Different people read a book and have different perceptions.
After reading "Water Margin", Lu Xun said: "Because I don't oppose the Son of Heaven, as soon as the army arrives, I will be recruited to fight other robbers for the country - the robbers who don't 'do the way of heaven'." Finally a minion. ”
The French writer Le Clézio said: "It records the basic state of existence of people in that distant era." ”
As an ordinary person, from an emotional point of view, I saw that heroes cared too much about chivalry, and ignored social rules, which hurt themselves.
To be a chivalrous guest, you must also keep your sanity, no matter how much money you have, you must spend it in a useful place; No matter how good your kung fu is, don't do whatever you want.
When people reach middle age, put away their generosity and help those who are really worth helping.
Put away the generosity towards friends: Not all people who call brothers and sisters are friends.
In "Water Margin", there are more than 100 heroes in Liangshan, the scale is very large, and all of them are high-spirited.
What's even more valuable is that many heroes used to be enemies and fought many times. But in the face of major rights and wrongs, each of them restrained themselves and gave up hatred.
However, some injuries are eternal. Those who hurt the most are those who turn from friends to enemies.
Lin Chong is a clear example.
He was the head of the 800,000 forbidden army, and he was majestic. He has a friend named Lu Qian.
Usually, friends get together, eat and drink, and they are so unhappy.
When Lu Qian learned that Gao Yanei fell in love with Lin Chong's wife, he actually persuaded Lin Chong to "** beauty".
In order to curry favor with Gao Yanei and get ** Houlu, Lu Qian conspired to burn Lin Chong in the fire forage field.
Some people just look like friends, and people regard interests as more important. Befriending you is only for the potential benefit, and never sincerely.When people reach middle age, they have very few real friends, not even one. You should weigh the pros and cons, call "friends" verbally, and don't take it to heart.
Put away the generosity to your lover: Not everything between husband and wife is worth being generous.
Song Jiang is a generous person who can always help others in time when they are in trouble. Hence his nickname, Timely Rain.
He met the poor Yan Poxi and went to Yuncheng County, where he didn't even have the money to bury his father's bones.
When Song Jiang helped Yan Poxi tide over the difficulties, the two also got married. Women know how to be grateful, and they also promise each other, which is what we like.
After getting married, Song Jiang was very tolerant of Yan Poxi. Even if Yan Po betrayed the marriage, he didn't pursue it. On the contrary, Yan Po cherished it, got an inch, grabbed the handle of Song Jiang's friendship with the bandits, asked for gold, and divorced.
In the end, Song Jiang destroyed Yan Poxi and became a sinner himself.
How many couples, because one of them is too generous, leads to turning against each other.
A good husband and wife are evenly matched, and one person never indulges one person. All the generosity is exchanged for the arrogance of the other party, not the harmony of the family.In the face of your lover, you should discuss more and have your own bottom line emotionally.
For example, those who betray the family should be punished and not easily forgiven.
For example, for those who squander money, it is better to keep the money in check, not to give it again and again.
Put away the generosity of your subordinates: not all people at the bottom are worthy of your help.
Li Ying, originally the owner of Lijiazhuang, lived a prosperous life, and the two surrounding villages, the Zhu family and the Hu family, united to resist all foreign invasions.
One day, Du Xing, the head of Lijiazhuang, begged Li Ying to come forward and save Shi Qian.
At that time, Shi Qian did a lot of evil in Zhujiazhuang and was tied up by Zhujiazhuang.
Li Ying indiscriminately went to Zhujiazhuang to ask for people, which led to the failure of the alliance between the villages. It also triggered the Liangshan people to fight Zhujiazhuang three times.
The lips are dead and the teeth are cold", without Zhujiazhuang, Lijiazhuang is also bullied by the people of Liangshan. forced Li Ying to go to Liangshan and fell into the grass.
If Li Ying didn't trust his subordinates at will, it is estimated that the situation would be much better.
Help depends on the situation, but also on the actual situation, don't be rash.
You must know that if your subordinates make mistakes, you have to take responsibility together as your boss.
The terrible thing is that if your subordinates are connived, they will do whatever they want, and even overstep their bounds.
There are family rules, and the state has national laws. For subordinates, they should be managed by rules, not easily with feelings.The scale of feelings is indescribable, and the rules are marginal.
Put away the generosity to the villain: Not all villains will change their ways.
After Lin Chong was calculated by Gao Yanei, he was assigned to Cangzhou.
Tolerance Dong Chao and Xue Ba got the benefits of Gao Yanei, and pretended to take care of Lin Chong, a typical two-facedness.
But Lin Chong was confused and obeyed the arrangement of tolerance.
If Lu Zhishen hadn't appeared in time, Lin Chong would have been murdered in the woods.
Wu Dalang made a living by selling cooking cakes, but his wife Pan Jinlian was restless, and united with Ximen Qing to give Wu Dalang poison.
Fortunately, Wu Dalang's younger brother Wu Song was not confused by Pan Jinlian's beauty, and avenged Wu Dalang, otherwise he would have laughed and been generous.
In "Caigen Tan", it is said: "It is not difficult to be strict with villains, but it is difficult not to be evil." ”A lot of truth is to persuade us to let go of the villain, give them a way to change, and help them change their ways. And it turns out that there are always heinous villains who make us suffer again and again.
When dealing with villains, you don't necessarily have to "retaliate with a tooth for a tooth", but you have to keep your sanity, don't tolerate it at every turn, just give the villain a little money, and let him start by doing business on his own.
Gamblers, if you give money to pay off gambling debts, you will not be grateful, and people still dislike you for giving too little money; The one who robs, you give people goods, and they take the goods, and they run away, and they won't even say thank you.
At least you have to stay away from villains and look at each other coldly.
True generosity is kindness to oneself, keeping one's bottom line, and then using the remaining enthusiasm to help others.
Helping people also depends on character, don't generalize.
We've all heard the story of the farmer and the snake, and we really need to learn the lesson.
Remember, to maintain a moderate amount of indifference is not to be ruthless and unjust, but to defend your own interests.
When you reach middle age, you still have a family and career behind you, and you have to think about the rest of your life. You can't empty your family because you are willful; You can't condone each other's ruthless betrayal and even violence again and again because you cherish the fate of husband and wife; You can't just let others arrange your life because you are kind.
Be a moderate person, and the rest of your life will be stable.