Why do we want to get married? Perhaps, for most people, marriage symbolizes a vow and a companionship. It represents the beautiful hope of supporting each other and spending a lifetime together. With this expectation in mind, we stepped into marriage without hesitation, hoping that someone would walk with us through the ups and downs of life and get rid of loneliness and loneliness.
However, people who are truly integrated into a marriage often find that living together is not as simple as it seems. Many marriages gradually lose their original intentions, and the relationship is smoothed out by the years, and eventually evolves into a state of getting tired of each other, and even comes to the verge of divorce. So, what causes couples to not be able to spend their lives together? Commonly, there are four types of couples who come to this end.
First of all, those couples who love to take care of themselves. They often embody their calculations in money in their daily lives. Once there is a conflict or disagreement, they will use their past efforts as an argument, spare no effort to show the other party the sacrifices and sacrifices they have made for the other party and their families, and even cite specific figures to prove it. This kind of husband and wife will be careful about daily expenses, and have a critical attitude towards their spouse's consumption, but they are generous to themselves and their families, which makes the other party feel extremely aggrieved and dissatisfied.
The second is those couples who love the cold war. Although the Cold War seemed to alleviate the contradictions, it did not solve any problems. The cold war between husband and wife will only exacerbate the estrangement between each other and even lead to the interruption of dialogue between the two parties. A moderate amount of calm can help both spouses calm down, but a prolonged cold war will only further deteriorate the relationship and make communication with each other more difficult.
The third type is those couples who pretend to be intimate. They appear to have a good relationship on the surface, but in reality they are in a state of barely making ends meet. They may choose to continue their marriage for the sake of children or other reasons, but in private they have little communication and care, and they are like strangers. This kind of harmony on the surface is only for the perception of the outside world, but the heart is full of loneliness and depression, and such a marriage is destined to be unstable.
The last type is those who neglect the relationship between husband and wife. The emotional connection between couples is an integral part of marriage, and ignoring this often leads to problems. The long-term lack of intimacy between husband and wife can affect the self-esteem of both spouses and even lead one of the spouses to seek external satisfaction, exacerbating the conflict between husband and wife.
All four of these conjugal states mean that there is something seriously wrong in the marriage. However, even in the face of such a dilemma, the marriage is not without the possibility of saving.
For example, for the problem of cold war between husband and wife, the key is to learn the appropriate communication method to avoid the occurrence of conflict by adjusting the communication method. There are also solutions for other types of problems. The key is for both husband and wife to work together to understand and tolerate each other in order to rebuild trust and affection for each other. If you want to know more about the workaround, please DM me and I will give you more detailed advice.
Overall, marriage is a journey that requires both parties to work together, and only when the husband and wife work together to face problems together can they go further and be stronger.