Why do some women usually don't talk much, but as long as they open their mouths, everyone will agree.
This is because she knows how to speak in proportion, only when she needs to speak, and not because she can't say a word.
A woman with real great wisdom will abide by her duty when she gets along with others, and will never "talk" about other people's lives.
Sanmao, a travel writer, married and lived in the Sahara Desert with her husband Jose, where civilization was still relatively backward.
After Sanmao settled down in his daily life, when he visited his neighbors, he found that the local living habits were relatively backward, so he volunteered to show the local women better living habits.
She thought she could guide others to a better life, but she was unexpectedly devastated.
After seeing that she had a lot of good things, the local women would come to her house every day to borrow something, even if it was a bowl or a pair of chopsticks, they would take it home, and there would be no return date.
If Sanmao hesitates a little and doesn't want to borrow, it will be considered undeserved.
Later, Sanmao reflected on herself, and she understood a truth, that is:
"Don't get involved in someone else's fixed habits easily, because you can't afford to change them. ”When getting along with others, you should pay attention to your sense of proportion, and don't take it for granted that what you think is good will also be good for others.
Maybe you have abundant material conditions, but for the other party, it is out of reach.
A wise woman will follow the law of cause and effect, believe in the philosophical idea that existence is reasonable, never intervene in other people's cause and effect, and break the peaceful life philosophy of others.
There is a saying in the TV series "The Way of Heaven" that is:
"I don't argue with others anymore, because everyone can only think from their own point of view, and if you say 1+1=3, I will laugh and say that you are amazing. ”Cognition of this kind of thing, only when you reach that level, will you have corresponding thinking.
If not, when you try to raise a person's cognition, you will find that it is pulling out the seedlings to help them.
A wise woman understands that everyone has their own destiny, everyone has their own way to go, since they can't be responsible for other people's lives, don't talk about other people's cognition.
If you talk too much, there is a high probability that the result is that others are happy to live, but because you start to doubt life.
There is a saying in Buddhism that is:
"Bodhisattvas fear causes, and sentient beings fear effects. ”Wise people are afraid of causes, but ordinary people are afraid of results.
Usually a wise woman will only take care of herself and never talk about others, because once she talks too much, it will disrupt the order of other people's lives and affect other people's life values.
If you can't continue to be accountable to others, don't get involved in attribution in the first place.
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