The rhyme of the East.
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I enlisted in the army in December 1976 and have been in the barracks for 30 years, but the love episodes of that year are a beautiful part of my life that I will never forget.
There was a girl named Xiaofang in the village, who was good-looking and kind, with a pair of beautiful big eyes and thick braids and long ......
Whenever I hear this very simple and very rustic folk love song, it always evokes my memories.
In the early morning of January 1, 1983, in a quiet mountain village, a simple and holy wedding was being held.
Accompanied by the crisp drum beat, a big golden deer bicycle carrying a beautiful bride slowly walked into the gate of the Liang family. There is no wedding dress, no welcoming procession, and no decent bride price, only two hearts that admire each other and have a heart-to-heart relationship, silently praying and blessing: in heaven I wish to be a winged bird, and on earth I wish to be a branch. We hold hands until the twilight, to the desolation of the earth, to the end of the old white!
This was my wedding, when I was in the army as the secretary of the regimental political department! Since then, my wife and I have joined hands with each other, supported each other, shared the wind and rain, shared the sunshine, and woven a beautiful dream of life!
This wedding has actually been a three-year overture.
My lover's surname is Zhang, her name is Guifeng, she is one year younger than me, there are 6 brothers and sisters, and she is the youngest in the family. My mother was 48 years old when she gave birth to her, which is called an old daughter in our local area.
Of course, she does not have the characteristics of pampering, dependence, selfishness, poor independence, etc., she has a soft personality, a lovely smile, a clean and neat work, and a warm and cheerful attitude, which has attracted the admiration of many young people.
Although our two families have one village north and one village south, we have been in the same class since primary school, and it was not until the first year of junior high school that we joined the village and joined the school. Therefore, we are not strangers to each other, and in some places we have a heart.
At the beginning of 1981, a few days before I was about to return from my first home visit, my second sister-in-law suddenly said to me, "How about introducing you to someone?" ”
I think, in this situation now, everything is changing, and everything can't see the edge, how can you talk about the object? A few days ago, someone had already introduced me to a few, and it didn't ripple in my heart. Could it be that there is no other cave this time? I didn't hold out any hope. But I still said casually: "Which girl can take a fancy to me as a soldier?" ”
She said, "You know this person, your classmate Zhang Guifeng." As soon as these words came out, my eyes lit up. Still, I calmly said, "It's her!" My second sister-in-law didn't understand what I meant at all, so she just said according to her own words: "I'll pull you in." ”
My second sister-in-law and she are cousins.
Two days passed, and there was no reply. Does the woman not agree? I thought to myself. Still, I'm confident about it. This self-confidence is based on my knowledge of their home.
My lover's father was an old worker, who didn't speak much, was hardworking and capable, and was a well-known loyal man in the village. In the early 60s of the last century, he responded to the country's call to support the construction of the Great Northwest and dedicated most of his life to the metallurgical industry. He came back once a year to visit his family and do his best as a father. Until his retirement in 1973, he lived a life of separation between Lao Yan and Yan.
Therefore, he doesn't have much to do with family affairs, including the marriage of his children, and he only comes forward at a critical moment. The big and small affairs of the family are almost all decided by my lover's mother.
My lover's mother is also a strong woman. Tall, clear-eyed, kind, and has her unique vision on the issue of children's marriage. She paid special attention to those who served as soldiers, and almost married several of her daughters to military personnel or people who had a military career.
I was in the barracks.
My lover has 5 sisters, although it is not a sinking fish and geese, and the moon is shy of flowers, it is also a small jasper, and the forest is beautiful. It has a good reputation in the village and is known as the "Five Sisters of the Zhang Family".
My wife has four older sisters, three of whom are married to the military. The second brother-in-law, Jiao Yugong, graduated from Nanjing Institute of Aeronautical Meteorology, and served in a flight station in Dandong, Liaoning Province for more than 20 years.
The third brother-in-law, Zhao Yukao, was originally a cadre of the 11th Division of the Jinan Military Region, and later transferred to the deputy manager of the Zibo People's Insurance Company.
The fourth brother-in-law, Wei Yuanming, also had a short history of being a soldier, was a model aircraft officer of a tank unit of the Nanjing Military Region, and when the college entrance examination was resumed in 1977, he gave up his pen and became a freshman at Changwei Medical College. Since then, he has embarked on the road of helping the world, treating diseases and saving people, and bringing hope and emotion to patients and their families on the medical front.
