In 2014, accompanied by his mother and doctor, Liu Ting, who had been selected as a "national moral model", held a press conference about his gender.
It was also at this press conference that the 28-year-old Liu Ting confessed for the first time in public that he thought "he was a girl".
Although Liu Ting suffered a lot of doubts in a short period of time due to this press conference, he still resolutely embarked on the road of "sex reassignment surgery".
Now, 10 years have passed since this press conference, and Liu Ting's sex reassignment surgery has also been done for nearly ten years.
What kind of life does Liu Ting live now? Has he become a transgender person now accepted by the world?
01 Difficult childhood.
In 1986, Liu Ting was born in an ordinary family in Huzhou, Zhejiang.
As the only boy in the family, Liu Ting has been loved by the whole family since the day he was born.
Especially his mother, Lu Yongmin, regards her baby son as the most precious gift from God.
Under the care of his parents, Liu Ting grew up day by day, and his appearance became more and more beautiful.
Sometimes, some uninformed people can't help but praise when they see Liu Ting's appearance: "This is a little girl, right?" She looks so pretty! ”
Although everyone recognized Liu Ting as a girl, considering that everyone's original intention was to praise, neither Lu Yongmin nor her husband took it to heart.
But they didn't expect that these words would make their baby son Liu Ting have a different idea.
I don't know when it started, whenever Liu Ting heard people around him praise him for being as delicate as a little girl, his heart would fall into great confusion and sadness.
These sadness does not come from everyone thinking that he looks like a girl, but because Liu Ting doesn't understand: "Why do you just look like a girl, not a girl?" ”
It turns out that since Liu Ting was sensible, he has been very fond of beautiful flower dresses, cute dolls, and even his mother's cosmetics, he is also full of curiosity.
But whenever he asked his parents for these toys, his parents would always refuse his request on the grounds that he was "unmanly".
There was even a time when his father would take him to meet some boys of the same age, which was called "cultivating masculinity".
Occasionally, Liu Ting will be criticized and educated by his parents because he likes girls' items too much.
The young Liu Ting didn't understand, why couldn't he be a girl when he was so much like a girl?
But before Liu Ting could think of the answer to this question, an accident made him completely give up this idea.
It was one day in 1999, Liu Ting was 13 years old this year, had just entered junior high school, and had grown into a little teenager.
But before his parents could celebrate his growth for him, his mother was completely bedridden because of uremia.
The mother who lost her job, the dialysis that she needed to do every two days, and the bottles and cans of medicine prescribed by the doctor hollowed out this ordinary family in a very short period of time.
In the process of dialysis day after day**, the doctor also found that Lu Yongmei's physical function was also declining.
If you want Lu Yongmei to recover her health, kidney replacement is the only solution.
When she learned the news, both Lu Yongmei and her husband fell into silence for a long time.
After all, it was the beginning of the 21st century, an era when the per capita salary was only a few hundred yuan, and a major operation such as kidney replacement that required hundreds of thousands of yuan was simply a fantasy for ordinary people like them.
But looking at his son, who is only 13 years old, Lu Yongmin can't say anything about giving up.
After all, what if there is a mother who doesn't want to see her child grow up healthy, marry a wife and have children?
Sensing his wife's desire to survive, Liu Ting's father made an important decision after thinking about it for a long time - he wanted to go out to work to earn money to support his family.
Although such a decision would make their family of three experience the pain of separation, considering the economic situation in Huzhou at that time, Lu Yongmin still agreed to her husband's proposal.
But she didn't expect that it was her own simplicity that made her son's life go through many hardships.
02 Carry your mother to school.
It turned out that since Liu Ting's father left home to work, he has not heard from him. Not to mention sending home living expenses, even a **, my father has never called.
The departure of his father undoubtedly put Liu Ting and his mother in a desperate situation. One is a sick person who has lost his labor force, and the other is a junior high school student who is going to school, how do they have to face the difficulties of life?
In the end, with the help of relatives and friends, Liu Ting and his mother's life was able to survive.
And the burden of taking care of his mother naturally fell on Liu Ting's head.
In those years, he had to dress, feed, and massage his mother every day. All the housework at home also fell on Liu Ting's shoulders alone.
Whenever Lu Yongmin came to the day of dialysis, Liu Ting carried his mother on his back early and embarked on the road to the hospital.
Seeing that the child she has cared for since she was a child and now has to face so many tribulations, the mother is not to mention how distressed.
But no matter how hard and tired he was, Liu Ting never complained.
In order to reassure his mother, Liu Ting also studied harder to ensure that his studies were always at the top of the class.
In the year of the college entrance examination, Liu Ting's score far exceeded the first line in Zhejiang Province that year.
But when it came time to volunteer, Liu Ting made a difficulty.
Because according to his grades, almost all of the schools closest to his home are in Hangzhou. But the distance from Hangzhou to Liu Ting's house is also hundreds of kilometers.
