In today's humane society, inviting guests to dinner seems to be an indispensable process in social interaction, especially in the workplace, where promotions and salary increases, and requests for others will be put on the table.
However, not all meals are meaningful, and there are some people who are not worth continuing to socialize with, and it is just a waste of time at the dinner table, and it is difficult to gain value.
When people reach old age, if they want to be free and happy, they must learn to be content and happy, and do not participate in superfluous dinners, otherwise they will only make themselves tired.
However, many people are very lonely after retirement, and always want to visit relatives and friends, get together with relatives, friends and colleagues to fill the lonely life, but there are always some people who make themselves feel uncomfortable.
In fact, no matter how good the relationship with people is in old age, not all interpersonal relationships must be maintained, especially the following 6 types of people, try not to invite them to dinner, and the troubles will be gone!
When I was young, many people liked to make friends, and always thought that there were many ways to make friends, but friends were also divided into several kinds.
Those fox friends and dog friends, although they often eat and drink together, but these people do not regard you as a true friend, nor do they know how to exchange courtesies, but find ways to take advantage of you.
Every time at the wine table, they seem to talk a lot, but they can't give you any help and advice in life, and will only make your life a lot more expenses and troubles.
As soon as you need help, these people will immediately draw a line with you, and will not be sincere to you, let alone give you advice.
For these friends who drink and meat, people should not associate with them in their old age, and spending money to invite them to eat can only spend money in vain, and will not get any benefits.
On the contrary, eating and drinking too much will only hurt the body and mind, and once you find out that they are ungrateful, you will only be upset. Therefore, if you want to open up a little at this age, break off contact early, and don't maintain unnecessary relationships for the sake of so-called vanity.
When people reach old age, their children have already started a family, and it is difficult for them to stay with us for a long time, and it is inevitable that they will be a little lonely. At this time, if friends and relatives come to gather, everyone will naturally be warmly welcomed.
However, it is naturally good for relatives and friends to come to the door, but it also depends on their motivation for coming. If these people are asking about their children's work, they need to be especially careful about their intentions.
These people pay attention to the work of their children only to see how their children have achieved and whether they have inherited their own mantle. Once their children succeed in their careers, they will take the opportunity to strengthen their networks. Once the children's careers are mediocre, they will naturally not bother.
For this kind of person, there is no need to invite guests to dinner, just use various excuses not to entertain guests. If you invite them to dinner, it will only make them ask more questions, and your children will be in an awkward position, and they will be in trouble for the rest of the day.
In life, there are always some people who live a mess of their own lives, but they always like to speak ill of people behind their backs and slander others.
In front of you, they are very warm and generous, and they talk to you heart-to-heart. But when you turn your head, they spread your privacy in a way that adds insult to your name, speaks ill of you, and discredits you.
This kind of snobbish relatives, no matter how much you pay, they will not care, but always want to take advantage of you, grasp your shortcomings, and do not see their own problems. Getting along with this kind of person will only give rise to a lot of incidents, and once you find out his mistakes, he will make all kinds of insulting remarks, so that you can't get off the stage.
When people retire and their lives are dull, don't have too much contact with these people, even if they are your relatives, don't invite them to dinner and talk to them.
This is the case with his neighbor Lao Wang, who once had an awkward quarrel with his siblings over his parents' medical expenses and ignored each other over his parents' inheritance. After retiring, he thought about taking the initiative to invite his brothers and sisters to dinner and settle his old suspicions with them, but there was another conflict at the dinner table.
At this time, Lao Wang realized that if he wants to change a person's personality by inviting guests to dinner, it is wishful thinking, and it is useless to snobbish people no matter how much they pay, but they think that you are currying up to yourself, and they look down on you.
Therefore, for those snobbish relatives, people should not have too much contact in their old age, otherwise they will only make themselves tired.
Many people are in a high position at work, have made a lot of connections, and some relatives and friends will inevitably lend a helping hand when they come to help.
But after retirement, you should give yourself more space and freedom, stop worrying about the affairs of your children and relatives, and don't need to compete for fame and fortune.
If there are still many people who have something to ask for at this time, it is most likely because they want to use the network resources they have accumulated for many years to do things. At this time, we will only fall into a dilemma, after all, after retirement, we have already "gone to tea", even if we can still speak, but it is limited to one or two times, and more others will not give face.
And these people who have something to ask for, they know that this move will put them in trouble, but they still choose to come to the door for help, which shows that they put their personal interests first. For such people, there is no need to be polite, let alone invite them to dinner, otherwise they will think that you have promised to help with the errands.
You can make it clear that you are retired and you can't talk too much, so don't ask yourself for help. Only in this way will they not trouble themselves all the time and will not be dependent on themselves.
There are no two leaves in the world, and there are no two people who are the same, but many people come together because of the same three views, and become sincere friends with each other.
But there are also some people who do not agree with each other, but they often come into contact due to work, life and other reasons, but they often make awkward trouble because of the disagreement of the three views, in this case, the two people still try to keep their distance, don't stick together, you will not have friendship.
After people reach old age, life becomes more and more lonely and lonely, at this time when making friends, we must be more cautious, if we meet people who do not agree with the three views, we will only make ourselves upset, even if we often eat and talk with each other, it is difficult to have any results, but the money is wasted.
Especially in twilight love, when everyone chooses the other half, the main thing to look at is how the three views are, if the words are not speculative for more than half a sentence, even if the other party is good to themselves, no matter how rich they are, don't be together, otherwise there will always be various contradictions and differences in life in the future.
Instead of drifting apart, it is better to let go of each other now, don't get along with people who don't agree with each other, and your later life will be happy.
Many elderly people will still "retire" after retirement, and they can't worry about the affairs of the unit, so they will worry about the lives of their children and make suggestions for their children's future careers.
Many people pave the way for their children's future, and even invite high-ranking and powerful people to dinner, such as the leaders of the original units and old classmates who mix well.
But I don't know that when people retire, it will be difficult for others to sell back your face. Even if you are the leader of the original unit, it will be difficult for the current leader to buy your account after retirement.
Invite a powerful person to dinner, they will be very vigilant in their hearts, not knowing what your purpose is, whether you are simply talking to yourself or asking for something. In order to avoid suspicion, they usually withdraw from the dinner.
In fact, people don't worry about their children after retirement, children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, they will work hard through their own hands to make a new world, rather than for the future of their children to pull down their face and beg for others, give up their dignity and image, it is better to enjoy the happiness of life in old age.
People still have to live a purposeful life in their old age, plan for their future, don't go around for dinner in order to maintain superficial relationships, and don't force yourself to draw boundaries with irrelevant people as soon as possible, so that there will be no burden and trouble, and the rest of your life will be relaxed.