The Chinese New Year is over, and everyone is looking forward to "prosperous people, prosperous families, and prosperous careers".
But how can we be thriving? It's not as simple as a sentence, and it takes a lot of practical action.
The ancestor left a word"One doesn't do it, two doesn't stop, and three doesn't monkeys." ”
During this period of the Chinese New Year, if you and I can understand the deep meaning of the old saying and do it, then at the beginning, we will have a good mood, and we will be one step ahead, and the signs of prosperity will appear.
Don't do it: be practical.
When it comes to the Chinese New Year, we have a lot to do. Visit relatives and friends, buy New Year's goods, change new clothes, paste couplets, parties, etc.
Doing things is the embodiment of hard work, but there are some things that cannot be done, and once they are done, they will lift a stone and shoot themselves in the foot.
Doing things selectively and refraining from some meaningless things is self-discipline and habit.
People who really have brains, don't do face-saving things, and buy on demand.
The painter Qi Baishi said: "Mo envy the peony is rich and noble, but the loss of pears and oranges is sweet." ”Don't look at the peony, which is very popular, it is not as sweet as pears and citrus. What's more, for ordinary people, pears and citrus are more affordable and can be managed for food and clothing.
Too fancy clothes and pants, ** very high, strange New Year's goods, are like peonies, attractive, but not very useful.
If you don't have a lot of money, you have to put an end to extravagance. You are very rich, and you also need to have a purchasing plan, which can be different from usual, but don't die to save face.
After a hard year, I finally have a little savings, and if I spend it all in the New Year, isn't it sorry for my hard work?
Only by living more than every year can you make yourself steady. The pressure to make money in the coming year will not be so great.
Two endless: progress.
The New Year's holiday is definitely for rest.
But have you ever thought that a good life is a combination of work and rest, not lying still.
For positive people, you can also take advantage of the holidays to continue to add value to yourself.
Keep learning and give yourself energy.
In the "Gan Family Motto", it is written: "Young and scholarly, like the light of the sunrise; Old and scholarly, such as candles and night walks. ”People of any age need to read books to avoid being eliminated by the times.
When you're resting at home, don't keep staring at your phone, try to read a few books, or even learn a small skill, or improve your skills.
You have to look at your mobile phone, and you also read more instructive articles, with wisdom**, not garbage**. Laughing and laughing all day, looking back and thinking about it, the fragmented information, put down the phone, and forgot it all.
As a child, it is even more important to study, and next semester, surprise your classmates and let the teachers see your progress. The Chinese New Year can make people reborn.
Seeking a career endlessly, the plan of the year lies in the spring.
As a post-70s generation, I lived in the countryside when I was a child.
During the Chinese New Year, as long as there were no guests at home, my father would go to the fields to have a look, and he would also pick some farm manure into the fields and pile it up.
My mother would also go to the vegetable garden to observe the changes in the vegetable field and see what should be planted when the spring breeze comes. My mother used to say, "Vegetables have to be early to have a good price." ”
Now, most of us don't farm anymore, but we should have a concept of solar terms and seasons. If you want to work in the city, you must also hurry up and strive to stand on the cusp.
There is a one-year arrangement during the Chinese New Year, and after the holiday, you can quickly enter the state and push your career forward.
Rest is to improve yourself, don't let yourself be lazy and regressive, let alone decadent, too lazy to go to work and don't know how to start the new year.
Three no monkeys: etiquette.
Confucius was a teacher who insisted on etiquette.
He asked the people around him: "I want to establish people, and I want to reach people." ”
If you fix yourself, you will soon be able to establish an image and be able to prosper.
How? Confucius made three demands"Don't look at indecent things, don't say indecent things, don't listen to indecent people." ”
According to the request made by Confucius, later generations carved three monkeys: one monkey blindfolded, one monkey covered mouth, and one monkey covered ears.
Keep monkey crafts at home and you can warn yourself at any time. This is the "three no monkeys".
According to the actual situation, we can't completely cover the ears, eyes, and mouth, but we can reduce the frequency of use. During the Chinese New Year, you should pay attention to three points of etiquette and get along with relatives and friends warmly.
Look less at the shortcomings of others and look at the strengths of others.
Everyone gets together, and people are close to each other, so the shortcomings are exposed.
For example, the child's grades in the last semester, the work of the adult this year, the relationship between siblings, the expenses of filial piety to parents, etc.
Everyone has something they do wrong. Even if others do a good job, it won't satisfy you.
Once you stare at the shortcomings, your eyes will not be good, and there will be internal friction when you open your mouth.
Wei Yuan wrote in "The Silent Rule":"Discipline the body with small lines, and don't take people by small lines. ”
Ask for something in the subtleties, but don't look for the flaws in others. On a beautiful face, you will also find rouge powder, spots, etc.
Look at the advantages of people, you can see that anyone will be pleasing to the eye, and it will be much easier to get along.
Don't talk about the ugly things in the family, and have a good heart.
Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read. Everyone's family is not good-looking, and there are ugly things.
When you complain about your home, you are degrading your family and making relatives and friends see jokes; If you dig up other people's ugly things, you must offend people.
Think about the beauty of the family, and when you chat, you know to appreciate the family. It is more conducive to the harmony of the family.
Listen less to unlucky words and laugh it off.
Some say blessings, some are sarcastic, some are drunk, and talk nonsense.
You can't control people's mouths, but you can control your ears.
But if you say anything unlucky, don't care, don't refute it. If you smile, the other person will definitely be embarrassed.
"Zhou Yi" said: "Harmony is auspicious, and obedience is temperamental." ”The key to prospering oneself is to live a peaceful life and maintain an upward spirit.
what to do, what not to do; What to say, not to say; what to listen to, what not to listen to; What to rest, what to work. We must be aware of it and make steady progress.
Busy but not chaotic, relaxed and not laissez-faire, always make us ready to go.
In the New Year, I have more energy, a stronger human touch, and a more self-disciplined life, and the beginning is a sprint.
Finally, I wish you all good luck and happiness.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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