What should my mother do if she does go to college?
In the summer vacation after the college entrance examination, everyone else was playing happily, but Liu Ting was not happy at all.
Even in some moments, Liu Ting also came up with the idea of dropping out of school to work.
After thinking about it for a while, Liu Ting came up with the idea of taking his mother to college: "If my mother can follow me to live in the university, will all the problems be solved soon?" ”
Just do it, Liu Ting immediately called Zhejiang A&F University.
After learning what happened to Liu Ting, the school immediately arranged a special dormitory for their mother and son.
Even the hospital specially applied for a work-study opportunity for Liu Ting.
And with Liu Ting's enrollment, the story of him going to college behind his mother's back has also gained a lot of attention.
An earth-shattering change is also quietly approaching.
03 From moral role model to transgender.
Since Liu Ting's deeds of taking his mother to school have been paid attention to, he has suddenly become the focus of everyone's attention.
In China, a country that values "benevolence, righteousness, propriety, wisdom and faith", Liu Ting's behavior has undoubtedly become a model for the whole society.
In order to help the mother and son, the Affiliated Hospital of Fudan University also set up a medical team to help.
Caring people from all walks of life also offered their love for the first time and raised enough surgery fees for Liu Ting's mother and son.
In order to help his mother change his kidney, Liu Ting also expressed his willingness to donate his kidney to his mother.
Unfortunately, due to perennial malnutrition, Liu Ting did not pass the preoperative examination at that time. In the end, with the help of the medical team, a suitable kidney source was found for Lu Yongmin.
In 2007, Liu Ting, who was in his sophomore year, also won the title of "National Moral Model" and became the object of praise from countless people.
But with the changes in life, Liu Ting's heart is also experiencing a huge storm.
He used to have to think about taking care of his mother every day, and he didn't have time to think about his inner world. He doesn't care if he's a man or a woman.
But as the burden on his body was reduced, Liu Ting's heart became more and more tormented.
Especially when he went to the elementary school and shared stories with the students, listening to his younger brothers and sisters admiringly calling himself "Brother Liu", Liu Ting's heart would always rise a trace of guilt: "Do I really think I am a boy?" ”
In order to figure out what he was thinking, one day in 2013, Liu Ting, who had already worked, ran to the psychological counseling room without telling his mother to find an answer.
It was this experience of seeing a doctor that made Liu Ting understand that he was suffering from a rare disease - "transsexuality".
Under the effect of this disease, which has a disease rate of only 1 in 150,000, Liu Ting always feels that he is a girl in his heart.
After learning the reason, a bold idea came to Liu Ting's heart: "I want to be a real girl!" ”
Driven by this thought, Liu Ting mustered up the courage to confess his inner world to his mother.
Although the mother hid in the bathroom and cried helplessly, when she thought of her son taking care of himself day after day with so many years of inner torment, the mother felt that the world was not so important.
Even for many days and nights, Lu Yongmei also had deep self-blame: "If I had given birth to Liu Ting as a daughter at the beginning, would the child not be so painful?" ”
Accompanied by his mother, Liu Ting soon found a hospital willing to operate on him.
In order to alleviate the negative impact of this incident, on the afternoon of August 14, 2014, Liu Ting also held a press conference to tell his mental journey.
Although after this press conference, Liu Ting was also attacked and questioned on the Internet, but none of this stopped his determination to become a girl.
In June 2015, after a ten-month reconstruction, Liu Ting finally became a woman in the legal and biological sense, and obtained an ID card with a female gender.
In order to adapt to his new identity, Liu Ting also changed his name to Liu Ting.
From the secular "filial son" to the shocking "transgender", although Liu Ting's controversy is getting bigger and bigger, for the sake of a woman's dignity and identity, Liu Ting is willing to face all gossip.
In 2015, Liu Ting, who had undergone surgery, also participated in the Miss Global International contest and finally won the "Most Beautiful Butterfly Change" award.
As the first Chinese transgender person to participate in the competition, Liu Ting's courage has undoubtedly brought courage to many people who are suffering from "transsexuality" like him!
In the following years, in order to speak out for the special group of women and transgender women, Liu Ting also quit his original job and became an anchor, often sharing his life experiences and insights online.
With his unique life experience, Liu Ting not only has a large number of fans, but also has appeared in many variety shows.
Today's Liu Ting is 38 years old. It has been ten years since she underwent sex reassignment surgery, although she rarely appears in front of everyone, but her story continues.
Now she is not only still living with her mother and enjoying this rare family fun, but also when participating in a decoration show, Liu Ting also specially prepared a place for her father.
Because for Liu Ting, no matter how much suffering life has given her, she chooses to face it calmly.
Even if her father has left them, Liu Ting is still willing to tolerate this man who has loved her for 13 years.
I believe that such an inclusive and kind girl will definitely be smoother and smoother on the road of life in the future!