The process of breaking the cycle of learned helplessness is risk-taking. There are two steps in total:
The first step is to get out of the old relationship;
The second step is to enter into a new relationship.
Coming out of an old relationship means that you have to realize that the bad feeling you have at the moment and not being loved is the fear that your parents once brought you, that early life that belonged to you. That time is over, and you need to say goodbye inwardly and tell yourself, I've grown up.
Once, I especially needed the recognition of my parents, especially their attention and love, without which I would not be able to live. So I had to accept their demands, threats, intimidation, denials, accusations. But now it's different, I'm older and I'm able to take care of myself. I decided to say goodbye to my family of origin when I was a child.
The second step is to enter a new relationship. I can experience love again from all the relationships I have now. Although sometimes I am not loved, now I am more loved than before. In my new relationship, I have more autonomy and more choices.
Maybe I still have a relationship with my parents, and they will still deny and blame me, but I am not the same as I was when I was a child. I was fully capable of refusing, resisting, and ignoring my parents' denial. They no longer have the means of my existence, and they no longer pose a threat to me. When I grow up, my relationship with my parents and my partner are all new relationships that are different from my previous parents.
This is where the beginning of getting out of compulsive repetition --- adventure in psychology