My child is slow to do his homework. He does it every day at eleven or twelve o'clock. What if he sleeps too late? "
As soon as my son finished his homework, he found something and went to the bathroom. If he could finish his homework in half an hour, he would have to wait an hour. He doesn't listen to anything. ”
For parents, the biggest headache is their children's homework.
Either way, the kids don't do it themselves. Don't worry, kids can't do it anyway.
Procrastination is a common problem for almost all children, and it can be called the biggest stumbling block in the learning process for parents.
How to properly solve the problem of children doing homework late, first of all, we must find the reason why he is late in doing homework.
1. Do not actively do homework.
Xiao An is usually very obedient, but she doesn't like to study. She had to push her to do her homework again and again every day.
Sitting at a desk for an hour or two, but basically in a daze, sleepy, or playing with pencils and erasers.
Ann's mom was also sad. If she wasn't in a hurry herself, her daughter wouldn't have taken the initiative to write the letter.
This happens because children don't see learning as "their own thing".
Even though parents and teachers emphasize thousands of times to their children that learning is their own business and homework can only be done on their own, in practice, parents often treat it as their own.
When the child is doing his homework, he talks about "writing faster", "don't grind" and "this question is wrong".
The child is going to bed and has not finished his homework. He rebuked loudly: "What did you do when you did your homework? You can't do it without looking at it for a while! ”
If parents intervene too much, children will feel that learning is for their parents and homework is for their parents.
If you want your child to take the initiative to learn, you must first make him the master of learning.
Parents should not cross the line, but leave time and space for their children to control, so that children can learn to learn independently and work consciously.
2. Lack of concentration when doing homework.
Every time the teacher asked Qiqi's mother to speak, it was because of Qiqi's homework.
The teacher said that Qiqi was a girl and that her homework should be written carefully and neatly, but every time she corrected Qiqi's homework, she found that there were many mistakes and omissions. Sometimes she turned in her math homework as a language homework.
Qiqi was too careless in her homework, which affected her grades. ”
If you don't concentrate on your homework, you will also slow down the efficiency of your homework.
To cultivate the habit of concentrating in a child, we should first give him a relatively quiet environment and complete school supplies.
If the child cannot calm down, repeated coercion or urging by parents will only backfire.
Children learn in a quiet environment that is not easily disturbed and can fully participate in homework and learning.
In order to avoid him making excuses to be lazy, it is best to prepare various study tools before he does his homework, so that he can study smoothly and calm down.
The quality of attention needs to be cultivated from an early age. When a child is very young, we should give him this quality.
3. Pursue the perfection of homework.
Maizi is 8 and a half years old. He is a bit impatient and strives for perfection in his studies.
For example, the day's notes must be recorded in a notebook. If the job is a bit disappointing, it must be deleted and rewritten.
Sometimes I cry because I haven't changed much. No matter how much my parents tried to coax me, I couldn't stop crying.
Because of this, her homework was slow and her grades did not improve.
These kids are serious, but if they don't do it right, they waste their time in vain.
For such a child who has a certain degree of "obsessive-compulsive disorder" in learning, parents can no longer demand perfection from the child and let him obey his own requirements unconditionally.
This should be done:
Respect children's wishes and allow them to learn in their own way.
Encourage your child to do his or her best, everything is hard to be perfect.
Communicate with your child in a timely manner to eliminate their inner anxiety, guilt, and anxiety.
4. Unable to think independently.
When Jia's parents found out that their son was doing his homework, they asked them if there was anything they couldn't do:
Dad, what should I do about this problem? ”
Mom, today's math homework is too hard for me to do. ”
But in fact, the topic is not difficult. Jia Rong only needs to combine the knowledge taught by the teacher in class and think with his brain, and he can do it himself.
When you have a problem, you simply don't know how to think instead of immediately asking your parents for help.
When confronted with more difficult problems, children who can't think for themselves get stuck or don't think at all.
In fact, it's not that children really can't, but they are lazy to think and learn.
It is useless to learn without thinking". When guiding their children to learn, parents should let them develop the habit of thinking while learning.
Don't tell your child the answer directly, but lead him to think. For example, write down all the conditions of the topic on scratch paper and ask the child to find out the relevance and ideas, and then rely on their own strength to find the answers.
Children who can think grow faster in their learning. It is very important to develop students' logical thinking skills and problem-solving skills.
5. Child rebellion.
Junjie is very stubborn, especially when doing homework, and often makes his parents angry.
His parents didn't allow him to play with his phone, so he held it and always procrastinated on his homework.
His parents ordered him to do his homework immediately. When he didn't hear it, he ran back to his room and continued playing the game.
This resistance may stem from the wrong education of parents.
In fact, children will not resist doing homework, but they will hate studying because of their parents' attitude.
There are two things that parents must avoid:
First, directing and coercing children with a very strict attitude.
Second, he always explains big things to children, which makes children disgusted.
To educate a 6-12 year old, parents need to have good "empathy" skills.
After all, there is a 20-30 year difference between parents and children. A generation later, they can't treat their children with their own ideas.
Those children who are visibly rebellious do not hate studying, but they do not like the attitude of their parents towards them.
If parents repeatedly order and force their children, they close the door of communication and push their children further and further.
When your child doesn't want to do homework, don't rush to blame him, but let him stabilize his emotions first, say why he doesn't want to do it, and then coax him to understand that learning is his own business.
6. Unable to manage time.
After Ning came home from school, his mother asked him to rest for half an hour, but after half an hour passed, he begged his mother to give him another half hour so that he could watch this episode of the cartoon.
Although she played for more than an hour, Ning Ning was still very slow to do her homework, and she dragged on until late every day.
Especially during the holidays, there is a lot of time every day, but it just so happens that I didn't start doing my homework until the beginning of the school year.
At the end of the day, this unconscious child is unable to manage time.
If you want your child to be the master of their time, you should let your child organize their own time.
It is necessary to develop an effective sense of time. No matter what you do, you can't linger and you should do your best as fast as you can.
The sooner parents guide their children to learn how to manage their time and adjust their own learning methods, the stronger their children's learning advantages will be.
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