In the drama version of "The World", Zhou Bingyi did not explain much about the situation of living directly in Dongmei's house after marriage. But through a few key scenes, he perfectly shows his nervous and cautious emotions in front of his father-in-law and mother-in-law. For example, because of Cai Xiaoguang's incident, Governor Hao and his wife had a misunderstanding of Zhou Bingyi, and tried their best to clear up their relationship with the Zhou family, for fear that there would be "poor relatives" to disturb them. Even when both parents died, the two families never saw each other. Another example is the "Tea Incident", where the tea given to the Hao family by Zhou Zhigang was returned, which made the Zhou family deeply disappointed and cut off further contact between the two families.
Dongmei wanted to explain the matter to Zhou's father, but was dissuaded by Zhou Bingyi, who knew that class differences were like an insurmountable chasm, and the arrogance and prejudice in them could not be eliminated in words. In the original book of "The World", these vivid details are not mentioned. Cai Xiaoguang in the original book was not admitted to university because of Zhou Bingyi's help, and Zhou's father never thought of climbing a high branch like Jin Yueji.
Zhou Bingyi chose to become the son-in-law of the Hao family, and there are multiple reasons behind it, including his deep affection for Dongmei and his consideration of reality. At that time, the Hao family was rehabilitated, and Governor Hao had died, leaving only Jin Yueji alone. This old revolutionary, who had experienced ups and downs, naturally chose to return to her familiar two-story small western-style building after being rehabilitated. Dongmei's mother is also willing to reunite with her daughter and grandson, who have not seen each other for nearly a decade. It is human nature that she needs someone to accompany and take care of her. From Dongmei's point of view, being able to live with her mother is undoubtedly the best choice. This way, she doesn't have to worry about housing while teaching at the school. But this also brings a problem: if she lives with her mother, and Bingyi does not move to her mother-in-law's house, the couple will have to face the dilemma of separation; And if Dongmei lives in the house divided by the unit with Bingyi, she will not be able to take care of her mother. The lesser of the two, Dongmei understands that no matter whose point of view she stands on, she will choose the latter. After all, the space of the bachelor dormitory is cramped, and the small two-story bungalow with a nanny is much more comfortable and spacious.
In China in the 80s, unit division was a very important benefit for every employee. In order to win this rare resource, many people even did not hesitate to fight. Zhou Bingyi, deputy director of the Housing Sub-committee of the Department of Cultural Affairs, naturally knows what is at stake. For a civil servant like him, being able to set an example and take the initiative to give up the opportunity to divide a room is not only conducive to the establishment of his prestige in his work, but also a reflection of his moral character.
Jin Yueji agrees with Bingyi's decision very much, she thinks that this is very good, not only has all aspects been considered, but as a national cadre, Bingyi should pay more attention to this kind of affairs related to his level. As for the housing problem, she said that it is no problem to live with Bingyi and them now, and she is in good health, enough to live for another decade or two.
Indisputable is a realm," Jin Yueji said, "and the organization will see it." "As a veteran revolutionary, she has an in-depth understanding of state affairs and personnel relations. She believes that Bingyi's future political career would be of great benefit if he could live with her experienced mother-in-law and receive her guidance and advice. Therefore, Bingyi was also very happy to accept this arrangement and gave up the opportunity to divide the unit. Although he was a little reluctant, Zhou Bingyi knew that he did not have a house and could not live with his parents, so he fulfilled his desire to be by their side. As the eldest son of a provincial deputy inspector and the daughter of a university professor, his parents lived in a dirty and messy light, which made him feel guilty. However, his busy schedule and youthful self-confidence allowed him to let go of these guiltes for a while.
As a shrewd politician, Zhou Bingyi understands that moving into his mother-in-law's two-story small building is a good and harmless choice, which does pave the way for his future promotion. Although he chose this seemingly easy solution, it also meant that he accepted the identity of the "door-to-door son-in-law".
Jin Yueji was resistant to this future son-in-law from Guangzipian at first, and she thought that it would be difficult for the people of Guangzipian to cultivate excellent young people. However, when she met Zhou Bingyi himself, her impression of him changed. Although she believes that Zhou Bingyi is a special case of light characters, she still cannot dispel the stereotype of the area, which is that the people there are poor and backward, and that they are rude.
Zhou Bingyi keenly felt Jin Yueji's arrogance and condescension, which also made him work harder in the future, hoping to win their recognition with his achievements. He knows that only through his own efforts and achievements can he truly change the perception of others. For those things that can avoid troublesome old ladies, we try to solve them ourselves. If we disturb her frequently, maybe she will say something unpleasant in front of us, and then we will be embarrassed to associate with her again. Although I never stepped into the door of Hao's house, because the house was confiscated that time, I really had no choice but to go to Bingyi for help, but I only said a few words at the door of his house and did not go in. Since Dongmei's parents were rehabilitated, I found that the relationship between Bingyi and Dongmei has changed subtly. In the past, Dongmei relied on Bingyi like a vine, but now it seems that the situation is reversed.