Her brother has always had a good impression of me. He and my eldest brother are the same age and play together. Once, when he came to visit my house, I was reading. He took the book and looked at it, and said in surprise: "If you read the anthology of great men at a young age, you will definitely have a future in the future!" ”
It is for these reasons that I believe that we will not encounter much resistance in her family. As for her, can she let me eat the closed door? I firmly believe that it will not!
Sure enough. One day, my second sister-in-law said, "Your classmate agreed to meet you." At this point, I was pleasantly surprised.
On this night, the bright moon hung in the blue sky.
Two young people who admired each other sat together. We talk about the world, the past and the future. I added fuel to the interesting things about the company and told her like a story. She listened carefully, seriously, and smiled sweetly from time to time.
That was the first time I sat alone with someone of the opposite sex. We talked for a long time, but I felt that time passed quickly. For the first time, I felt the sweetness, warmth, and happiness of being with someone of the opposite sex.
At parting, we gave each other love gifts in a way unique to young people of that era. I replaced her one, which was a little faded, with my new one. At that time, the green military uniform was a popular color for young people, and it was clean and elegant to wear, generous and fashionable. She gave me a pair of insoles embroidered with lotus flowers. It's not heavy, but it's a constant reminder that there's someone behind me to help me keep my feet on the ground and go straight.
Since then, we have passed on the book and started a long three-year military love song.
Although our marriage ceremony was simple, after all, it went through the process. Some military personnel get married more simply, and they don't even have a formality. Due to the influence of factors such as tight housing and poor economic wealth, many soldiers bring their loved ones to live in the army, even if they have completed major life events.
In order to take care of the situation, the military has a special excuse for the military. When I was at home, I told the villagers in Zhuangli about getting married in the army, and after returning to the team, I told the chief comrade-in-arms that the wedding had been held at home, and only the husband and wife knew it. This method of concealing the world and crossing the sea was the usual "tactic" adopted by many officers at that time.
I am already satisfied to have such a wedding, and all this is due to the hard work of my wife.
My lover and I are in love.
Half a year ago, my mother had already started to arrange for my marriage. My mother invited Sun Mu's family, which had the best craftsmanship in the village, to build a complete set of furniture such as a large wardrobe, writing desk, and sofa. She wore reading glasses and sewed the futon every day in the company of the big cat. In particular, my mother moved from the main house to a low side house and used it as a wedding room for me. Ask craftsmen to paint the walls, renovate the floors, hang the ceiling, and renovate the house.
Later, I heard my lover say that other people's furniture is contracted labor and materials. In order to make more use of the money in her hand, my mother bought her own materials and cooked her own meals, so she could save one.
To tell the truth, it is reasonable for my mother to make coarse tea and light rice, and it is really difficult for her to make a few exquisite hospitality delicacies. Once, Carpenter Sun said to my lover, "Your future mother-in-law cooks this meal, don't talk about eating, look at it and lose your appetite." But when I think of her character in the village, her heart for her children, and this little thing in life, I have nothing to say! ”
The line in the mother's hand, the wanderer's shirt. ......Whoever says an inch is careless, and he will be rewarded with three springs. "Mother's love cannot be reciprocated!
When I returned to the army with my wife, it was nearly a year old.
On the way back, I panicked at the thought that my life had not yet settled. But as soon as I entered the house, the scene in front of me made me feel emotional. In the small single dormitory, there are two single beds made of double beds, a warm stove, cooking utensils, and supplies for a small family ...... all availableIn this situation, a warm current surged into my heart!
It turned out that Zhong Wenbi and Ma Jingchang of the Political Department heard that I would be returning to the team with my lover in the near future, so they worked for me in advance. They cleaned my dormitory and furnished it in a simple, warm and romantic way. Officer Ma also spread his newly issued military quilt on my bed. They also set me a room for the kitchen and cooking utensils.
Their meticulous care for me, my little brother, will always be in my heart. Zhong Wenbi, a comrade-in-arms, a native of Hengyang, Hunan, enlisted in the army at the end of 1974, and later served as a regimental leader, a military division leader, with the rank of colonel, and is now living in Hengyang, Hunan. Officer Ma Jingchang enlisted in the army in 1969 and later returned to Yuhong District, Shenyang City, Liaoning Province, where he is now retired. The above words are my respect for the two brothers!
