"What is Home" is the new translation of the film "Capernaum" in the mainland, but I think the original title of "Capernaum" can more deeply reflect the connotation of the film. In the Bible, Capernaum is a place name located near the Sea of Gali in present-day Israel. In English and French, Capernaum also means "chaotic disorder," a meaning that fits well with the film's theme.
The film tells the story of Zane, a 12-year-old Lebanese boy. Born in a slum, Zane lived in poverty and hardship in a dilapidated attic with his parents and seven siblings. Due to the poverty of their families, they are unable to receive education and often rely on odd jobs to make ends meet, while also enduring beatings and humiliation from their parents.
Since both parents in the family are illegal residents, the children do not have birth certificates and even the date of birth is not known. In such a predicament, Zane stabbed the bad guy in order to protect his sister and ended up in prison. In desperation, he took his parents to court.
Zane, the 12-year-old boy, challenged his parents in court. He wondered why he had been brought into the world without the love, care and education he deserved. His anger and disappointment were palpable, and every word hit his parents' hearts like a hammer.
I hope that people who can't afford to raise children don't have any more! ”
The gentlest words I've ever heard are'Fuck off, you son of a bitch'！”
Life is a pile of shit that is no more valuable than my shoes. ”
Parents do have the right to have children, and this is based on their personal choice and reproductive freedom. However, in the context of China's profound traditional culture, many parents do uphold the concept of "continuing the incense" and "inheriting the foundation" to welcome the arrival of a new life.
However, with the birth of a new life comes a huge responsibility for parents. In the traditional concept, "birth and raising" is closely linked, not only to give birth to children, but more importantly, to educate and raise children. This process is not easy and requires a lot of time, effort and effort from parents.
For many parents, while having a child may be relatively easy, raising a child into a person of character, ability, and responsibility can be an extremely challenging task. This process is like an uncertain investment, which requires a lot of effort and patience from parents, but also comes with various uncertainties and risks.
As a result, many Dink families choose not to have children in order to avoid taking such risks and responsibilities. They believe that raising children is a huge investment that involves not only money and time, but more importantly, a lot of effort and love. This investment carries a great deal of uncertainty and can cause many challenges and difficulties for families.
In the recent hit TV series "It's All Good", Su Mingyu angrily questioned his father: "You gave birth to me, but you didn't raise me well, why did you bring me to this world!" This sentence is similar to the question of the children to their parents in the movie "Capernaum". Children are questioning their parents why they were brought into the world without giving them enough love and nurture them.
This question touches on deep-seated issues such as the relationship between parents and children and the origin of life. From my personal understanding, even though children do not come into the world with prior consent or choice, parents do have the responsibility of nurturing and educating them.
Do parents have the right to bring their children into the world? Having a child is indeed an investment full of responsibilities and obligations.
Before considering having children, parents do need to carefully assess their financial means to ensure that they can provide their children with a good right to education and a relatively healthy environment for growth. Although life may seem tight at times, love cannot be measured in monetary terms. Even in the context of limited financial conditions, parents should try their best to give their children adequate care, as this is an integral part of their child's development.
In addition, parents also need to think about whether they have enough time and ability to fully care for and educate their children. Children need to be accompanied and guided by their parents, and parents should strive to cultivate their children's sound personality and positive attitude, so that they can become useful talents in society, rather than being abandoned by society.
In today's society, the pressure of ** and perception is real, but parents should not make hasty decisions about childbearing simply because of age or other external factors. Having a child is a serious responsibility that requires careful consideration from parents. If parents don't think they have the ability or the means to raise and educate their children, then perhaps not having children is a better option.
2. Raising children should never be just about satisfying parents' personal face or social expectations. Children should be born and grown out of love, responsibility, and care, not to meet a certain social role or expectation.
In court, the father defended his actions, emphasizing his responsibilities and dedication as a father.
