When you reach middle age, have you ever felt helpless or lost in life?
After working for many years, when my colleagues around me were getting promoted and getting raises, I was still standing aside and doing the most basic and boring work.
Sometimes I decide to make a change, but it's usually three. Heat for a few minutes.
You don't want to get out of this depraved state, you want to, but you can't do anything. All I could do was anxiously watch myself sink into the quagmire.
Zhou Ling wrote in her book "Cognitive Awakening" that most problems in life often stem from immature thinking.
If we don't reach a mature awakening, we will be influenced by external factors and will not be able to see ourselves and the future clearly.
In other words, when people reach middle age, they need to awaken.
01 Spiritual awakening.
I read a story about trabecular.
He encountered a series of setbacks and difficulties in his life, which left him in deep pain and confusion.
Xiao Liang initially tries to solve these problems by escaping, but instead she becomes addicted to work and play, trying to numb her emotions with busyness.
However, every time I stopped, those painful memories would flood back and make me unbearable.
Trabecular's distress was mainly due to his low mental model.
His vision of the issue was very limited. They only see the dilemma in front of them and ignore the wider possibilities.
As a result, he is stuck in a cycle of self-doubt and negativity, unable to find any positive meaning in the frustration.
Under the guidance of his friends, Xiao Liang began to work hard to change his thinking pattern.
He learned to face his problems and no longer run away from them.
He embraced his past and looked for lessons and lessons from it.
He has come to understand that mistakes and failures are not the end, but opportunities to grow and learn.
As time passed, Xiaoliang's spirit gradually became more positive and optimistic.
He began to look at life's difficulties from a different perspective, seeing them as challenges and opportunities to improve himself.
He learned to let go of the pain of the past, forgive himself, and move on.
When you're at the bottom, you only see the problem, but when you're standing at the top, you see the whole situation.
So, don't be discouraged even when you're at your lowest. If you make a mistake, correct it. Even if you lose money, you can do it again. If you have the spirit to forgive everything, you can transcend. Yourself.
02 Reflection and awakening.
Until the age of 40, Li Hao's life was smooth sailing.
Due to his talent and hard work, he has achieved remarkable results in the IT industry and is regarded as a rising star in the industry.
But at the age of 40, he suffered a series of setbacks.
He led the team to develop a new product that failed in the market and left the company in a difficult situation.
At the same time, his marriage broke down and his wife left him.
Faced with these setbacks, Li Hao began to reflect on his life and career.
He still remembers his mental state when he was younger. At that time, he was full of curiosity and curiosity. No matter what point of view I face, I can listen and accept it in an inclusive manner.
Now, with the accumulation of experience, he has become more and more stubborn and has lost the open-mindedness he once had.
He began to realize that he relied too much on his own experience and judgment in his work and life, ignoring the opinions and suggestions of others.
This shift in thinking made him stubborn in decision-making and unable to listen to others' opinions, which ultimately led to his failure.
The older we get, the less we listen to other people's advice. I consider myself an experienced person, but I never thought that times were changing, and some of my past experiences are no longer applicable today.
Openness and humility are very important qualities in life.
Only by maintaining a humble heart, continuous learning and reflection, can we continue to move forward and grow on the road of life.
When a person reaches middle age, it is like reaching the lowest point in life. The greatest danger here is complacency.
So relax and don't give up.
Although my physical strength is not as strong as before, if I have the right attitude, let go of prejudices, reflect on myself correctly, and move slowly at my own pace, I believe that in the end I can have a very good life. The good life. OK.