I've found that for most people, the most straightforward way to transshipment is to always support yourself. This does not mean being blindly confident, but after recognizing your own strengths and weaknesses, you will firmly follow your own path and not be influenced by others. In the past, I was always easily influenced by the achievements and glamour of others, and fell into self-doubt and anxiety. When I scroll through the circle of friends, I see the wonderful lives of others and feel bleak. But now, I understand that everyone's life has its ups and downs, and we only see the side that others want us to see. Life is a wilderness, not a track, and there is no rule that we must live according to a certain template. As long as we insist on pursuing our dreams and being our own heroines, we can find our own stage. 
At the same time, I also learned not to over-reflect on myself. In the past, I used to repeatedly criticize myself for doing something wrong, and even doubt myself because of other people's emotions. But now, I understand that I can't control other people's emotions and can't be perfect. If I do something wrong, I fully analyze the reasons and learn from them. I don't let self-doubt and anxiety affect my quality of life. In addition, I also learned to use positive mental cues. Our inner voice often motivates us more than outside encouragement. Saying "You're great" to yourself every day will not only make you feel good, but it will also give you more confidence to face life's challenges. 
Finally, I want to be self-centered. Whether it is in the face of other people's requests or parents' expectations, I should have my own position and choice. Topic separation teaches us that the expectations and requirements of others are not necessarily suitable for us. We should be brave enough to pursue our goals in life instead of compromising in order to cater to others. In short, the key to transshipment is to firmly support yourself and not be influenced by others. We must learn to look at problems holistically, use positive psychological cues, and pursue our own happiness with self-centeredness. 