I'm Lili and I'm 59 years old. My first husband died when I was in my forties, and I was raising my children alone and living a very difficult life. Luckily, I was able to get through the difficult situation with the support of my mother's family.
When the child grew up, I met my current husband, Lao Liu, through the introduction of my sister-in-law. Lao Liu is a high school Chinese teacher with a dignified appearance and a humorous personality. After a month of dating, we formalized the relationship. We got married when I was fifty years old, and then I moved into his house. Since our respective children are adults, we have lived a loving and comfortable life for many years.
Lao Liu is 5 years older than me, and he has always treated me with a caring and considerate attitude since I got married. He was good at cooking, became a cook in the family, and said to me: "You are a woman, you should enjoy the happiness of being pampered by your husband, and I will take care of everything else, and you don't need to worry about it." ”
We spent 9 years of happiness, and it wasn't until this year that he was diagnosed with a serious physical problem, and our peaceful life was shattered.
At the beginning of this year, Lao Liu suddenly became inflexible in his hands and feet, and after a period of time, he became difficult to speak. Examination revealed that he had ruptured blood vessels and cerebral hemorrhage in his brain. I hurriedly checked him out and stayed with him day and night to take care of him.
Fortunately, the cerebral hemorrhage was discovered in time, and Lao Liu slowly underwent surgery. However, this illness made him psychologically fragile and his personality became poor.
During my stay in the hospital, due to my bad mood, Lao Liu often yelled at me, and I would get mad if I was not considerate enough to him. One of his most common sayings was: "You are not as good to me as I am to you, how good was I to you at home before I got sick, what about you?" Take care of me so carelessly, do you say you have no conscience? ”
I felt helpless about his complaint and tried to explain: "It's not convenient to do anything in the hospital, I take care of you wholeheartedly, you can't say such hurtful things." I can't eat or sleep well, I take care of you day and night, how much I have paid for you, can you understand, don't say this kind of thing again. ”
However, he didn't believe my explanations and still treated me badly, often saying hurtful things that made me feel exhausted. Even more disappointing was his aloof attitude.
After getting sick, he became worried that I would be upset with him, snub him, and try to harm him, so he was wary of me financially. He first summoned his son, said in front of me at the hospital that he wanted to transfer the property to his son, and quietly handed over the key to the safe in the house to his son.
All this pierced my heart deeply, and I realized that the affection for these 9 years seemed to be only superficial and conditional. After 9 years of pampering, now he is sick and I have to take care of him wholeheartedly without getting anything in return. What pains me even more is that I cannot covet any of his possessions, because everything will belong to his son. The 9-year relationship could not be exchanged for the right to live in the property.
After understanding all this, I made up my mind to end this marriage and return to my daughter. I told my daughter what had happened to me, and she supported me in divorcing Lao Liu and returning to her life with her son-in-law. With the support of my daughter, on the first day Lao Liu was discharged from the hospital and returned home, I filed for divorce.
When Lao Liu heard that I filed for divorce, he angrily denounced me as a "white-eyed wolf", and I responded firmly: "Who is the white-eyed wolf?" Who arranges the property as soon as I get sick, for fear that I will get a little benefit? Tell you, I'm not going to serve anymore! Are you the only one who has been paying for the past 9 years? ”
For so many years, who has done the housework except for cooking a few meals? I'm in charge of everything else. Relationships are what I'm dealing with. I was the doctor I took you to when you were sick. Would you be where you are today without me? ”
After saying this, he completely quieted down and finally agreed to the divorce. After completing the divorce, I left the house with only one suitcase, and despite the loss of my property, at least I was free! No more being hurt by that hypocritical man.
A year after the divorce, I have been living near my daughter and son-in-law's house, and they helped me open a small fruit shop on the street outside the community, and the business is good. Now, I live a full and free life, and I no longer have the attachment to the man who hurt me.