Never reason with someone for free, whether it's a relative, friend, or fan, but if you don't pay, don't easily correct their problems. People who always like to be a teacher will not only not gain gratitude, but will also be annoying. Your kindness, in the eyes of others, is no different from meddling. First, if a person does not pay, it means that he does not pay enough attention to his own problem itself, and does not intend to make the slightest change, let alone develop a minimum of trust in you. He comes to you just to satisfy his desire to confide, just to hope that you will agree with him. Second, if you spend hours instructing someone else without paying for it, you're belittleing yourself because you don't think your time is worth anything and you don't value it. 
In the past, I was like this, when my friends had any difficulties, whether they were out of love, failed in exams, scolded, or simply empty and lonely, they all liked to chat with me, and I didn't refuse to come. But then I found out that it was a very time-consuming and energy-consuming thing. After they finished talking to me, they went back to the. But because of these conversations, I missed more important things. Instead of spending a lot of time chatting with a certain person, it is better to output content, write articles, shoot **, let more people see it, and increase your personal influence. A person may have no eyes, but when the pool is big, there are always people who know the goods. So, since then, I have never been a Madonna again. 
Don't be fooled by appearances: A man with eight-pack abs doesn't prove how powerful he is; A person drives a luxury car and lives in a mansion, which does not mean that he has real skills; A polite and humble gentleman may be a demon of domestic violence against his wife behind his back. In this world, there are many bluffers, there are too many successful people who are strong and middle-class, philanthropists, exquisite poor people with full logos, and hypocrites who are full of benevolence and morality. Being able to see through the essence of things at a glance without being deceived by appearances is a real test of our skills. I heard a real case where a woman met a man on a blind date and had a car and a house. Because it is a different place, the man often flies from Shenzhen to Chengdu, and every time he appears, he must prepare a surprise, take her to eat, drink and have fun, and be extremely generous. The woman was so moved that she got married in a hurry. Unexpectedly, this man's RV was rented, and he still owed millions for gambling. The impulse before marriage turned into a line of tears after marriage. 
People who do business should also keep a clear head at all times. A bubble tea shop wants to be transferred, and the owner claims that he wants to end the distance with his wife, so he plans to transfer it as soon as possible. Recently, you saw that the store was full of business and business was booming, and you felt that the acquisition should not make you lose money. But is that really the case? There was a long queue at the door, maybe it was just an illusion created by the boss. He distributed a large number of vouchers, which attracted a lot of people who wanted to gather wool, which is why it caused such a lively scene. But when you take over and the event is over, you will find that the bubble tea shop has long been operating poorly, and there are no customers at all. At this time, I realized that I had been deceived, but it was too late. 
Don't be afraid to scare people In real life, we will see that those who are attractive are not afraid of offending others; And the good old man, few people support it. Blind obedience will only make others kick their noses in the face, and will not be exchanged for respect and awe. Therefore, some accomplished people have mixed reputations, and those who love them love them so much that they can't help themselves; Those who hate them hate them to the core. We don't need to be liked by everyone, as long as there is a small group of people who are our die-hard fans, then there will be no shortage of money in this life. For the black fans who have a sense of existence and have nothing to find fault, you don't have to be polite at all, because they don't recognize us themselves, and they will never have any payment behavior in the future. So they don't have any value to us. Directly blocking and deleting is the most correct choice. We want fans to see that our goodness is conditional, we will not be polite to everyone, we have a bodhisattva heart, and we also have vajra means. If you want to get our love, you must follow the rules, act according to the rules, and don't play any tricks. People will only follow the strong, and only by showing their domineering and decisive side can fans truly admire and follow for a lifetime.