Author: Sun Voice
Three assertive modes
Self-confidence is as important to people as air and water, and if a person does not have self-confidence, he will have a lot of spiritual problems. However, for what is true self-confidence? What does it take to be truly confident? Many of us are actually very confused. The misconception of self-confidence leads to our self-confidence being a kind of false self-confidence that cannot withstand the storm.
There are three main types of self-confidence. These three types cover the self-confidence patterns of the vast majority of people.
Blind confidence
This self-confidence is constantly self-suggesting: I am the strongest, I am the best, the best. This kind of self-confidence is blind, it contrasts greatly with our abilities, and even seriously does not match them. It's a kind of self-confidence. Many parents will educate their children in this way, waving their little fists and saying to themselves, "I'm the best!"
Blindly confident people abound in real life. This kind of self-confidence is the most unreliable self-confidence, which can be said to be a form of self-deception. When I say I'm the strongest, there's a voice in my heart that says, "I'm not good."
Most of the ideas of self-confidence in society are blind self-confidence. Blind self-confidence is self-confidence that lacks foundation. Our subconscious mind is well aware of how much strength we have. Because it is extrapolated from historical data. Your past successes and failures have built your self-confidence. This inner self-confidence is not easily subverted and tampered with.
Therefore, blind confidence is a kind of outright false self-confidence, which does not do you much good. On the contrary, if you use blind confidence to deceive yourself for a long time, you may lose your self-confidence and fall into a deep inferiority complex if you fail again and again.
Be more confident
The second type of self-confidence is also very common, and it can be said that the self-confidence of most of us ordinary people is relatively self-confidence. When we surpass others in some aspect and excel in our abilities, we will spontaneously develop a kind of self-confidence in our hearts. This kind of self-confidence has a certain basis of ability, which is more reliable than blind self-confidence. In addition, being more confident is not limited to ability, money, power, knowledge, beauty, etc. can also be the object of more confidence.
But there is a fatal problem with comparative self-confidence, which is that when our abilities (or comparisons) are not as good as others, this self-confidence can decline rapidly. We may no longer be top students, no longer job experts. When others surpass themselves, self-confidence is seriously challenged.
Being more confident will force you to always run at the front and not have a breather. The inner sense of crisis makes me fearful and uneasy.
Many parents mistakenly teach their children to compare their own strengths to those of others to boost their self-confidence. As a result, the child feels frightened and has no self-confidence, because the self-confidence of comparison always puts people in a crisis of comparison, resulting in the child's self-confidence is an insecure and insecure self-confidence.
Self-confidence based on hope for the future and one's own potential
This self-confidence is solid, why do you say that? Because the hope of the future can inspire us, we want to realize that beautiful hope, and our hearts are full of joy, anticipation and confidence.
Our current capabilities are limited, but if we believe that our potential can lead us to higher and farther, we are confident in our hearts. When we think back to ourselves, we have overcome so many frightening things one by one, and we have made great progress, and this is our potential. Relying on potential is safe.
For a long time, we have been vague about self-confidence, and we have been using false ideas to enhance self-confidence. Self-confidence has nothing to do with current abilities, self-confidence is a type of confidence in oneself. I'm confident in myself, I'm confident. And this confidence comes from the **, from the recognition of one's own potential, from the expectation and yearning for a better life and state in the future. Potential is the power of energy, the hope and expectation of the future is the motivation and willingness, with the motivation and strong motivation energy we can obtain reliable self-confidence.
We think back to when we were younger, and through little by little curiosity, we have made tremendous progress. This fact is enough to show that we do not have any reason for inferiority, and everyone has great potential. Only potential, curiosity and hope for the future are the foundation of our self-confidence.
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Self-confidence is not illusory, self-confidence is to have confidence in yourself, believing that you have the ability to overcome difficulties, break through the encirclement, and create a better life. Even after experiencing countless failures, we still dare to say "I can, I can" to ourselves, and always have a fervent hope for the future, and our faces are full of passion for struggle and the courage to try, if we can achieve this state, we are a truly confident person.