The help-seeker said: I found out that my husband cheated in June this year, and he also knew that his cheating was exposed, and after communicating with him, my husband said that he would break off with a third party, but he needs to be given three months, and he doesn't care about anything during this time, including that he doesn't go home at night, can I trust him?
Marriage and Family Counselor Analysis:
In fact, in our work, there are also many original partners who ask for help in the early days of their husbands' cheating, and their husbands also say the same: Give me time, I will deal with it myself, give me time, I can cut it off by myself. But the reality is often a slap in the face.
In this case, the advice given by the marriage and family counselor is: Of course, you can't agree. Imagine what would happen if you agreed:
1. Three months later, he returned to the family, but for these three months, you can't interfere with him, can you bear it? He often didn't go home during these three months, and even occasionally flirted with a third party after returning home, can you do it out of sight? Completely indisputable? You can't be sure if he's actually returned to his family after three months, or if he's just done it more secretively. After returning to the family, will you cheat again? If you cheat again, will you propose to leave him alone for half a year, and then return to the family?
2. If he doesn't return after three months, what will happen to him in these three months? It's even more like glue with a third party, and I go home and divorce you directly, what should you do? At that time, will it be too late to deal with it. Or is it an extension of time after the expiration of three months?
The most terrible thing is that he made this unreasonable request, and he didn't feel guilty about you at all, he knew that you didn't want a divorce, so he tested your bottom line step by step.
If you want to save your marriage, you need to consult a professional marriage and family counselor to make a plan to save your marriage, rather than being led by the man.