Bingyi seems to have become the son-in-law of the inverted door, and after living with Jin Yueji, he struggles to please his mother-in-law. In Jin Yueji's eyes, he is not only an excellent son-in-law, but also an outstanding young party member and cadre. Jin Yueji made no secret of her love for Bingyi, and even said: "How nice it would be if you were my son!" Hearing this, Bingyi responded: "Mom, after I moved here, I have been trying to be a good son-in-law and not embarrass you." But now I find that I want to be a good son even more. After the role change, my love for Dongmei has also deepened, not only the love of my husband for his wife, but also the love of my brother for my sister. Jin Yueji was very happy to hear his words.
Dongmei listened to the conversation between the two of them while drinking the soup, and almost burst out laughing. When the couple returned upstairs, Dongmei asked, "What do you mean by those meaty words to my mother?" Bingyi replied helplessly and with a hippie smile: "What can I mean?" As a son-in-law, I had to learn to adapt to the environment. Your mother is a high-ranking cadre, and if I keep a straight face every day, she will definitely feel that I don't want to live with her. As the old saying goes: those who know the times are the heroes. Since I'm going to live with my seniors, I'm going to have to make her as happy as possible. He added: "Your mother is a brave, upright, and caring anti-Japanese female fighter who cares about the national economy and people's livelihood, and I respect her very much." Although she is retired, she still cares about national affairs and people's lives. I admire her quality and personality. ”
In short, we should try to avoid bothering our elders and try to solve problems on our own. When interacting with elders, learn to respect and understand them. I, as her son-in-law, have really benefited a lot from this relationship. Before I moved here, I had never slept in such a comfortable bed or enjoyed such a warm bath at home. I never thought I could ask someone else to take care of my clothes. I have to be grateful for all this, otherwise I will not be ungrateful.
The days in the hall are not as comfortable as at home. Whenever I come home, joking and interacting with the old lady always brings us endless joy. Years of leadership have made Bingyi look at problems more transparently and open-mindedly. His fawning over his mother-in-law, Jin Yueji, actually contains respect for his predecessors, gratitude to Fukuzawa, and deep expectations for family harmony and a smooth career.
We shouldn't be too harsh on Kim Yue-hee, she also reacts and judges in her own social class. When she was old, she also had a reflection, and once said to Qu Xiuzhen: "We were originally people from the people, and we joined the revolution for the well-being of the people, claiming to serve the people wholeheartedly." But from a certain point of view, it seems that we have turned the common people into enemy ......"It shows her inner contradictions and struggles.
Although Jin Yueji failed to meet the Zhou family's parents, she showed her acceptance and repentance for the Zhou family with practical actions. Before she died, she helped Bingkun reduce her sentence, which was a reflection of her true emotions in her heart. The reason why her attitude towards the residents of Guangzipian has changed is because she saw the shining points of the common people from Bingyi, and his filial piety, accessibility, wisdom and kindness made Jin Yueji deeply ashamed.
Zhou Bingyi's smooth career is inseparable from the support and allocation of his old mother-in-law, Jin Yueji. Her help helped him achieve his political ideals before he retired, and brought about a huge improvement in the lives of the residents of Guangzipian . He truly worked for the benefit of the people. This is all due to the fact that he entered the Hao family and was treated as his own son by Jin Yueji. Jin Yueji once said to Bingyi: "As the son-in-law of a cadre family, since he is already a cadre, he must prop up the façade of the cadre family on our side." Under the careful cultivation of Jin Yueji, Zhou Bingyi became the first person in the family, and with her extraordinary vision and energy, she established Bingyi's status as a senior cadre in several shots and broadened his cognition. No matter where he serves, he can be comfortable and clean, thanks to the guidance of Jin Yueji. It can be said that without Jin Yueji, there would be no achievements of Zhou Bingyi that went down in history.
Zhou Zhigang's sudden death made Bingyi feel deeply guilty, and he felt that he had failed his father's expectations. At the funeral home, he hugged his younger brother Bingkun and said with tears streaming down his eyes: "Among our three children, you are the most worthy of the kindness of your parents to raise you, and my brother has now become a son-in-law who is inverted, but this is not a ...... that my brother is willing to do."In the face of the sarcasm of the old neighborhood, he said: "Promising children may not benefit their parents, the eldest son of the Zhou family is very promising, and the daughter is also considered to be popular, so what?" Didn't Zhou Zhigang live in the old house of Guangzipian after he retired? Doesn't it have to be carried by everyone to go to the hospital in turn? Didn't you come back from the hospital on a flatbed truck? Didn't you finally die on the fire pit that you had taken off and built earlier? ”
When I first watched "The World", I also thought that Bingyi tended to be inflammatory, and I only knew how to tie up with my powerful father-in-law and mother-in-law, but I didn't care about the difficult situation of my parents. However, after a year of precipitation, I began to understand his difficulty and helplessness. In the complexity of life, people are looking for balance, and it is difficult for anyone to do everything. The three sons and daughters of the Zhou family are all pure and filial people, but the way of filial piety is different. Bingkun stays by his parents' side, and his filial piety touches the world, making it easier for people to see and praise. Bingyi uses another way to interpret "great filial piety without traces". A child from a working family like him can always be an innocent official and do things in a down-to-earth manner with his own heart, which in itself is the best filial piety to his parents. How hard! His personality charm and wisdom in life are unique, and he silently bears heavy responsibilities for the Zhou family, which is the deepest filial piety and the most sincere emotion as the eldest son.