This is the last article of the year, usually mainly talking about the property market, I guess you are tired of reading it. This time, I won't talk about the house, but I want to discuss with you, why is it more and more difficult for us to be happy in today's extremely rich material wealth?
Why are the Chinese so tired and so rolled?
Why do so many people want emotional value?
Is the family of origin really the source of all the banes?
Why is everyone so introverted?
Do you want to live a life of self-exile?
How can I reconcile with myself?
Lying flat is not lying around, and involution is not crazy rolling.
What does a house really mean to Chinese?
means everything.
Many people live to the last day of their lives with the dream of owning their own house.
Independently own your own property
Owning one's own land is engraved in the genes of every Chinese.
Han Yu has worked for 30 years and is about to retire before he bought a commercial house that he is satisfied with.
Liu Yuxisi is a burrow, but Wu Dexin
Bought a dilapidated house and comforted myself.
Du Fu has been an official for generations, and he was born in the N generation of officials, and in the end he only built a thatched cottage.
Su Dongpo's son wants to get married, so he can only borrow a friend's house as a wedding house, and Su Shi's younger brother Su Zhe bought a house at the age of 70.
The history of Chinese people generally being able to afford a house, in fact, only in recent decades, we have lived the best life in history, but why are we still so dissatisfied?
When you can't afford to buy a house, a house is the only dream.
After buying a house, countless worries will pop up.
How do you get the money?
It would have been nice to buy a house in Shenzhen, it would have been nice to have bought a few more sets at the beginning, it would have been good if it hadn't been sold so early, it would have been good if it hadn't been taken over at a high level, and it would have been good if it hadn't started a business and started ,..a factory
There is no regret medicine in life
Even if there is,
You'll only regret it even more if you use it.
If you could only use the regret pill 1 time, what would you use it for?
You choose the white rose, and you will regret the red rose.
If you don't make a choice, you will let it almost be lost, and you will regret it for the rest of your life in old age.
Life is a set of systematic algorithms, and if you change the moment you are 10 years old, the plot will all be disrupted, and you can't guarantee that the future will not get out of control.
With the regret medicine that is only 1 time
To gamble on life's endless options,
How can you not regret it?
Countless options are waiting for you to make, liberal arts or science?
Which city's university to go to?
Do you want to marry him or marry him?
Buying a house that doesn't fall?
Should you buy Bitcoin?
Do you want to go to graduate school and study abroad?
Education, city, industry, partner,
They are all key nodes that change the fate of life.
There are too few opportunities in a person's life, and you can't decide what is too early or too late.
Even if you are of the right age, if the opportunity is not suitable, you may not be able to seize it.
There is only one person and only one brain, but there are countless choices to make, and you will naturally and surely fall into confusion.
Even if you read all the history books and ask your relatives and friends, you may not be able to get the right answer.
Your current confusion (fate),
It was determined by your choice 5 years ago.
Back then, travel back to 5 years ago,
You find yourself even more confused
Do you want to embrace your past self?
Reconcile with yourself.
It turns out that it's not that I haven't worked hard enough.
The big system of life is too sophisticated, and you can't decide many things at all, although the world is a grass platform, if you don't pay attention to it, the society will increase entropy, and it will become more and more chaotic.
Those big companies and big people you worship in your heart, they also came to this moment by mistake, and they have had the confusion and troubles you have now, even more than you.
The world is a grass platform, and most people are destined to be onlookersHeroes are always a few, very few
Otherwise, wouldn't the hero be inflationary!
used to be [once famous and known to the world], but now even if you are admitted to Tsinghua University, how many people know it, after being admitted to Tsinghua University, will your life be smooth sailing?
So what exactly is the end?
Is being admitted to Tsinghua University the end?
Is making money the end?
Is fame and fortune the end?
Is the end of a family with four generations living together?
At every stage, do what you have to do.
Do your best, obey the destiny of heaven
Of course, it's worth celebrating if you do it well, and there's nothing to be annoyed about if you don't do it well.
