Whenever someone talks to me about family issues, I say that I don't have a problem with this because our family has fallen apart.
It can be said to be genetic, or it can be said to be family style. In short, as far as I can see, the ancestors of our big family have been like this for generations, and this has been the case for all branches.
When the children were young, the whole family was very happy, there was no domestic violence, no single parents, no left-behind children, and no psychological problems.
However, it was a turning point when the children got married. When this turning point comes, the whole family will fall apart.
There seems to be hatred between children and their parents, siblings, and from then on they are like passers-by.
I don't know what caused it, but that's what kind of virtue is in our family anyway.
It may be because of "marrying a daughter-in-law and forgetting her mother", or it may be because of the separation of the family, there is a gap between everyone.
At first, I was also confused. I also want to change that. I also wanted to get along with everyone as adults, but I found it impossible.
Since it doesn't work, it's simpler, and it's good that everyone doesn't come back again when they're adults.
In fact, it is not only family affection, but also friendship. Whether it is a young person, an old classmate or an old colleague, as long as the professional dimension is not at the same level, then the relationship is not far from "falling apart".
In fact, there is not much need for much difference. As long as there is a 5-fold difference in income, there will be basically no intersection.
It's not about snobbery or not, it's about saying that everyone doesn't have a common language.
**10,000 Fans Incentive Plan To take the simplest example, if your monthly salary is 30,000 yuan, and your old classmates and friends have a monthly salary of 5,000 yuan or 6,000 yuan.
At this time, if you are still together, you will find it difficult to fit into each other's conversations.
For example, they will discuss new releases, the war between Russia and Ukraine, house prices**, weddings and funerals, office politics and newly released mobile phones....
In short, these are worthless topics that can make people's minds more and more confusing and their wallets flatter and flatter.
And you probably want to talk more about entrepreneurship, you want to talk about how to make money.
You get together with them once and probably never want to party again in the future. When you go back to your circle, everyone is talking about starting a business and making money.
Therefore, if the income gap between you and your friends is obvious, don't be under any illusions that your friendship can't go back to the way it was. Sooner or later, the disintegration will happen.
I know these ideas will sound uncomfortable, but I'm going to write anyway, and that's exactly what the reality is.
I'll tell you the worst case scenario (falling apart) clearly, then you won't feel strange when you encounter such a bad thing in the future, you already have immunity.
So the question is, are people like me cold-blooded animals with no feelings? I don't think so.
I believe that people who can respect the laws of society and heredity are at least self-loving people.
On the other hand, if you want to be a good old man who can not offend anyone, then you are the most greedy person, you want everything and you don't want to lose anything.
However, what the good old man ends up losing is ego and good emotions.