Wen Xinxi.
Most of a woman's life is: before the age of 20, before the age of 20, in the society, 20 25 years old, after the age of 25 will choose a partner to form a "new home". The lucky ones who are spoiled by God can be entrusted with a motivated and responsible man for life, and the unlucky ones will have to go through twists and turns, and they may not be able to stay together for a lifetime.
Qian Zhongshu said in "The Siege of the City":"Marriage is a besieged city, and those outside the city want to go in, and those who are in the city want to come out. ”
Women are often easily carried away by love, and when they reach the age of marriage, they will squeeze into it with all their hearts, and it is human nature to desire to "love and be loved". And how to deal with the various relationships that need to be faced after marriage is a broad and profound knowledge.
A really smart and powerful woman, no matter what her relationship with her in-laws and husband is after marriage, will use her mother's family as her hole card.
True Story 1:] My cousin is a top student, she is honest and kind. After graduating, she had a stable job as a civil servant, and her family spoke very well of her.
After getting married, my cousin did not seize the economic power of the family, and used her own salary to supplement the family, and she never asked much about her husband's money. Relatives persuaded her many times to save the money she earned, but each time she answered beautifully, and then turned around because her salary was not enough for the family, and she lived a frugal life.
For her, her husband's parents are the closest people to her, and it is not easy to understand her in-laws, which is the performance of a good daughter-in-law, but she ignores the hardships of her parents. Since she had a child, she asked her mother to quit her job to help her take care of the child, saying that her mother-in-law needed to make money, because her husband still had a younger brother at home who needed to go to school, and the younger brother would have a lot of money in the future, so it was not convenient to take care of the child.
When my mother got over there, she paid out of her own pocket from time to time to help buy groceries, as well as snacks and toys for her little grandson. Until the baby reached the age of junior high school, my cousin's mother was too old, so she did some small work outside and wanted to save some pension money for herself.
One day, my mother suddenly fell ill and needed 100,000 yuan for surgery, and her son's conditions were limited, so she called ** to her sister and wanted to ask her sister to borrow some money.
Under the urging of his younger brother many times, his brother-in-law called ** and said: "Borrow 20,000 or 30,000 yuan, the family doesn't have so much money, but you can give you 2,000 yuan, you don't have to pay it back..." The younger brother was very angry, maybe every family has its own difficulties, he didn't ask his sister half a word.
True Story 2 ] Su Qian is a kind and simple post-90s girl, she likes a plain and simple lifestyle, and chose Xiao Zhong, who has very ordinary economic conditions, to get married and have children. The parents did not approve of this family business, but the raw rice had already been cooked into cooked rice, and they had nothing to do.
Since marrying her husband, Su Qian has always been frugal, because she knows that the family conditions are not so rich, and she hopes to run the family more prosperous with her husband.
After three years of hard work by the two couples, the two bought a house in a big city. Su Qian always wants to be filial to her parents, but she buys things for the two elders in the name of her husband, and she always plays that bad role in her own home.
She said: I am my parents' own daughter, no matter how bad I am, I am also their biological child, let my husband be a good son-in-law, this is also a way to mediate conflicts. For example, I gave a pair of good wine to my father during the Chinese New Year, and my father was very distressed and said, "Why are you so expensive, isn't the wine all the same taste?" Actually, Dad liked it very much, and he just said something "duplicity" to express his affection. Su Qian hurriedly replied: No way, your son-in-law must buy this for you, I can't make sense, he bought it with private money without telling me. In fact, this was discussed and bought by the two together, and Su Qian had to say that she was slamming the door with her father.
Because of the perennial use of similar methods, although her husband is a little unbeautiful, Su Qian's parents are more and more satisfied with this son-in-law, and the original resistance can no longer be seen. Maybe they are also glad for Su Qian in their hearts, marriage is a gamble, and my daughter seems to have made the right bet.
It is said that "the daughter who marries out, spills the water"! As a woman, we should take this as a sarcastic remark. No matter how a woman marries, her mother's family is always our closest home, and her parents are always our closest parents.
The blood relationship can never be broken, our parents have given birth to us for more than 20 years, how can we say that we can break it, let alone end the mother-daughter relationship because of the intervention of another person.
1. Although a woman is married and has her own small family, she still has to focus on her mother's family, when you have filial piety to your parents, your children will be imperceptibly influenced by you, and learn how to be filial. 2. When you regard your mother's family as important enough, your husband knows more about the need to respect your parents, and if you don't pay attention to your parents, how can he take it to heart. 3. When you take your mother's family as the point of attention, your mother's relatives will become your solid backing, and the more favorable your mother's conditions, the more your husband's family will look up to your mother's family, and will treat you as a treasure. The mother's family is the woman's dependence and the confidence in the life of the mother-in-law's family. 
A woman's home will always be in her own mother's home, and her mother's home is the real home of our women, at least during the healthy years of your parents, at least before your children are formed.
What you have in the past is more important than the future! The husband is not necessarily the one who will spend the rest of our lives with us, but the people who accompany us for half of our lives are our parents.
Mother-in-law and mother-in-law are both the greatest women of the two worlds, each with their own characteristics and charms. Their differences, like delicate tea and rich coffee, each exude a unique aroma.
If you want to grasp the 'degree' well, you can grasp the 'degree' in the relationship, I think your personality will not be bad, your life will not be bad, and your happiness will not be bad. I hope that every one of us women can train to be wise people.
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