In the interweaving of love and disappointment, life is like an intricate picture, and I, Ms. Chen, can't help but fall into deep thought. After the ups and downs of my marriage, I regained my second relationship in the face of adversity. However, fate does not seem to have given me an easy path, but is full of thorns.
I'm Ms. Chen, a 41-year-old woman who came out of her first marriage eight years ago. The reason for the divorce is because the ex-husband made a mistake of principle. We had a daughter who was only 9 years old at the time. Considering that I might remarry, I left my daughter with my ex-husband. This decision seemed wise at the time, but it caused many twists and turns later in life.
After the divorce, my ex-husband gave the house to me and I started living on my own. At first, I felt ashamed and afraid to disclose the fact of divorce to my colleagues. Two years later, my mom started matching me with hope, hoping that I would be able to find happiness again. After several unsuccessful introductions, I met a man surnamed Wei.
He is 8 years older than me, works in the system, is also divorced, and has a daughter. Our acquaintance originated from the introduction of relatives, and I felt that he was good when we first met, gentle and compatible. We spent three months together and found that we had a lot in common in terms of our views and views on life. So, we discussed entering the palace of marriage.
Before we get married, we discuss the details of living together, including the choice of where to live. He advocated living in my house because his house had not been renovated and my house was ready to go. I insisted that a married woman should live in a man's house, and eventually he agreed to renovate his house, albeit simply. I don't care about the luxury of the house, I just want to live a simple and happy life.
We got the certificate, he gave me a ring and asked about the bride price, and I didn't want to ask for too much, considering that he had just spent a lot on the house and furniture. He was touched by my understanding and promised to manage all future wages with me. I want to live happily ever after him and not pursue a cumbersome bride price or wedding.
After we got married, we planned to have a child together. A year later, I gave birth to our daughter. However, as life expands, so does our financial burden, and car loans and child support for our daughters make life stressful. I started going to work, but he suddenly changed his attitude towards money and no longer gave me all his salary, but limited my living expenses to 2,000 yuan per month.
I was unhappy with this change, and we had a conflict because of it. He became savvy with money and did not disclose his true income. He was asked many times about his salary, but he was always refused. I found out that he actually had an income of 10,000 yuan a month, but only gave me 2,000 yuan, which made me angry. Although he promised to manage all his salaries, he was actually hiding his finances.
What made me even more disappointed was that he had become stingy in his support for his daughter. He firmly opposed my proposal to enroll my daughter in some extracurricular classes, believing that it was a waste of money. This makes me unable to understand why he is so frugal with his daughter, is it because he is afraid of spending too much?
In the past two years, he has suddenly become obsessed with a new hobby, which is to go out and play cards every night, even to the point of obsession. He didn't care about his family and came home at 12 o'clock in the evening, and when my daughter and I needed him, he preferred to play cards. It made me feel angry and helpless.
I used to think that his ex-wife left him because of a personality incompatibility, but I didn't know until later that it was because of his bad habits. I felt cheated and my heart was filled with disappointment and frustration. Faced with such a man, I was in a deep predicament, and I didn't know how to choose.
His attitude made me conflicted, I didn't want to divorce because I was afraid of hurting my daughter, but I couldn't stand it either. His indifference and irresponsibility made me feel aggrieved and hovered on the brink of pain every day. In this dilemma, I don't know how to choose, what to do. Perhaps, this is a choice that requires deep thinking and courage.
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