The poet Jiao Yelu once wrote: "In the new year, no matter how outrageous my life is, I have to sing loudly; No matter how absurd the situation is, I will plant flowers and vegetables and fruits. ”In the new year, even if you still have to sew and mend on the day, please put in the needle while humming a little song. After all, you can't decide whether the road will be smooth or not, but you have the final say on how to go about it. 
About making friends: It's good to have friends who never leave you, but if you don't, please live a good life. I don't know if you have noticed, when I was a child, I always had a large group of friends get together to play. It doesn't seem to be necessary to get together, a call from downstairs, or a simple **, everyone arrives giggling. Everyone has time, and everyone doesn't talk about money. The happiness at that time was very pure, so pure that I couldn't find a reason to be happy, I only knew giggles. But as I grew up, I had fewer and fewer friends, and I went all the way apart, and in the end there may only be one or two people left. And these two people sometimes carry the emotions in their own lives. Sometimes they will say to each other, cold war for a few days, and then slowly reconcile, or never see each other again. Perhaps, this is the inevitability of a person's growth, friends are slowly separated, in the words of writer Liu Tong, friends are used to break friendship. In a long life where you don't know where you're going, it's not easy to have a friend who can always understand your joys, sorrows, and emotions. Because, you have to bear the erosion of the passing years, you have to withstand the influence of your different environments, and you have to withstand the test of loneliness. To keep living in different spaces with a common topic, to keep each of them growing up about the same frequency. In short, after screening all the way, there is also a friend who "comes when you recruit and goes when you call", which is definitely an extraordinary existence in ordinary life. Of course, if you're the only one left in the end, there's nothing wrong with that. You don't have to waste your emotions, energy, and time on other people, because those are the people you can't communicate with. Read your own books, take your own walks, enjoy your own flowers, drink your own tea, the sun rises in the east and sets in the west, and the days are quiet and beautiful. Very good. About work: It's not necessarily good to have a hobby as a job, but if a job isn't a hobby, it's good to treat it as a job. Many people envy people who can support themselves with love. For example, singers, dancers, painters, writers. At first, singing, dancing, drawing, and writing may have been just a hobby for them. Later, this hobby was fortunate to become a career, turning the work of mixing rice and eating again and again into a career that I was willing to fight for for a lifetime. It was really good at first, and I even felt that it was a kind of enjoyment, and I could get paid while doing what I loved. But a netizen said that I like children very much, and my heart melted when I saw a group of little beans, but it doesn't mean that I want to be a kindergarten teacher and take care of their eating, drinking, and Lazar. I see children trying to turn around and run away now. There is also a self-** author who said that he used to experience joys, sorrows, and sorrows, and liked to record them, and it was a beautiful thing to be able to fully express himself, but now that he has become an author, when he has to write every day, his brain is dry. In any case, work is always worldly, linked to money, and linked to benefits, which determines whether you have to eat Western food at the last meal and eat roadside stalls at the next meal. But hobbies have an aura, they are beautiful, and they have a hazy veil. Until this veil is ruthlessly lifted by the big hand of the work, and the charm is removed, you will feel "nothing more than that". Whether your job has always been a means of survival or a hobby that you were happy with, take it with a calm mind. People who live seriously will take everything seriously. People who live seriously will be taken seriously by life. What you perfunctory will definitely perfunctory you, whether it is a person or a thing. And work is the thing that you can't perfunctory no matter what. If you can't get interested in it all the time, then just treat it as a job, and use a point of hard work in exchange for a point of return. 
About self-treatment: People live a lifetime, no matter what they go through, they are ultimately getting along with themselves. Loving yourself is king. Social** often teaches us how to be human. Be self-disciplined, go to bed early and wake up early, stay close to endorphins, and stay away from dopamine. You must be able to manage your emotions and stay away from the bad people and things around you in a chic way. ......Social** is right, everything is for our good. It's like our parents, who are bitter and bitter. But after really doing this, are you tired? It must be tiring! We always try to put ourselves on an assembly line that produces excellent products, but we forget that we are living people, not pinched clay figures. In the new year, we need to live a little less standardized, less correct, and even less meaningful. For example, dopamine and endorphins, which are mentioned again and again. People talk about dopamine like a monster and think it's going to destroy our spirits, our lives. Endorphins are a god and Buddha, it is the source of strength, and it will definitely lead us to a more beautiful and better world. In fact, dopamine and endorphins are both hormones in the body that provide us with pleasure. Is happiness high and low and cheap? Not divided. It's just that they make us happy in different ways, but both of these are what we need, and there's no need to oppose them. In the process of growing up, we need both immediate relaxation and contentment, as well as a deep flow of well-being. Psychological counselor Zeng Qifeng once mentioned his personal experience. He lectured for a day during the day and felt that his head was a little painful. After walking for a while, you will enter a restaurant that sells roast duck. When he put the fat skin of the roast duck into his mouth, he bit his teeth, and the oil instantly penetrated the tip of his tongue, and in that second, the feeling of headache he felt disappeared. This is the joy that dopamine provides, timely and effective. And why use endorphin-style self-discipline, such as reading books and running, to keep yourself to endure headaches, so as to achieve the effect of slow relief? People's needs are multi-layered, and the needs of each individual are also very different. You can't substitute high-level requirements for low-level requirements. Going to bed early and getting up early is a manifestation of diligence and self-discipline, and going to bed late and getting up late is a sign of laziness and indulgence, which is also worth scrutinizing. In the book Why We Sleep, it says: "The late-night or early-riser, i.e., the type of sleep, in adults is genetically determined. If you are a 'night owl', there is a good chance that one (or both) of your parents is also a 'night owl'. Due to the inevitable DNA structure, they are born in a kind of postponed schedule. It's not a defect in their consciousness, it's a genetic fate. "Some people need 8 hours of sleep, others need longer, and even if they go to bed early, they will wake up late. Therefore, if you work hard to live actively in a way that suits you, you are an excellent self. It doesn't have to be uniform. Don't be yourself. In 2024, there is no better way to love yourself than to accept yourself and live a self-consistent life. 
In the new year, everything can be old, but the mentality must be new. With a more open-minded and positive attitude, to face the unchanged and ever-changing days, the new year is destined to be wonderful. Share.
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