My name is Li Yingying, I am 38 years old this year, I am a kind mother in the eyes of my children, and I am a filial daughter-in-law in the eyes of my in-laws. But I couldn't stand my husband's domestic violence and divorced, and I am currently living alone with my daughter. And Zhao Rui is my first love, and it is also an indelible pain in my heart.
Ten years ago, we were the most enviable couple on campus. However, a trick of fate caused us to part ways during graduation season. I chose to return to my hometown, while he stayed in the big city to work hard.
A few years later, at the urging of my family, I married a man and soon gave birth to a daughter. However, the marriage was not as good as I had imagined. My husband's indifference and domestic violence tormented me. Finally, when my daughter was five years old, I chose to divorce.
And he, after graduating from university, entered a large company to work, and with his outstanding ability and hard work, he was quickly promoted. However, the success of his career did not bring him happiness. His wife has a strong personality and often makes unreasonable accusations and suppresses against him. Gradually, he felt tired and helpless.
A few years later, he divorced his wife and raised his son alone.
By chance, we met again. Each other's experiences resonated with their state of mind. We began to keep in touch frequently, reminiscing about the past, and sharing the joys and sorrows of the present. Gradually, we found that there was still a place in each other's hearts.
After spending some time together, we decided to remarry. I took my daughter, and he took my son, and formed a new family. However, happiness did not come as expected.
Life after remarriage is not as good as we imagined. Since we both have children, we often get into arguments about our children. My daughter often cries because she misses her biological father, and his son is rebellious because he doesn't adapt to his new environment.
In addition, we also found that each other's personalities and habits have changed a lot. She becomes sensitive and suspicious, while he becomes impatient and irritable. These changes have made it difficult for us to get along.
Gradually, we begin to feel tired and helpless. We tried to communicate and solve problems, but in the end we couldn't overcome our conflicts and differences.
In the end, our marriage ended in a fiasco. We realize that our union does not solve each other's problems and pains. What we need to face is our own hearts and past choices.
I went back to raising my daughter on my own, and he continued to raise him on his own. Although their lives seem to be back to square one, we all know that we are no longer the simple, carefree young people.
After this failed marriage, I began to reflect on my past and future. I realized that I needed to be independent and strong in life, and I also needed to learn to deal better with relationships and emotional issues. I started working and studying hard to make myself better and more attractive.
And he is also reflecting on his past and future. He realized that he needed to learn to better communicate and express his emotions and needs, while also paying more attention to his own and his children's inner world. He began to try to reconcile with his ex-wife so that they could better raise their children together.
Although our marriage didn't end up in the end, we both learned a lot of valuable lessons from it. We understand that life is not always smooth sailing, and sometimes it takes some setbacks and failures to make us more mature and strong.