What's wrong with me, I was also born, and I grew up like this! ”
People around me say, 'If you don't have children, you're not a man.'" ”
People say, 'My children are my backbone.'"
What a high-sounding incense, you continue the incense, afraid of becoming the object of condemnation of "not a man" in the eyes of others, regardless of your own ability to blindly multiply. Isn't it more heart-wrenching to let the five children of the whole family follow you around, let the 12-year-old eldest son go out to work to supplement the family, let the 11-year-old girl marry in exchange for your dry food, and let the whole family pay for your so-called "face"?
Indeed, no child wants to be forced to endure the heavy pain of the family in an immature mind. They want to be born in an environment full of love and warmth, rather than falling victim to their parents' incompetence and conflicts.
When parents blame their children for fighting against external aggression because of their own problems, or overemphasize their own "face" and ignore their children's actual needs and mental health, this kind of reproductive behavior is undoubtedly deeply harmful to children. It not only deprives children of the happiness and carefree they deserve, but also may shape their distorted outlook on life and values.
3. The concept of "I gave birth to you, you have to learn to be grateful, you owe me" is actually a distorted understanding of parent-child relationship. In real life, we can indeed see some parents imposing their dreams and hopes on their children, over-pursuing their children's academic performance, and even treating their children as a tool for comparison, which is undoubtedly a great harm to their children's physical and mental health.
In addition, there are some parents who have caused injuries or losses to their children due to lack of parenting experience or negligence, causing irreparable harm to their children. Some parents also have the concept of preference for sons over daughters, depriving girls of their right to education and making them bear the financial burden of their families, which not only violates the principle of educational fairness, but also seriously damages girls' self-esteem and self-confidence.
From these phenomena, we can see that deep in the hearts of these parents, there is indeed such a concept as "I gave birth to you, you must be grateful, and you owe me". This concept makes children bear the debt of kindness from an early age, and they feel that they can't rest or be lazy, otherwise they are irresponsible to their parents. Such psychological stress will undoubtedly have a great impact on children's mental health and hinder their healthy growth.
True love, it is as silent as spring rain, nourishing the child's heart. It requires us parents to treat their children with a caring and caring attitude, not only to meet their material needs, but also to pay attention to their emotional and psychological needs. This kind of love requires us to understand and respect the child's personality and wishes, allowing them to make mistakes and learn from them.
In the process of educating children, scientific and effective methods are crucial. We should develop a suitable education plan according to the age, personality and interests of children, guide them to be positive, and help them establish a correct outlook on life and values. At the same time, parents also need to continue to learn and grow, and change those traditional ideas and educational methods that may limit their children's development.
In the Korean drama "Please Answer 1988", when the daughter was wronged, the parents said so frankly: "Dad is also a father for the first time, please bear with me if I don't do well!" This sentence conveys parents' reflection and humility on their role in education, while also showing respect and expectation for their children's growth.
Children are often filled with helplessness and disappointment, and there is a clear gap between them and their parents in terms of strength, cognition and experience, which makes it difficult for them to fight effectively with their parents. In the face of the tall and burly figure of their parents, children often choose to be silent and evasive, they silently bear everything in the corner, and deal with their inner pain in their own way.
Children with strong psychological quality may gradually change their destiny by virtue of their own efforts and tenacity, and eventually become useful talents in society. However, children with poor psychological quality, under excessive coercion and pressure from their parents, may go to extremes and even choose the exact opposite path of their parents' expectations.
Like 12-year-old Zane in the movie "Capernaum", he longs to be a loved person by society, but reality forces him to choose to become a dishwasher. He cried out: "I want to be a good person and be loved by society, but God doesn't want that, they would rather us be dishwashers." This is a child's helplessness to fate and dissatisfaction with his parents.
Have we ever really listened to the heart-rending cries of our children? They crave to be understood, respected, and loved. As parents, we should give them more care and support so that they can thrive in the sun instead of suffering in the shadows. Let's work together to create a better future for our children.