There are many elderly people around me who show two extremes, one is that the older they get, the more confused they are, and the other is that they live more and more transparently.
My wife and I are both over 70 years old, and after thinking about it, we have recently made some decisions!
If nothing else, we are afraid that we will face life and death in the past few years, after all, our average life expectancy is only more than 70 years old, and now we are both over 70 years old, most probability, there are not many days left. And one day we will have to face life and death, and now it seems that this day is not too far away.
Our idea is to accept the departure of the other party calmly, not too sad, and not too much lingering afterward, anyway, birth, old age, sickness and death are all natural laws, even if the level of medical care is so developed, no one has resisted this law until now, and people will die one day.
As for the rest of the person, he can live as happy as he wants, and if he is willing to find a wife, he will find another wife. Of course, to put it bluntly, finding a wife in old age is not very agreeable to children. So if the children's opinions are too big at that time, don't be too reluctant, after all, there are not many days left, and there is no need to toss too much.
The elderly are already frail and sickly, and there are many geriatric diseases that will slowly begin to appear in the old age stage, so getting sick is also an unavoidable problem.
But the two of us now only have 300,000 savings in our pockets, in fact, if it is a minor illness, I think the 300,000 is enough, after all, the usual living expenses are pensions, and the 300,000 are mainly used for emergencies. But if it's a big illness, and even 300,000 is not enough, I don't plan to go down.
After all, it's one thing to have no money, but I'm afraid that the money has not been saved yet, in case it ends up in a situation where one person has no money, it will be troublesome.
Besides, the average life expectancy is there, and basically we don't have many days left. I don't want to borrow money to see a doctor in the final stage and drag down the children's small family.
Like the concept of our generation, it is still more flattering to raise children to prevent old age, but unfortunately this concept is not very good at this stage, not that the children are not filial enough, but now some children are under more pressure than the elderly, sometimes although they also want to support their parents, but unfortunately they are powerless.
In addition, many daughters-in-law now feel more and more "selfish", sometimes they will see this situation, even if they are good to her parents, she does not feel excessive, but her husband sends some money to her parents-in-law, and she begins to feel that she sends too much, and then she is unpleasant there.
These things can't say who is right and who is wrong, so as elderly people, we still try to stay away from our sons and daughters-in-law, out of sight and out of mind, and don't live under the same roof with them, so there won't be so many family conflicts.
Many children are not as filial as we imagined, and even if the children are filial, if the daughter-in-law is not filial, it is very troublesome to get in the way.
There are such examples around me, and it is not an isolated case, that is, the old man spent all his savings when he sold his hometown's house, and finally managed to make enough down payment to give his son a loan to buy a house and marry a daughter-in-law.
As a result, the daughter-in-law got married, but the daughter-in-law preferred to leave a room for his parents to live in, but she was also very unhappy to let her parents-in-law come to live.
So until the final stage, try not to transfer the house to the name of the children, as long as one of the son and daughter-in-law is not filial enough, it is a little difficult for us to continue to live in it, if both of them are not filial enough, then we really have to roll up and leave.
Now it is not only young people who "break off their relatives", in fact, there are not a few phenomena of "breaking off relatives" among our old people. Because distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors, the so-called relatives are sometimes just friends of interest, and when we encounter difficulties, there are not many relatives who can really lend a helping hand.
Some people say that they are relatives on the surface, but in fact there is not much need to come and go, like some relatives who can't be beaten, there is no need to continue to use the banner of favors and money, and then continue to send money to others.
As the elderly, we should enjoy our retirement life more, as for the maintenance of personal contacts and relationships, just let him go, there is really no need to care so much.