be a two-way journey between parents and children, composed of family affection, love and tolerance.
When I was a child, I felt like "wear more clothes, eat less snacks, and go to bed early......"The more verbose and boring these words and boredoms, the more you can understand how heartwarming the nagging is when you leave home when you grow up.
After being "beaten" by the society, we may have bulging purses, but our hairline is also high, and soaking wolfberries in a thermos cup has become the standard, and at the same time we have become the person who may be more nagging than our parents.
Mom, don't save too much" "Dad, drink less alcohol" "Have you eaten the nutritional products I bought for you" ......The roles of children and parents are "inverted", and we seem to understand our parents better and are more willing to care for them.
However, there are differences between parents and children in terms of thoughts, values, behaviors, attitudes towards life, interests, hobbies, etc., which can easily lead to communication barriers due to different concepts. But because blood is thicker than water, family members are most likely to indulge in emotional fermentation unscrupulously.
Many psychologists say that no matter how intimate a relationship is, it is also an independent individual. When a conflict occurs, perhaps it may be easier to empathize with appropriate empathy and more empathy.
This coincides with the concept of Tomson Beijian, a leading brand of dietary supplements in China. By-Health has always been committed to fulfilling the commitment and empathy of family and friends, understanding our original intention of caring for our family members, and our simple wish to hope that our family members will be healthy year after year. Therefore, the United Sound has continuously launched "Home Has Its Own Love, Love Has Its Own Voice" with audio**, which was recited by He Jiong and Teacher He, each one is full of a sense of story, which makes people feel warm.
Big things can be discussed, small things can be shared, and miscellaneous things can be shared, and this family can be happy and happy.
The secret to strengthening family bonds: Take the initiative to create a sense of ritual.
Life is inseparable from firewood, rice, oil and salt, but occasionally it also needs some poetic embellishments. And the sense of ritual is the high match of a home. And families without a sense of ritual often only remain silent and embarrassed.
The German scholar Singerhoff wrote in his book Why We Need Rituals:
In times of turmoil, rituals give people something to rely on.
A sense of ritual helps us deal with the dilemmas in life, awakens the beautiful emotions in our hearts, and is a harbor for the soul and a source of strength.
While you're on holiday, try these ways to create a sense of ritual and happiness with your family:
1) Prepare a Chinese New Year's Eve dinner together and let your parents taste your specialty dishes.
2) Take a look at your childhood ** with them and relive those good times.
3) Organize activities that the whole family can participate in, such as soaking in hot springs.
4) Take a family photo.
Humans are perceptual creatures and prefer to be near warmth.
Home and family, like a torch, although small and far-reaching. It is a beacon at the low point of our life, giving us an inexhaustible forward momentum in our life, and it has also become the strength for us to get out of all the dark valleys of life. When we grow up and start to be able to take care of our families, we might as well take care of their health and provide them with high-quality nutritional supplements to protect their health.
Lin Yutang once said that happiness is nothing more than four things: one is to sleep in his own bed, the second is to eat the meals cooked by his parents, the third is to chat with his lover about family life, and the fourth is to play games with his children.
The more I grew up, the more I felt: "Ji Ji's life is nothing but returning from the big world to the small table; I don't have to understand it when I hold my mother's hand again, but I cherish it more and more."
Give it a thumbs up, and may the new year be a year of family sitting, amiable lights, good health, peace and joy!