My name is Zhang Xiaomei, I am 28 years old, and I am a middle school Chinese teacher in the city. Two years ago, I met my husband Wang Jun, who is 3 years older than me and works as a sales manager in a foreign company. We lived in his parents' old house in the suburbs after we got married.
I have a good relationship with my father-in-law, Lehi, who is a gentle old man. But I didn't get along with my mother-in-law, Li Sufen. My mother-in-law has a strong personality and a very patriarchal mentality, and she always looks down on me as a daughter-in-law.
Xiaomei, come and help me peel the apples. Early in the morning, the mother-in-law's voice sounded downstairs.
I hurriedly washed up, took my apron and went downstairs: "Come mother-in-law, sit still, I'll cut it for you." ”
My mother-in-law didn't even look at me, and said to herself: "My son is so good, it is your blessing that you marry in, and you will serve him and the old man of our family well in the future, do you know?"”
I held back my emotions and said with a smile, "I know my mother-in-law, don't worry." ”
After peeling the apple, I brought it to my mother-in-law, who looked at it with a frown and said, "You cut it too thickly, you can't eat it, next time you will light it." ”
I can only nod yes again. My mother-in-law made things difficult for me every day, intentionally or unintentionally, and I couldn't bear to tell my husband for fear that he would be embarrassed.
After I got married, I quit my job as a teacher in the city and got a job as a Chinese teacher at a local school so that I could spend more time taking care of my parents-in-law. My mother-in-law didn't say that I looked down on her family, so I didn't work at the work unit she introduced.
I explained many times, but my mother-in-law just wouldn't listen. Yesterday, she suddenly said that she wanted me to pay 200,000 yuan as a dowry, and I was stunned when I heard it.
Mother-in-law, what do you mean by that?I asked tentatively.
What does that mean?My son found a woman from an ordinary background like you, and you should pay a gift money to express your gratitude, this is the rule. The mother-in-law said confidently.
I couldn't help but raise my voice: "How can there be such a dowry rule now!."Why should I give money to your family, I didn't buy a daughter-in-law!”
You don't know what to do, what kind of thing are you, and you deserve to put forward conditions to me?”
Mother-in-law, I can't give money to your family, it's unreasonable!I raised my voice and said.
It's up to me whether it's right or not!If you don't pay, get out of this house!"My mother-in-law's face was flushed, and she looked like she was going to drive me out.
What right do you have to drive me away?I am your son's legal wife!"I'm also red-eyed, not to be outdone.
Just as we were arguing, my husband came back. My mother-in-law immediately pointed to my nose and said, "Look at this unfilial daughter-in-law, she refused when I made a small request, and she talked back to me!".We have raised her for so long, she should pay some gift money to express gratitude, this is the basic truth!”
I looked at my husband and said eagerly: "Brother Jun, you have to be fair, why should I give your family money?"I'm not the daughter-in-law I bought!”
The husband frowned, obviously embarrassed. He persuaded me: "Mom's request may be a bit excessive, but don't worry about her, just pay a form of gift money, and respect and respect Mom." ”
My eyes widened and I was disappointed: "Just because it was your mother's request, I have to listen to her even if it is unreasonable?"Brother Jun, are you so fair?”
My husband said helplessly: "I understand your feelings, but you also have to be considerate of my mother's position." After all, she is old, and some of her ideas are more traditional. We young people should not worry about the older generation, be more tolerant, and we will still have to live. ”
I was so angry that I said directly to my mother-in-law: "Li Sufen, let me tell you, I won't give you a penny!."My parents won't say yes either!You want to chase me away, but there is no door!”
After that, I rushed back to the room, slammed the door shut, and completely turned my face with my mother-in-law.
Later, I told my parents that my mother-in-law wanted me to pay a dowry. My dad was angry and immediately called ** to reason with my mother-in-law.
Hey, I'm Xiaomei's dad. Sophie, what do you mean?Do you want my daughter to pay a dowry?You bought and sold my daughter as a commodity?!My dad yelled.
My dad didn't let my mother-in-law speak, and continued to yell, "Show respect for a ghost!."I'm telling you, my daughter is married, not sold!Your request is ridiculous, I will never agree!”
Then she won't stay at my house, let her get out!"My mother-in-law also lost her temper.
What right do you have to evict people?That's my daughter's home, and she's legally your son's wife!"My dad was even angrier.
The two of them quarreled endlessly, making her mother-in-law's chickens fly and dogs jump. I was actually very anxious in my heart, for fear that this matter would affect my relationship with my husband.
In the end, it was my mother who intervened. She softly persuaded her mother-in-law: "Sister Sufen, don't embarrass us Xiaomei, she has only been married to your family for a few months, everyone is a relative, don't worry about it, okay?"Our family is asking for you. ”
My mother's attitude was sincere, and my mother-in-law couldn't force it anymore, so she could only agree to cancel this request. But she still didn't have a good face, and she sneered at me.