If you drink that glass of wine more, flatter and smile more, and boil hundreds of millions of brain cells to death, you may not be able to win that business, and the related users behind it are still secretly working hard, what can you decide?
Reconcile with yourself.
is what people who are confused need to do the most.
Be honest with your efforts
But don't ignore the course of history.
To reconcile with oneself, is it necessary to know where the boundaries of one's abilities are?
This is not to take the initiative to set limits for yourself, but not to embarrass yourself and let yourself go, which is very important.
The spiritual internal friction of modern people is too serious, all kinds of fuses, original family, mid-life crisis, love deception, workplace PUA, entrepreneurial failure, and financial crisis.
Charlie Munger said
If you know where you're hanging, don't go there for the rest of your life.
In other words,If you are seriously consumed by one thing,
Then stay away from it.
Family, friendship, love, whoever makes you have internal friction, just cut it off, don't get tangled and don't hesitate.
Many people talk about the original family, and you take the initiative to leave and cut off, isn't it okay?
A matter of a plane ticket, a high-speed rail ticket.
Is it that hard?
I don't want to bear the pain of making a choice, and I want to enjoy the good result after the choice, how can there be such a good thing in the world?
Modern society has entered the stage of deepening and developing civilization
It's no longer a clan society
Individuals can live well without clans and families
No one leaves foreverDon't open anyone.
No one can never live without anyone.
No one can never live without anyone.
Don't use the chains of family and inheritance to imprison the thoughts of contemporary people.
According to a study by Fudan University: in the last 200 years, only 136% of the population left offspring, the remaining 864% of people are completely extinct.
Your genes, the lives of 18 generations of poor peasants from your ancestors, are gone, it's gone, there's nothing to be sorry about.
Chinese men can be.
Children, students, husbands, fathers, grandfathers, Chinese women can be.
Children, students, wives, mothers, grandmothers, have taken on many identities, but they can't be himself, he has been very tired all his life, he has been suppressed by the clan concept and the patriarchal system, and his back has been bent, how can he make his soul light?
And it's to make the soul light, not to let the soul float
The ups and downs of life are very exciting, and ordinary people may not be able to endure them.
After many people find that they can't afford to buy a house, don't get married, don't have a baby, their mentality has changed dramatically, they are no longer ascetics, but enjoy them in time, and their savings are used to buy cars, and their savings are used to travel everywhere, Zibo, Village BA, Harbin, have left traces of their visit.
You can still earn it when you run out of money
But the spirit is rusty
Go to ** find a whetstone?
After many people give up their big goals, they slide from one extreme to the other, and they are spiritually exiled, immersed in short ** and cool dramas every day and can't extricate themselves.
Let those actors help them realize their unfinished dreams.
Find a hint of pleasure in the unreal.
But the reality is often that those hard-working actors make a lot of money, and most of them lie on the bed outside the 6th ring, brush up all night long, and then spend the day after day, until one day suddenly wakes up, but by then, it is too late.
Short** is never a tool to pass the time
For 1% of people, there is a class jump
It's hell for 99% of people
Those who enshrine the souls of many people.
The country still needs to progress, the city needs to develop, whether you buy a house or not, the impact on them will not be very big, but for yourself, the impact will be far-reaching.
When you buy a house, you buy a sense of security
If you don't buy a house, you have freedom.
When you buy a house, you sacrifice your cash flow for the next 30 years, thus exchanging back a sense of security, as for how much this security is worth, only you know, subjective feelings.
Half of the monthly payment is paid to the sense of security.
If you don't buy a house, you can break into the ends of the earth, as long as you can adapt to the wandering life in Beijing today and Sanya tomorrow, wandering all your life, it is also a new way of living.
It's just that, under the strong dominance of the mother-in-law's economy, what is the probability that you can start a family?
No one can make a choice for someone else
If you ask me which city, which plate, which community, which house, these are all right, I know everything, but you have to make your own choice.
And in order to prevent it, the house has risen, I stepped on the horse and the house has fallen, and the blogger is really **
I almost never give advice, even with friends and family.
To cross people, you must first cross yourselfIf you can cross yourself, respect the fate of others.