"The love of parents for their children is far-reaching. This is a profound interpretation of the love of parents by the ancients.
Sometimes, however, this deep love may inadvertently become a shackle that binds the flight of children, or even "consume" their blessings.
In the picture scroll of life, parents, as the original writers, undoubtedly have a profound impact on the future of their children. But if the love is too heavy and turns into doting, interference, or neglect, then the sky for the child may be darkened.
Too much love is not necessarily a blessing; If you manage it too widely, it may become a disaster.
When parents make mistakes in these areas, their children's blessings may be unknowingly wiped out.
In fact, the biggest stupidity of parents is that they "consume" their children's blessings in these aspects.
1. Excessive spoiling, depriving children of the opportunity to grow independently
Xiao Ming was born in a wealthy family, his parents doted on him, and from childhood to adulthood, his every need was unconditionally met by his parents. At home, Xiao Ming never needs to do housework, nor does he need to be responsible for his own study and life. Gradually, Xiao Ming became dependent and lacked the ability to think independently and solve problems.
When Xiao Ming left his family and entered society, he found himself hitting walls everywhere. At work, he is unable to adapt to a collaborative team environment and is unable to take on tasks independently. In life, he doesn't know how to manage his finances and often can't make ends meet. Xiao Ming begins to realize that his parents' past doting did not bring him true happiness, but instead deprived him of the opportunity to grow independently.
This story tells us that parents spoil their children too much, and they may lose the ability to live independently. True love should be to cultivate children's independent thinking and problem-solving skills, so that they can be self-reliant in their future lives.
2. Excessive interference restricts children's personalities and dreams
Xiaofang has had a strong interest in painting since she was a child, and her dream is to become a good painter. However, her parents saw no future in painting and forced her to give up this dream and apply for medicine instead. Under the pressure of her parents, Xiaofang reluctantly gave up her dream.
After entering university, Xiaofang had no interest in medicine, and her grades were mediocre. She felt lost and depressed and lost faith in the future. At the same time, she saw that those peers who insisted on their dreams had achieved remarkable results in their respective fields, and her heart was full of regret and unwillingness.
This story teaches us that parents who interfere too much in their children's choices can tie their personalities and dreams. Everyone has their own interests and talents, and only by realizing their full potential can they realize the value of life. Parents should respect their children's choices and give them space and support to pursue their dreams.
3. Lack of companionship and communication, resulting in a lack of emotion for children
Xiaoqiang is a left-behind child whose parents work outside the home all year round to make a living, and have little time to spend with him. Xiaoqiang longs for the love and companionship of his parents, but every time his parents come back, they always rush to buy him some toys and snacks, and then leave in a hurry.
Over time, Xiaoqiang became lonely and introverted, and he was reluctant to communicate with people or participate in group activities. His academic performance gradually declined, and he even developed behavioral problems. When the parents learned of this, they were heartbroken, but it was too late.
This story reveals the serious impact of parents' lack of companionship and communication on their children's feelings. In the process of children's growth, the companionship and love of parents are crucial. Only by establishing a deep parent-child relationship can children be emotionally satisfied and supported, so as to grow up healthily.