**10,000 Fans Incentive Program Yesterday someone talked to me about the trivial things I got along with my parents. In fact, I have said it many times in many articles, and the point is very sharp.
Nowadays, there are a large number of giant babies among parents in their fifties and sixties, and the essential reason is that the level of education is too low.
They seem to understand a lot of truth, but in fact, they have a very low IQ, shallow knowledge, a very bad temper, and many of their words and deeds are not at all like adults.
For example, I know a friend. His mother often boiled eggs for a long time (at least half an hour). According to his description, eggs will eventually have a pale green color.
Every time he told his mom about it, her mom said she could shorten the time next time, or buy her a timer and a boiler.
As a result, his mother was very angry when she heard this, and said, "Don't you like what I cook?" You still pick and choose for your meal, and next time you can do it yourself!
Many mothers cook like this, and never allow others to make suggestions, otherwise it is also a set of arguments above.
I don't know if it's because they have a low IQ and no ability to learn, or if they deliberately don't cook well, or maybe it's because of the poor couple's misery.
Parents at the bottom will always have a lot of evil in their hearts, and if they don't have something to vent to the outside world, they are likely to be angry with food and children.
In short, if you learn a little and make a little progress, you can make a big difference in your life, but they don't want to make progress even if they kill them.
They reject or even reprimand any suggestion that will allow them to improve. There are also some parents, the biggest fun is chicken babies and comparisons.
They tell their children all day long, look at who got how many points, how did you get so little?
But children can't compare them: you see that other people's parents drive BMWs, why do you only have to ride electric cars?
In fact, children understand everything, but they are reluctant to say it, or they dare not say it.
The most lethal is emotional management.
In a family, the most unstable mood may not be the child, but the adult in the family. A little unhappy, they began to complain endlessly, and even started scolding.
Can such parents raise children well?
I'm from the countryside. I would venture to say that at least half of rural parents are those who have low IQs, poor learning abilities, no sense of progress, no ability to manage emotions, and start blaming others, beating and scolding their children when they encounter small problems.
I'm definitely not talking about complaining about your parents, but reminding everyone that if your parents are like this, don't try to communicate with them well, don't treat them as normal people.
When you were a child, you obeyed them because you couldn't beat them or were bound by them in terms of food and money, but when you grew up, you should rebel.
Don't be too nice to them. You can give them money, which is the most basic obligation as a child, but never obey them, don't try to communicate with them on an equal footing, let alone make them dependent.
I remember a psychologist who said that there was a theory that one should not be too nice to one, including one's own parents.
Because when you treat and obey a person in a friendly way for a long time, if the person's recognition is not high and the pattern is small, then he is likely to understand your friendship as going with the flow and even pleasing them.
At this time, he will also understand your relationship as: he is higher than you, he wants to control you, you have to obey him.
Also, many people don't talk and communicate to solve problems, nor to reach a consensus, but just to vent and make themselves happy.
I have observed that many people who are unhappy and depressed come from their families.
If you come from a family where your parents are mentally retarded, imbeciles, powder kegs, and negative energy aggregators, why would you accommodate them?
If they were smart when they were young, but they become unconscious in old age, this situation is understandable and worthy of sympathy.
However, many parents are complete trash at a young age. They are the losers of social competition, and they will vent all their incompetence on their children.
Is filial piety to such parents? Do you still think that the negative energy you receive is not enough?
As I said before, what I hate the most are two sets of WeChat signatures: being a person first, then doing things; Filial piety comes first. I think all those who use both signatures are hopeless, and may not even have the most basic humanity.
One day such a person collapsed and became depressed, and I didn't find it strange at all. Because you follow bastard logic, you are willing to fall and be in the company of rogue bastards.
Parents are naturally not worthy of respect, are not morally superior to their children, and do not have the right to control their children as much as they can when they grow up.
In addition, the best way for ordinary people to love the country is to pay more taxes, and buying a house, a car, and luxury goods are all big taxpayers.
If you are the boss, then hire a few more people and pay a few more social security, which is really for the sake of the country.
The same goes for parents. If you really want to be filial to your parents, take practical action. No more, you can transfer 2,000 yuan of pocket money to your parents every month, and if you can do this, I will respect you and admire you.
However, you got the two signatures and an avatar above. You want to escape from real gold, but you stand on the moral high ground and condemn others.
If you are cheap and good, how can there be such a good thing in the world?