"The Courage to Be Hated: Rediscovering Autonomy and Meaning in Life".
In The Courage to Be Hated, Ichiro Kishimi and Shiken Koga integrate Adlerian psychology into the dialogue between philosophers and youth, presenting us with a new perspective on self and life. Unlike elementary psychology books, this book is more like a journey of exploration deep into the heart.
In the dialogue in the first chapter, the philosopher asks a thought-provoking question: "Whose fault is it for our misfortune?" He emphasized that people are not immutable, the key is whether we have the will to change. For example, a young friend who has been closed for many years is not due to external factors or past experiences, but because of his deep resistance to change.
The philosopher further noted that Adlerian psychology focuses more on "teleology," that is, human behavior is driven by its intrinsic purpose. Therefore, to change the status quo, we first need to clarify our purpose and work towards it. Only in this way can we break the old patterns of life and achieve a true self-transformation.
In the meaning of the past, the philosopher makes a subversive view: psychological trauma is not real. He believes that it is the meaning we give to our experiences that determines our destiny. Life is chosen by us, not by the outside world. Therefore, we should dare to challenge our feelings and reinterpret the past in order to unleash our potential.
When talking about misfortune, philosophers believe that misfortune is not imposed from outside, but the result of our own choices. He encouraged us to dare to face our inner world and re-examine our way of life and worldview. Only in this way can we find the key to change our misfortune and regain the initiative in our lives.
Finally, the philosopher emphasized the importance of living in the moment. He reminds us that no matter what happened in the past, it cannot change the present and the future. Therefore, we should cherish our lives in the present moment and strive to pursue our dreams and goals. Only when we truly live in the present moment can we feel the beauty and meaning of life.
Overall, The Courage to Be Hated encourages us to challenge ourselves and re-examine the meaning and value of life. Through an in-depth understanding of Adler's philosophy and methods, we can find the courage and strength to change ourselves and our lives.