Wang Wei once said in the poem: "My heart has always been idle, and Qingchuan is like this." "In this complicated world, the heart is leisurely, and only then can it be as calm and peaceful as a stream.
Don't think too much about everything, quit useless emotions, but put your thoughts into action.
In this way, not getting entangled in trouble is the biggest secret of a person's success.
Thinking too much is a kind of excessive self-consumption
There is a study that shows that the troubles of 80 years of a person's life are due to too much thought.
Think too much, do less, get caught in the whirlpool of emotions, and you will stop.
Read such a story:
Someone asked the farmer, "Is there wheat in the field?" ”
The farmer shook his head: "Not yet, the weather is not good, I am worried that it will rain." ”
The man asked, "Then do you grow cotton?" ”
The farmer frowned, "No, I'm afraid of the worms in the cotton." ”
The man wondered, "What did you plant in your field?" ”
The farmer sighed and said, "The fields are empty, there is nothing, and I don't know what to plant." ”
When winter came, everything fell silent and the ground was empty.
The people survived the winter on food reserves, but the farmers had nothing to eat, and finally starved to death.
Many times, what really bothers us is not the event itself, but our inner perception of the matter.
Just like this farmer, who worries about the sky and troubles himself, not only does he achieve nothing, but eventually leads to the tragedy of death.
Thinking too much will only consume the self too much, and when it should be up and moving forward, you will be trapped and stagnant.
There is a story in "Zhuangzi Shan Mu Chapter" that when a man was crossing the river by boat, he saw a boat rushing straight in front of him.
After shouting for a long time, no one answered, so he scolded and blamed the rower for being blind.
It turned out that the boat that hit it was empty.
And this person's anger also disappeared in an instant after seeing that it was an empty ship.
This is the famous "empty ship theory".
Everything comes from the heart, and how you look at it is the result.
As the old adage goes: "Troubles have no roots, don't pick up nature, don't worry about nothing, confusion has no source, and don't look at yourself." ”
Life is unsatisfactory, think less, and worry less.
Quit useless emotions,
It is the biggest gap between people
A writer once said, "Success is not a matter of unnecessary emotion." ”
The same is true in life, quitting useless emotions is the first step to widen the gap with others.
In a psychiatric hospital, there is a female patient with mental illness.
She has been hospitalized for more than 10 years, but she has never been discharged from the hospital because of her confusion and apathy.
On one occasion, the doctor reviewed her records and found that she had been in a state of hyperactivity twice, both while trimming her nails.
So, the doctor found someone to teach her to trim her nails, and she also loved to learn.
Soon, she began to trim her patients' nails, and in the process, she became more and more cheerful and her thinking became clearer.
Within half a year, she was cured and discharged from the hospital.
Later, she opened a manicure shop near her home, and the business was booming, and since then she has made a living from it and lived a normal life.
From this case, it can be seen that letting go of useless emotions is the best antidote to the soul.
This female patient, who focused on doing something she was interested in, not only regained her zest for life, but also recovered from her illness for many years.
After quitting useless emotions, you will reap a strong self.
In life, if a person learns to deal with emotions, he is half ahead of others and one step closer to success.
There is such a passage in "The Capital of a Life":
"One should not be a slave to one's own emotions, but one should control them in turn. ”
No matter how bad the situation is, we should deal with it calmly and save ourselves from the darkness.
Everything that disturbs you, that breaks you, is actually not something to be afraid of.
If the heart is as strong as a rock, the sun will shine in after the painful night.
The real strong people all want to do 1 point and 3 points
Mr. Nan Huaijin once said: "The superior people have the ability but no temper, the middle people have the ability and temper, and the inferior people have no ability and temper." ”
Most of the time, the strong control their emotions, while the weak are controlled by their emotions.
It is instinct to lose your temper when you encounter problems, and it is the real ability to resolve your temper and solve problems.
As Mr. Wang Yangming said, "we need to temper in things."
Many things can only be understood when we start to do them, and only when we take action can we have results.
Wang Yangming has been determined to be a "saint" since he was a child, and when his father heard about it, he thought he was too arrogant.
But after Wang Yangming made up his mind, he put his ideas into action.
For decades, he traveled far and wide to find friends and study the way to be a saint.
Although he failed repeatedly, Wang Yangming never gave up and practiced many times.
In order to verify the truth of "Gewu Zhizhi", he specially ran to "Ge" bamboo, but did not get results, and became seriously ill because of it.
Therefore, he understood that it was not feasible to seek "reason" through external objects, but should devote himself to "heart".
Later, under continuous study, Wang Yangming finally realized the truth, reached the realm of the unity of heaven and man, and also founded the science of "heart".
In the same way, only when you taste pears do you know the sweetness and sourness, and when you put on shoes, you know whether they fit or not.
Everything in the world is often trapped in thinking, and then broken in action.
Thinking about 1 point and doing 3 points, combining thinking and action, can we continue to move forward.
The truly strong are giants in action.
If you hesitate 10,000 times, it is better to practice it once; Even a gorgeous fall is better than a senseless wandering.
As the saying goes, "Life is not like cooking, you can't wait for all the ingredients to be ready." ”
In life, think less and do more, do your best, and leave the rest to fate.
In this way, it is the best wisdom for people to live in the world.
Zeng Guofan said: "Things come to conform, the future is not welcome, the present is not mixed, and there is no love." ”
Live in the present, act calmly, worry about the future, not afraid of pain, and not be bound by the present.
Life doesn't have to be too entangled, and it's sunny to want to get rid of your troubles.
May you and I have a relaxed heart, no disease, no disaster, no worries, travel lightly, and go through a full and happy life.
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