In life, there are many friends who are looking for a life partner, and after going on blind dates and making friends again and again, they will inevitably be a little helpless, thinking in their hearts: "Why hasn't my right person appeared?" ”
This scene is like a realistic version of an emotional drama, where everyone is going through various processes of searching, losing, and revitalizing.
Sometimes they grope in the crowd, sometimes look up at the sky and ask questions, just to find their own fate.
Therefore, let's chat together about the things we encountered in the process of finding a partner, and how to adjust our strategies, improve ourselves, and let more opportunities knock on the door, and finally find the destined sweetheart.
Let's say you're a single otaku with a bit of social anxiety, first of all, I'm going to say: brother, stepping out of the house and stepping into the real world is the first step in your love journey. You must know that no matter how wonderful the virtual world behind the computer screen is, it cannot replace the realism and temperature of face-to-face communication with people in reality. Whether you're a fan of anime, games, or books, your she's probably hidden in a hobby group, an offline party, or a casual street encounter.
Yes, it's not easy to step out of your comfort zone, especially for introverts like us. But you have to understand that every time you take the initiative to participate in social activities, it is a challenge and breakthrough for yourself. Only by really coming out can you broaden your horizons, improve your social skills, and increase your chances of meeting the person you like. It's like an adventure, and while it may start out a little nervous and unsettling, it's only by moving forward that you can discover the wider world and reap unexpected surprises.
So, don't be afraid of embarrassment, don't worry about failure, and actively participate in all kinds of social activities! Every attempt is a growth, and the successful step of finding a life partner is often hidden in this series of actions that bravely step out of the comfort zone. Come on, buddy!
Suppose you are a single person with relatively good conditions, it is inevitable that you will be a little picky when looking for your other half. However, what I want to say is: first of all, let go of those overly strict rules, try to discover and contact others with a sensual eye, and believe that the emotional connection between people is the core of love. Sometimes, the pursuit of the perfect match on objective conditions may miss the most precious feelings.
You must know that there is no absolute equivalent exchange in the emotional world, but resonance in interaction, and find a place to appreciate and rely on each other in common interests, values and even the trivialities of life. Try toning down the requirements in favor of a more comprehensive evaluation system, such as the personality traits, like-mindedness and how you feel about each other.
Maybe one of her objective conditions does not fully meet your expectations, but as long as you can share happiness and tide over difficulties together, the tacit understanding and emotional support that arises from the bottom of your heart may make up for the so-called "shortcomings". Therefore, don't let those seemingly rigid requirements bind you, be brave enough to open your heart, accept and understand different people with a more tolerant attitude, and maybe you will inadvertently find the soul mate that makes your heart flutter.
Let's say you've experienced pain and hurt on an emotional path, and you're still afraid to start again, fearing to repeat the same mistakes. What I want to say to you is this: the scars of the past have become history, like dust returning to the earth, and earth returning to tranquility. Those old times are heavy, but they shouldn't be a shackle to the future and embrace new possibilities.
Everyone will inevitably experience some emotional stumbles in their lives, and they may have taught you to grow and cherish. However, we must not let the frustrations and pains of the past hinder our pursuit of happiness. Every fall is to get back up better, and every wound will scab over and become part of your life's armor.
Believe that time can dilute everything and empower you. Be brave enough to open the door that closes your heart and accept new emotions into your world. When facing the next journey, you can take the past with you without having to carry the shadow of the past. Because only by letting go of the past can you really travel light, meet the person who is likely to spend the rest of your life with you, and create a new story of your own.
Suppose you have not encountered the above situation, but you have some kind of inferiority complex and anxiety deep down, which may be about your temperament, personality, height and appearance, or personal background such as your family of origin. In the face of such troubles, I want to tell you that there must be people in this world who are similar to you, who are also looking for a sense of self-identity, and who are eager to find a group that can accept and understand them.
Take the initiative to find groups that share your experiences or feelings, where you will find many like-minded friends. These companions can understand your worries and anxieties, as they have been through similar journeys. In such a group, your concerns will be understood and accepted, and you will even receive encouragement and support from your peers, who will provide you with confidence and strength through their own experiences.
What's even more gratifying is that there are many people in this group who have successfully overcome difficulties and found a happy life, and they are your "leaders", who are willing to share their experience and wisdom, help you guide you, and help you get out of the fog of your heart. So, please be brave enough to open your heart and integrate into the world that belongs to you, maybe it is there that you will be pleasantly surprised to discover your worth, and finally resolve that senseless inferiority complex and anxiety, and move towards a brighter path in life.
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