In fact, everyone has had the experience of secretly liking someone, and then always thinking, "Oh, does he like me too?" ”
This is super common, like a daily routine.
The main reason why we care about this issue is to make ourselves more confident when we confess and improve our chances of success.
However, if this matter is not handled well, it may cause all kinds of jokes and even make the relationship a little awkward.
So, let's talk about it today, when you find yourself thinking about this matter, how to observe, analyze and deal with it, try to make your crush no longer unrequited, but also avoid some unnecessary misunderstandings and embarrassment, and strive to make the confession go smoothly.
When you like someone, we are often like being hit by the magic wand of emotion, although this feeling is both normal and heartbeat-fast, but it should be noted that when you pay attention to the other person wholeheartedly, and cherish his or her advantages, your judgment may become unreliable, just like wearing special glasses to see the world, and may not be able to see the real situation.
At this point, you do need an "outsider" role, possibly a friend or relative, who can help you calmly analyze from the perspective of a bystander.
Their value lies in helping you identify behaviors and thoughts that can lead to awkward situations when your emotions are surging.
To put it simply, when you silently like someone, find someone to help you analyze it rationally, which can not only make you feel the beauty of this liking, but also avoid doing things that embarrass both parties due to wishful thinking.
When you like someone, your mood is like being carried by an emotional boat floating on the lake, and the occasional breeze will make you think a lot.
For example, when the person you have a crush on inadvertently throws a glance at you, oops, do you feel like the whole world is quiet at that moment, as if there are a thousand words hidden in his or her gaze? You can't help but think, "Does this glance mean that he or she is actually paying attention to me silently?" Do you also have special feelings for me? Or is this a hint that I should take action and go further? ”
Every time he glances in the crowd, likes and comments in the circle of friends, or even occasionally asks you for help or chats a few words, these small interactions can cause ripples in your heart.
You can imagine that maybe these are the ways in which he or she is trying to get close to you and express affection for you.
However, in this process full of romantic imagination, it is easy for us to let subjective emotions take over, which requires a friend or relative who can talk to you (military advisor) who can help you look at it from another angle, remind you not to jump to conclusions, and to look at and deal with these small details sensibly, so as to avoid embarrassment and distress caused by misunderstandings.
Although we emphasize that we can't be too subjective when speculating about each other's intentions, in the world of love, sometimes there is a wonderful fate of "Wang Ba looks at mung beans - eyes on the eyes".
In case you and your crush happen to be in love with each other, this moment is especially precious.
At this time, you should actively mobilize the military team around you and plan with them how to skillfully approach each other's small circle, so that the lives and interests of both parties gradually intersect.
Know that in face-to-face communication, some words may be difficult to say due to shyness or apprehension, and sometimes even say something against your heart.
However, once you successfully integrate into the other person's circle of friends, things can be very different.
In the process of group interaction, you will find that the other party may indirectly express their emotions through the conversation between friends, or borrow the mouths of others to convey those hidden words in the heart, as if they are gently blown by the wind and float into your ears, so that you can more clearly perceive the hidden emotional signals.
Therefore, instead of figuring out and analyzing the subtle expressions and reactions of the people who have a crush on each other alone, it is better to start with the relatives and friends around both parties, take a bold assumption, carefully verify the method, and indirectly understand the true intentions of the other party through their feedback and communication.
After all, there is more trust between friends and family, and their words and observations tend to provide more objective and truthful clues.
Such a conclusion would undoubtedly be more reliable than unilateral speculation.
Finally, let's think about it: when facing emotional puzzles, is it possible to adopt such a way that not only avoids misunderstandings and embarrassment, but also improves the success rate of our search for sincerity? What do you think of this approach?
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