Hotspot Engine Project In the workplace, there are a lot of interpersonal problems, and this interpersonal relationship problems are actually very hidden. But he is actually very aggressive, and many people have left their original units because of this, and some have turned against their friends, so it is necessary to understand some phenomena and avoid them, so that it is necessary to avoid people in the workplace.
The first is a set on the surface and a set on the back.
This kind of person has a very sweet mouth, praises you in front of you, and says bad things about you when he turns his back. When Xiao Yang first arrived at the unit, he found that their manager always praised him, he was a good person, he spoke English well, he was beautiful, in short, everything was good. One day, Xiao Yang went to the pantry to turn on the water, and saw the manager and another employee saying Xiao Yang: "Famous university, quality is like that." When he heard this, Xiao Yang was shocked, not that he couldn't talk about his shortcomings, but that he could say anything about his shortcomings in person, don't praise them in front of him and talk bad things behind his back, this kind of person is common in the workplace.
The second,Attack your weaknesses.
This kind of person is just the opposite of the previous one, you find in front of him, what is wrong, you feel that you are a piece of in his eyes, full of disgust and dislike in his eyes. Everyone is not a perfect person, but they will pick out your weaknesses, infinitely magnify, and attack, stay with this kind of person for a long time, you yourself will become inferior, serious internal friction. I have a visitor, said that her manager is a particularly 40-year-old man, because he performed very well in the original group before, so the company was promoted to another department, this department manager is far from the original manager, every time I take the plan in the past, I will completely deny it, and, all kinds of bad, make this girl say, I doubt that I am a useless fool, she said herself, but in the previous department, her work ability is recognized and recognized by the leader, and now, in this department is too depressed.
The third type is the one who is too submissive to you.
This kind of person will leave you one day. Because she is submissive, you think that she is such a person, but in fact, at the beginning of the relationship, attracted by a certain trait of yours, you can agree with what you say, and follow you. It is impossible for a person not to have his own value system, his own values, his obedience, and make you think that this is a person with exactly the same values. Until one day, when she puts forward a different point of view, you start to get angry, and you want to think, why is it different, is it intentional, in fact, it is not. It's just that at this time, he is himself, and I have a client who has encountered such a situation, and the last two have a very unpleasant quarrel, and the client himself feels very hurt and can't accept this fact.
How to deal with the above three types of workplace attacks:
Be aware. When a person is too good to you, you have to be aware, don't expect too much from the relationship, treat yourself politely, not arrogant or humble, not too close, not too far away, especially when you are just entering the workplace, it takes time to understand a person, look slowly, and observe slowly.
Don't take it for granted。Don't take it for granted to attack your weaknesses. Everyone has weaknesses, there is no need to be ashamed of weaknesses, you have to do your own psychological construction, when you don't care about yourself, nothing can attack you.
Have a stable kernel。This is like the elephant, you are not good or bad, your strengths and weaknesses, you know, you don't need to care too much about other people's evaluation, for your own problems, be self-aware and stay sober.
The workplace is like a battlefield, stay sober, and no one can hurt you.