On the emotional stage, everyone incarnates as a swordsman, holding the sword in their hearts, looking for a way forward in the fog of love.
Sometimes we do something on the spur of the moment that we regret later. We can also be too cautious and miss out on a great opportunity.
In this world of complex emotions, whether you are a couple or a lover, there is one thing that should not be dominated by you. Because if you're ahead, you've already lost.
It's about trying to change others.
After falling in love, many people will unconsciously have the idea that if the other party becomes better, our relationship will definitely become more perfect.
So they start to try to change each other in their own way - hoping that the other person will change their bad habits, hoping that the other person will become more in line with their expectations.
But they often miss the most important point. "Everyone is a unique individual with their own ideas and habits. Forcing someone to change will only cause pain on both sides. ”
In love, what we need to learn is not to change or shape, but to accept and respect.
If you try to change the other person, you will lose respect and trust in the relationship.
We begin to doubt each other's abilities and worth, and we begin to evaluate and judge each other by our own standards.
Such an approach will not only bring stress and anxiety to the other person, but also fill our hearts with contradictions and conflicts.
True love is tolerance and acceptance.
We fall in love with a real person with a myriad of strengths and weaknesses, not an idealized fantasy in our heads.
If you can't accept each other for who you really are, how can this relationship last?
Of course, that doesn't mean you can't exchange ideas and opinions with each other.
In the process of getting along, it is inevitable that there will be some friction and disagreement.
At this point, we can choose to express our feelings and thoughts in a gentle way, but be mindful of ways and means so that the other person does not feel attacked or forced.
Love is an encounter of the heart.
In this encounter, what we need to learn is not condemnation and change, but listening and understanding.
Only by truly knowing how to respect and understand each other can you build a good relationship.
Trying to change a person is a selfish act.
We always want each other to live the way we want, but we ignore their feelings and needs.
This kind of love is not really love, but a kind of control and possession.
True love will give the other person a feeling of freedom and comfort, let him belong to his own world, and feel happy.
Therefore, whether it is a husband and wife or a lover, they should not try to change each other.
We need to learn to appreciate and cherish each other's uniqueness. This is because these unique qualities are important elements that make up the other person's attraction.
If we can understand this, our feelings will definitely become more harmonious and beautiful.
In this era of rapid change, it is a rare fate to meet someone who is willing to spend the rest of our lives with us.
We must cherish this fate, and don't destroy this beauty because we want to change each other.
Learn how to water the flowers of this relationship with love and respect. I believe that the flowers will bloom more vividly.
Remember, love is not war. There are no winners or losers.
The most important thing in the world of love is not to change the other person, but to learn to grow and progress with the other person.
Only by truly understanding this can you find your way to the other side of happiness.
I hope everyone can find their own happiness and satisfaction in the world of love.