Adolescence is one of the most critical stages in life. During this period, children not only develop rapidly physically, but also undergo earth-shaking changes psychologically. Among them, the rebellious period is a challenge faced by both parents and children. How to correctly educate adolescents during the rebellious period is a problem that every parent needs to seriously think about and deal with.
Let's start with a true story. My third aunt's cousin, in the third year of junior high school, suddenly began to show signs of boredom with school. Children who were once well-behaved and sensible become reluctant to go to school, pretend to be sick, skip school, fight, and even have a tendency to self-harm.
This left the family anxious and helpless. In the face of children's rebellious behavior, parents often fall into a predicament, do not know how to deal with it, if purely by yelling at the child or strict discipline, it is basically in vain, and the child is even more disgusted, I came over like this, until a few months ago, inGaotu beautiful familyAfter studying for a period of time, I learned too much with Mr. Song Li, at first because after the junior high school, the child's learning was originally in the middle, but after the junior high school, geography and biology were added, the child was very hard at the beginning, but in the second half of the year, the opportunity was very backward, and even he was rotten and did not study!
The family was also very anxious, but they couldn't control their emotions, which caused the smell of gunpowder at home to be particularly strong during that time, basically blowing up at one point, and the child was becoming more and more rebellious. Ask the teacher for help, the teacher let the science guide, recommended the Gaotu beautiful family, the first half of the second year of junior high school, basically we stabilized, the child also realized the value of learning, caught up, and the atmosphere at home was also good, so it is worth learning.
I believe that many parents know Gaotu, the guidance of U.S. listed companies, and family education is very professionalI highly recommend parents to listen to their trial lesson:
For a symbolic payment of 1 yuan, you can experience a 4-day parent-child education course and receive a large number of family education electronic materials!
A Tsinghua principal gave a piece of advice: taking children to three places is more effective than beating and scolding. The three places are the airport, the train station, and the countryside. At the airport, children will witness different levels of service and life; At the train station, they will see migrant workers from all walks of life and experience the hardships of life; And in the countryside, they will see people struggling to make ends meet, and deeply understand the bitterness of not studying. Through these field observations, children will have a deeper understanding of the importance of learning and understand that if they do not suffer from reading, they will have to endure the hardships of life.
However, in addition to guiding children to go out and observe society, we also need to understand the internal characteristics of the rebellious period of adolescents. Adolescence is a critical period for children's physical and mental development, and their brains undergo drastic changes.
About 100 billion nerve cells mature at this stage, causing children to react faster, but at the same time have a weaker ability to control emotions and are prone to "moodiness". In addition, adolescence is also known as the "psychological weaning period", when children are more focused on self-attention, reluctant to rely on their parents anymore, and more inclined to express their thoughts, which is one of the reasons why they often exhibit rebellious behavior.
Guide your child through the rebellious period correctlyIt not only requires the patience and understanding of parents, but also needs to communicate and communicate effectively with children. You can't just solve the problem by scolding or using strong measures, but think about the problem from the child's point of view, respect their thoughts and feelings, and establish a good relationship of trust with them. When confronted with children's rebellious behavior, we should adopt an open communication style, listen to children's voices, understand their needs and confusions, and give appropriate support and guidance.
In addition to communicating with children, we can also stimulate children's motivation to learn by nurturing their interests and hobbies. Adolescence is a time of curiosity about the world, a desire to explore the unknown, freedom and independence. Therefore, parents can encourage their children to participate in various extracurricular activities, such as science and technology museums, university open days, hospital visits, etc., so that they can experience the application of technology in real life and spark their interest and enthusiasm for learning.
Parents should always pay attention to their children's physical and mental health during the rebellious period of education, and give them enough care and support. When children are rebellious, parents often feel anxious and helpless, but we cannot give up on guiding and educating our children.