The first time my lover came to the team, life was poor and sweet. Approaching the Spring Festival, my lover and I went to Xicheng Huida to buy New Year's goods. After turning around, I felt that there was nothing to buy, and only brought back a hanging of pork liver. How? I muttered in my heart. I don't think I've ever killed a pig, haven't I seen a pig run?
So after washing and drying, I put it into the pot of kerosene stove. The fragrant smell makes people hungry. But after the pot, the first bite is full of bitterness, so it is not embarrassing. At this time, it dawned on me that I had not picked my guts. How can you eat this? Still has a trick for her lover, she put brown sugar, poured vinegar, mixed with green onion and ginger, and made a plate of cold dishes. This five-flavored flavor is really not difficult to taste.
Yes, sweet and sour, isn't it our daily life!
One weekend evening, we ushered in the reunion of our comrades-in-arms from Zibo.
I know the purpose of their coming, in addition to drinking, is to find out the true face of Lushan. Before they came, I said to the family, "Will you have stage fright when your comrades-in-arms come tomorrow?" Without thinking, my lover said, "What's the stage fright?" Could it be that they have three heads and six arms? ”
I said, "Not really." But you have to be a little mentally prepared, especially that Cong Weihua, who is sharp and sharp, and it is not easy to deal with. "Isn't it the first time I fell in love with the white beauty of the ceramic factory? I said, "Not bad!" ”
Early on the second day, my wife cleaned up the room, and the few items were placed in an orderly manner, and the dishes were prepared in advance. At that time, there was no good wine or food. Cut a plate of cabbage hearts, put a spoon of sugar, and drip a little sesame vinegar, it is a dish. Fried with peanuts, stir-fried with radish, and then bought some cooked food, it is a sumptuous table. On that day, more than a dozen comrades-in-arms packed the room.
I'm doing well, Cong Weihua is the first to attack. He bobbed the apples with a pole and let us stand on the chairs and nibble on them. I said, "We've already had weddings, so we're not doing that anymore, are we?" He didn't give up, and several comrades-in-arms also coaxed. We're left to their mercy.
After three rounds of wine and five flavors of food, my lover picked up the cup and said: "The presence of all fellow comrades-in-arms has made the humble house shine, and the two of us are very happy, I salute everyone." Wishing you all a prosperous Year of the Pig! Step by step! However, I have a special situation, I use water instead of wine, and dry it first as respect. Please look at your face! ”
After saying that, I drank it all. Comrades-in-arms, you look at me, I look at you, and I feel that there is no reason to refuse, so I have to raise a glass and respect.
Then my lover said: "I have just arrived, and the rural people have little knowledge, and I hope that you will care and help us more in the future!" Just now it was a separate toast, and now I will take a glass to each person, which is also the acquaintance wine and wedding wine we met for the first time, please don't refuse. ”
After speaking, he took two cups per person. My lover's flickering made the small room boil all at once. That night, not only did they not see the true face of Lushan, but a few comrades-in-arms showed their original forms.
Xu Yixin, a staff officer of the training unit, was my junior high school classmate, and he walked into the barracks with a wagon, and he was the most confidant of his fellow countrymen. Staff Officer Xu's fiancée is a Qingdao girl, tall and quiet, two people standing together, one is beautiful and beautiful, the other is tall and handsome, talented and beautiful, a natural pair.
Our two families sit together, there is a lot of space for chatting, and the nostalgia is stronger and more intimate. We pushed the cups, sang and indulged in wine, and drank heartily. In my consciousness full of alcohol, seeing the two family members quiet and elegant, down-to-earth and generous, graceful, and charming, I sighed in my heart, what is the difference between these two happy women, except for the difference of a household registration paper?
Staff Officer Xu and I have grown up in a similar way, except that he is engaged in military affairs and I am engaged in political work. In the end, he transferred to Qingdao, the coastal capital, and I transferred from the post of political commissar of the regiment to Jinan, the spring city.
