I don't know when tiredness has become the norm in people's lives.
After a busy day, I don't want to do anything, I just want to lie silently;
went to dinner with his lover, and the two of them looked at each other without saying a word, each staring at their mobile phones;
It's rare to be idle, and my brain is running at high speed, for fear of missing something.
As we write in the book "The Hungry Poor": "All people are trapped in a huge device, trying to turn time into money, forced to live faster and more efficiently, even beyond physical limits." ”
After a long time, the body naturally fell off the chain and fell into depression without realizing it.
According to the statistics of the 2022 National Blue Book on Depression, there are about 95 million people suffering from depression in China, which is equivalent to 1 in 14 people with depression.
Doing these 3 little things regularly may help you stay away from depression.
Have you ever had such an experience?
I wanted to have a good rest at night, but as soon as I turned on my phone, I couldn't stop at all.
By the time I came to my senses, it was late at night. You feel a little upset that you shouldn't have done it, but the next day you do it again.
Blogger @洛淮 shared his story of disconnection.
For a while, her attention was always drawn to her phone, often unconsciously browsing through various information, swiping her fingers across the screen.
But this information did not help her work, but instead made her distracted, and she was stuck everywhere in her creation.
After learning the hard way, she decided to reduce her dependence on her mobile phone.
So, she stipulated that she should put down her mobile phone at a fixed time every day and quit the usual social software at the same time.
This ensures that she can focus on her own affairs when she is working, and will not be distracted by external interference.
During this period, she would occasionally pick up her mobile phone. But as soon as I saw the login page and thought of re-entering the password or verification code, an alarm sounded in my head, so I simply gave up.
This method may seem a bit cumbersome, but it works.
Of course, we don't have to be off the internet every day, but as writer Scott Young wrote: "Give yourself 90 minutes of independent thinking every seven days, don't let go, don't play with your phone, just yourself." ”
At first, you will probably feel anxious and even can't help but turn your phone back on, but once you get used to being with yourself, you will feel truly calm and relaxed.
Many people mistakenly think that swiping their mobile phones is to relax, but they don't know that the real rest is to make the brain no longer receive information.
The accumulation of information can be irritating and make it difficult for us to sleep, which can lead to deeper feelings of exhaustion and emptiness, which can lead to depression.
What's more, most of the information on the Internet has nothing to do with our lives, but only adds to our troubles.
You might as well return to the real life scene by disconnecting from the Internet, to meditate, to meditate, to feel your breath.
When you learn to bring your focus back to yourself and capture the small blessings around you, your spiritual core will become more and more stable, and your life will get better and better.
If it's painful, don't try it and just keep a normal mind. ”
In the movie "Husband Has Depression", this line hit countless people.
In the film, the male protagonist Chio Takano works for an online company and is responsible for handling customer complaints.
He works very hard, goes out early and returns late every day, rarely asks for leave, and rarely complains, but the matter at hand can never be finished.
Faced with the diverse needs of his customers, his pressure is increasing day by day. Lying in bed at night, tossing and turning and unable to sleep. During the day, he has no appetite at all, and he has no interest in anything.
But in order to make money to support his family, he had to force himself to work harder.
When he was diagnosed with depression by the doctor, his first thought was to go to work. After the leader learned the news, he said disapprehantly: "In these years, who hasn't been depressed, but it's just hypocritical." ”
He sat on his workstation with a humble smile on his face, and he didn't dare to stop for a moment.
Fortunately, his wife Haruko noticed the change in time and stopped his self-exploitation in time.
When life slowed down, his state gradually improved.
Many times, like Chio Takano, we are busy with work as soon as we open our eyes every day, and we want to fill every second with the feeling that we can reap success and happiness in this way.
But in the long run, not only will you not get the results you want, but you will also be physically and mentally exhausted.
In the book Life Troubles Counseling Room, it is written: "The more serious a person is, the more likely he is to be depressed. ”
Seriousness is certainly worth advocating, but everything is too much.
For individuals, learning to take the initiative to take breaks is even much more important than indulging in work.
Life is like a rubber band, which is tense all the time, and it will break at any time.
Occasionally slow down and move forward after fully charging yourself, but you can get twice the result with half the effort.
Don't put too much pressure on yourself, and don't fight with life. In your spare time, you might as well listen to it, raise flowers and plants, make yourself a cup of tea, and sit on the balcony to bask in the sun.
These small things may seem inconspicuous, but they can help us get out of bad moods and live calmly in the moment.
After reading the book "The Turn of a Thought", I was deeply moved by the experience of the writer Byron Katie.
When she was in her 30s, she suffered from major depression and for 10 years, she was in a state of mental slump.
At the worst time, she lay in bed without leaving the house, and only contacted the outside world through **.
Even when the child passed by her room, he had to walk on tiptoe to avoid being scolded by her for no reason.
One morning, however, a subversive idea came to her mind: "When I don't believe my thoughts, I don't suffer anymore." ”
She realizes that it is not the people or things around her that makes her depressed, but her view of the world.
From then on, whenever she felt sad and entangled, she would do a "mind transfer exercise" and ask herself: Is that true? Are you 100% sure that's true? How do you react when you hold that thought? What do you do when you don't have that idea?
In the middle of a question and answer, many problems were solved, and life became brighter.
Many people have tried this method and have benefited a lot.
Entrepreneur @琦琦 is one of them. In the past, she would stare at what her team wasn't doing well enough and be bent on finding someone better.
Now, she has learned to change her mind and think before she gets angry: Why am I angry? What are the requirements that I haven't made clear? Do you need encouragement?
She went from being a high-minded manager to a supporter, and the atmosphere of the team became more and more harmonious.
Every minute, a large number of thoughts pop up in people's minds.
Positive thoughts will calm our hearts and make us feel rich and happy.
Negative thoughts can lead to endless torment and make people sad.
One thought of heaven, one thought of hell. The so-called change of mind is to replace old thoughts with new ones.
As psychologist William James said, "Man can change his life by changing his mindset, and this is the greatest discovery of our generation." ”
Instead of dwelling on the past and being led away by negative thoughts, ask questions to carefully examine the reasons behind your unhappiness.
Finding out where the problem is is a good start.
Don't think that a single thought doesn't matter, it will take root in our hearts and subtly affect our every move.
In the fast-paced present, almost everyone's life has become tense and busy.
We rush to our goals, and it feels like life is like an endless run.
But if happiness is squeezed to the point where there is little left, life itself loses its meaning.
I like a line from the TV series "Long Vacation":
There are times when things don't go well, or people get tired. At that time, I thought of it as a God-given vacation for us, not having to sprint, not having to be nervous, not having to work hard, everything just had to go with the flow.Whether it's putting down your phone regularly, combining work and rest at work, or taking your thoughts as a part of your life, it's all about giving yourself a moment of respite and not being overdrawn by stress.
Doing these little things often, although it can't directly bring fame and fortune, can make us withdraw from the burnout in front of us, feel the comfortable side of life, and become less prone to depression.
Every day for the rest of our lives, I hope we can all live the life we want and have a vigorous vitality.