Life is like a river with twists and turns, and we are adrift in this river, experiencing various landscapes and encounters. At some point in our lives, we will meet people who may be "calamity" that we cannot foresee or avoid. Especially when people reach middle age, the appearance of some people makes people sigh at the arrangement of fate.
Among them, friends who are different from the inside and outside and relatives who hate the poor and love the rich are two kinds of "calamities" that are difficult to deal with. These two kinds of people, they appear in our lives in various ways and bring us endless troubles and pains.
1. Friends who are not the same.
When people reach middle age, the circle of friends around them has gradually settled. At this time, we will find some friends who are friendly on the surface, but in fact have different hearts. They seem to care about you on the surface, but in fact they often slander you and calculate you behind your back. Their words and actions are often confusing and frustrating, because you can never know what is really going on in their hearts.
With such friends, one needs to be vigilant at all times so as not to be taken advantage of by them. However, if we care too much about their words and deeds, and even affect our emotions and lives because of this, it will be more than worth the loss. Therefore, in the face of this "catastrophe", we need to keep a clear head and firm faith, and not be easily swayed by their words.
2. Relatives who hate the poor and love the rich.
In addition to friends who are different from the inside and the outside, there is also a kind of person who is also an unavoidable "catastrophe" in middle age, that is, relatives who hate the poor and love the rich. Such relatives will often show resentment and contempt for you in various ways because they think you are not doing as well as they or that you are not living up to the standards they have in mind for success.
Getting along with such relatives requires constant calmness and sanity. Don't feel inferior or angry because of their words. At the same time, we also need to be firm in our beliefs and pursuits, and not change our life trajectory because of their evaluation. After all, life is your own, not someone else's. We need to live our lives on our own terms and pursue our dreams and goals.
In the face of these two "catastrophes", we need to learn how to deal with and resolve them. First of all, we need to keep a clear head and the ability to think independently, and not be easily swayed by other people's words. Secondly, we need to learn how to deal with interpersonal relationships, be kind and honest with others. Finally, we need to be firm in our beliefs and pursuits, and not change our life trajectory because of other people's evaluations.