In the journey of life, what does a long-term relationship depend on to maintain it? This is a question worth pondering.
Historically, interpersonal relationships have often been seen as a place of exchange of interests. When you're young, many people will tell you that if you are genuine, you can have a long-lasting relationship. However, in the baptism of society, you will find that this is not entirely true.
Let's go through a couple of stories to ** this question.
Story 1: Dolonga and Zeng Guofan. Duolonga was a loyal supporter of Zeng, but after the Battle of Anqing, he resolutely left Zeng. The reason is that Zeng Guofan favored his younger brother when he was rewarding, which made Duolonga feel cold. He turned to Guanwen, the governor of Huguang, and made great achievements in the northwest. This story teaches us that when interests are compromised, it is only a matter of time before a relationship breaks down.
Story 2: Fan Zhongyan and Mei Yaochen. They used to be old friends, but when Fan Zhongyan was reused and Mei Yaochen was not on the recommendation list, Mei Yaochen felt betrayed and finally broke off his friendship with Fan Zhongyan. The story illustrates that when needs are not met, friendships also end.
Story 3: Qian Zhongshu and Huang Shuqin. Qian Zhongshu donated the film and television rights of "The Siege" to Huang Shuqin as a reward for her father Huang Zuolin's help. The story shows the mutually reinforcing relationship between interests and emotions.
In the end, Mr. Ji Xianlin once sighed: "The world is hot and cold, ancient and modern. His experience also teaches us that the exchange of interests in interpersonal relationships is universal.
To sum up, although friendship is important in the relationship between people, interests are more important. A relationship can last when the interests of both parties are satisfied. This is not a pessimistic view, but a deep understanding of human relationships. Only by recognizing this can we better handle interpersonal relationships and achieve mutual benefit.