Xu Zhenhua, the confidential officer of the regiment headquarters, is my good comrade-in-arms. He enlisted in the army in Linqu, Shandong Province in 1978. Speaking of him, we have a lot of connections between us. We were a company, a division training team that entered together, and the front and rear feet were promoted to cadres in the artillery training brigade of the military region, and later we worked together in the artillery brigade. We are very close to each other, like brothers with different surnames.
Later, my lover was transferred from the family factory to the brigade kindergarten as a teacher, which was a painstaking effort for him; The union between him and his lover also has a share of my credit.
He was single at the time, and he had nowhere to go on Sundays, so he came to my place for drinks and chats. We listened to the Taiwanese campus songs sung by Xie Lisi and Wang Jieshi of Sony Tape Recorder, and the two of them sat half-leaning in front of the three-draw table against the wall and missing a corner, pushing the glass and changing the lamp, chatting with the wine, and raising the glass frequently.
The family members will stir-fry vegetables and pour water for a while, and they will be very busy. Seeing this, Xu Zhenhua said drunkenly: "Brother, you have found a virtuous daughter-in-law, it is really enviable!" ”
When my family first arrived in the army, they were really not timid. It didn't take long for her to be a good neighbor and have a hot fight with her neighbors. It happened that the families of Zhu Deyou, the security officer of the Political Department, and Sun Xiaohai, the director of the organization unit, came to the team, and they had a good time together.
It is said that "three women in one play", but they sang harmony and family affection. They are all pregnant, communicate with each other, take care of each other, and introduce each other's experience of conditioning their men. Later, they all brought family heads to the world, and they often talked about each other!
My family is very pungent and honest, and I am not delicate when I am pregnant. When we went to Jimo County, my lover stood on the big carriage pulling the sake lees, against the cold wind, stepping on the slats on the sake lees, and dangling with the thin sake lees. Usually draught, but also the lover carried a bucket from the first floor, a gust of wind like a gust of wind upstairs, no worries about ......These behaviors, which make many pregnant women tremble, do not feel strange to her at all!
The troops also greeted the New Year.
On the first day of the Lunar New Year, officers and men walked around the military compound. My family and I walked in the crowd, greeting everyone from time to time and saying New Year's greetings.
Before we knew it, we came to the house of the political commissar of the regiment Su Jinbao. We were the first to pay New Year's greetings to the political commissar. The political commissar and his wife were hospitable, and immediately got up from the sofa and clasped their hands together: "Happy New Year to Xiaoliang and his wife!" We were just about to leave when the commissar suddenly asked, "I heard that you have shown movies in the past?" This sudden question made me wonder.
In an instant, I remembered that recently, the head of the film team, Geng, was clamoring to change jobs, but because he didn't find a suitable person, the organization never agreed, do you want me to take over his class?
In the past, I longed for a projection job, but now things have changed, my identity has also changed qualitatively, and the projectionist is no longer boring for me, and it is no longer my goal. The sudden mention of the political commissar sent chills down my spine and I gasped.
Political Commissar Su enlisted in the army from Changge, Henan Province in 1960 and was a very good political chief. He has good political work qualities, strong speech ability, is amiable to his subordinates, has high prestige among officers and men, and is the regimental political commissar appointed as an outstanding young cadre in the "combination of old, middle-aged, and young." At this time, he had been the political commissar of the regiment for eight years.
But since the commissar asked, I couldn't pretend to be deaf and dumb. So, I said tactfully: "Report to the political commissar, I did show movies for half a year before I joined the army, but I operated a small machine, and now I have almost forgotten about it." ”
Political Commissar Su was a person who understood, and he heard the meaning of the words from my answer. Since then, the matter has not been repeated.
Walking out of the Su political commissar's house, his lover hurriedly asked: "The political commissar asked you coldly what you meant by showing movies in the past?" I said, "What do you say?" "Will it let you play a movie?" "It's possible. ”
That's not going to work! ”
Why? "What's the point of putting on a movie? ”
I'll tell you, I used to be upset about not being a projectionist. ”
That's that, and it's now. I don't want you to put a movie. ”
Tell us why? ”
I can't tell. ”…
This question and answer along the way made me feel that every step I take and everything I do in the future is not only related to my future and destiny, but also to the happiness and future of a family!
Looking at the "Xiaofang" back then, as if she had become a military wife, for a while, I felt the burden and responsibility on my shoulders.