My brother and I ** again, the two of us repeating a topic: when will I go home?
Fifteen years ago, when I turned around alone, left my mother's family, and married my in-laws, who were more than 1,800 kilometers away. It's the time when you're at your youngest. I didn't think that distance would become an obstacle to my homecoming, and the north and south were not the reason why two people couldn't be together. As long as we work together! The days will be as logical as sowing seeds in spring and harvesting in autumn!
In the first year and the second year of marriage, I didn't go back to my parents' house because I gave birth to children and took care of children.
In the third year, when the child was more than two years old, he finally got on the green train, worked for more than 20 hours, and returned to Guangxi with the child and her husband.
On the way back, I met a woman who was married farther than me, and her family was from the countryside. She kept telling me along the way that her parents were angry that she married so far! I think she hasn't made any contribution to the family when she grows up, so she has become someone else's wife and has gone away! She said her family had a lot of farm work! I took my husband and children back during the Spring Festival this time, and I don't know how many years it will be after I go back to see my parents next time....
Because our family backgrounds are different after all, I really can't understand what she said, what her parents mean when she dislikes her for marrying far away and not contributing to the family...
After being away from home for three years, my mother naturally felt sorry for me. When I met someone, I said, "My daughter is back for the New Year!" I came back with my son-in-law and grandson! ”
If the seven aunts and eight aunts of that good thing look me up and down, they will say to my mother, "Huh..."I think! That northern rice does not support people! Look at the geese so thin! ”
My mother also looked at me with distressed eyes and said, "Yes!" It's just skinny! ”
Sometimes, I think of many women, in their parents' home, who are not valued by their parents. In the in-law's house, there is no sense of existence, the relationship between husband and wife is very flat, when it comes to this kind of New Year's holiday, everyone has their own place to go, and the married woman has nowhere to go! It was a kind of extreme loneliness in my heart!
If, ten years later, parents a hundred years! I don't have a mother's family anymore! After all, when I go back to my parents' house now, I also see my parents and walk around with my siblings. My parents are gone, and I don't even have a place to go back and stay!
Ten years later! I'm fifty years old, too!
The eldest son should already be working, and the younger son is also in college.
If I was lucky enough to be able to go back to my mother's house, I wouldn't be able to take the boys with me anymore.
In their lives, they are going to star independently.
Just like back then, their mother told all the family members with her back that I was determined to marry far away in the north!
I used to be held by my parents, and then I took off their hands, walked alone, and then held hands with my lover, we would hold two pairs of little hands and walk for a while, and then we were left alone to walk for a while, and life gathered and scattered.
The ultimate purpose of getting married is that when I get old, when the children go away and fly away, there is a bad old man who chatters with me about life.
Therefore, my mother's family will eventually be the home in my memory, and I will gradually drift away from a married girl like me...