My daughter-in-law took care of me during confinement, and you still let your mother come over? Mom came to see me
The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law during confinement is often due to the dissatisfaction of both parties. The mother-in-law thinks that she is working hard to take care of her daughter-in-law, but the daughter-in-law also allows her mother to come, which makes her feel that her efforts are being ignored and makes her feel that her existence is worthless.
Therefore, the mother-in-law will be dissatisfied and think that the daughter-in-law is supervising herself. Therefore, if you want to solve the conflict between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, both parties need to understand each other's thoughts and respect each other in order to live in peace.
My wife and I have been married for almost 30 years and have two children, the eldest daughter and the second son. The children are smart and sensible since childhood, and they never let us work hard in our studies.
Although we are ordinary workers, we understand the importance of studying, and we strive to make it easy for our two children to complete college, no matter how difficult it may be at home.
The children were also very competitive, and after graduating from university, they found jobs that they wanted. The daughter tied the knot last year, and the son-in-law is a native of Wuhan and has a solid family.
My daughter and son-in-law are very filial to the family and always come back to visit us on weekends and holidays. Every festival, my son-in-law will always give us intimate gifts, red envelopes, and even make my neighbors envy me for having a good son-in-law.
My son also entered the marriage hall last year, and my daughter-in-law was his classmate and friend from college, and she was in the same township as us. Since my son got married, the relationship between my daughter-in-law and I has not been close, but there has never been a quarrel.
However, recently, while taking care of my daughter-in-law's confinement, my daughter-in-law and I had an argument over some trivial matters, which made me feel very aggrieved.
The son and daughter-in-law met and fell in love from their junior year, and after graduation, they returned to their hometown to work together. At that time, my daughter-in-law wanted to work in a public kindergarten on our side, so I arranged for her through a friend.
To be honest, since my son brought my daughter-in-law home for the first time, I felt that she was very special and thought that she was the best candidate for my future daughter-in-law. Therefore, I not only provided material support to my daughter-in-law's work, but also did my best.
It is for this reason that my daughter-in-law has always respected me very much. I knew there was a generation gap between us and the young people, so after my son got married, I tried not to interfere with their lives and let them live their own world.
I just hope they can live in peace. I also know that the relationship between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not easy to handle, so I have been carefully handling the relationship between us, for fear of embarrassing my son.
When I heard that my daughter-in-law was pregnant, I didn't hesitate to offer to take care of her. However, my daughter-in-law told me that she was going to raise the baby at her mother's house. Although I was a little disappointed, I understood that this was my daughter-in-law's trust in me.
Half a year later, my daughter-in-law's younger siblings were also pregnant, and my mother-in-law couldn't take care of her, so my daughter-in-law returned to me, and I took over from my mother-in-law to take care of her. I did my best, not only did I make delicious food for her in different ways, but also went to my relatives' house in the countryside early in the morning to buy local chicken stew.
I think that I take good care of my daughter-in-law and work hard. In May this year, my daughter-in-law gave birth to a son, and I was very happy, and I continued to take care of her during her confinement.
However, a few days after my daughter-in-law was discharged from the hospital, my mother-in-law came, which surprised me a little. I still take care of my daughter-in-law's diet every day, but my mother-in-law is always watching me cook, which makes me a little uncomfortable.
Moreover, my daughter-in-law and mother-in-law always talk behind closed doors, which makes me very dissatisfied. This morning, when my mother-in-law went out to buy vegetables, I said to my daughter-in-law: "Daughter-in-law, I take care of you during confinement, and you still let your mother come over?"
I think your mother is here to supervise me, you have to dislike me for not taking care of you, you let your mother take care of you. My daughter-in-law smiled and said to me, "Mom, she came to visit me, you think too much." ”
Now, I don't know what to do, I don't want to leave or stay here forever. I only hope that my daughter-in-law can finish her confinement early so that I can go home.