Life is like a dream, and a bottle is still a river. This is a famous sentence of the Tang Dynasty poet Li Bai in "Short Song Xing", expressing the feeling that life is too short and should be happy in time. For many older people, their old age is not as beautiful as the poem depicts, but full of sorrow and pain. Their grief often comes from living under the same roof with three types of relatives: lovers, children, and siblings.
Lovers, who should be the closest companions, spend the wind and rain together, hand in hand. However, the lovers of some elderly people have become like enemies, quarreling constantly, and they can't get along. Their marriage has lost its initial sweetness and warmth, and only indifference and boredom remain. Their quarrels not only affect their own mood and health, but also affect the growth and happiness of their children and grandchildren. William Shakespeare once said, "Love is a beautiful flower, but you must have the courage to pluck it." In the same way, love is also a flower that needs to be carefully cared for, if you don't know how to cherish and tolerate, it will wither and wither. Therefore, between lovers, learn to communicate and understand, don't let love turn into hatred, don't let marriage become a cage.
Children, who should be the dearest descendants, inherit the bloodline and continue the incense. However, the children of some elderly people are unable to be independent and have become "gnawing the elderly", which brings a heavy burden to their parents. Their children do not want to work and start a business, they only want to spend their parents' money, enjoy their parents' pensions, and even ask their parents for real estate and property. Their children do not know how to be filial and grateful, they will only complain and complain, and even violence and insult their parents. Their children not only deprive their parents of the opportunity to enjoy their old age, but also make them lose their trust and expectations for their children. Hunan's "gnawing old king" Xiong Li is a typical example. She is in her 40s, but she still lives in her parents' house, does not work or marry, only knows how to eat, drink and have fun every day, and often beats and scolds her old mother. Her behavior has attracted widespread attention and condemnation from society, and has also caused her parents to suffer and suffer. Therefore, parents should let their children learn to be independent, not overly spoiled, and teach their children to be responsible and responsible, to respect and honor their parents, and to be responsible for their own lives.
Brothers and sisters, who are supposed to be the closest siblings, are born from the same root and share weal and woe. However, some brothers and sisters of the elderly only know how to ask and do not know how to give, which has become a burden and trouble for them. Their siblings are unwilling to share the responsibilities and obligations of the family, and only think about taking advantage of their parents and competing for their parents' property and inheritance. Their brothers and sisters, who do not know how to respect and understand, will only quarrel and fall out, and even resort to law and violence. Their siblings not only made their parents sad and disappointed, but also made them lose their family and friendship. Zhao Meilan and her younger brother in the TV series "It's All Good" are a vivid example. Zhao Meilan is a successful professional woman, but her younger brother is an unemployed vagrant, often borrowing money from her and not paying it back, and thinking about sharing her house and car. The conflict between them caused their father to suffer a stroke and also broke their mother's heart. Therefore, brothers and sisters should keep their distance, do not interfere with each other, respect and support, do not fight and hurt, maintain and promote, and do not destroy and separate.
When people are old, the greatest sorrow is to live under the same roof with these three kinds of relatives. These three kinds of relatives, which should be their greatest happiness and support, have become their greatest worries and burdens. Their old age, which was supposed to be their best time, turned into their most painful years. Bacon once said: "A man's life should be spent like this: when he is young, he exchanges his health for wealth; When he is old, he trades his wealth for health. In the same way, a person's life should also be spent like this: when he is young, he exchanges love for family affection; When he is old, he exchanges family affection for love. Everyone should focus on themselves, manage their own lives, and don't let the existence of others affect their own happiness. Everyone should cherish their loved ones and not let their actions hurt their feelings. Everyone should enjoy their old age and not let their sorrow ruin their beauty.