In an intimate relationship, quarrels are inevitable. But some people are silent and don't say a word when they argue, which tends to make the other half feel even more angry and helpless.
People who are silent when they quarrel often have the following psychology:
Fear of conflict: They are afraid of conflict and fear that an argument will ruin the relationship, so they choose to remain silent to avoid further conflict.
Feeling like they don't have a voice: They feel like they don't have a say in an argument or that their opinion isn't taken seriously, so they choose to be silent to show **.
Not knowing how to express their feelings: they don't know how to express their feelings, or they are afraid that expressing their feelings will be ridiculed or denied by the other person, so they choose to remain silent.
Hoping that the other person will take the initiative to apologize: They want the other person to take the initiative to apologize, so they choose to be silent to force the other person to bow their heads.
Silence in the event of an argument is actually an unhealthy way of communicating. Instead of solving the problem, it makes it worse.
If you find yourself always silent in an argument, then you may need to seek help from counselling. A counsellor can help you understand the psychological motivations behind your silence and teach you how to express your feelings and resolve conflicts in a healthier way.
Xiaomei and Xiaozhang are a couple, and they have been dating for three years. Xiaomei has a cheerful and lively personality, and Xiao Zhang has an introverted and dull personality. Every time they quarreled, Xiao Zhang was always silent and didn't say a word.
Xiaomei thought at first that Xiao Zhang didn't love her anymore, or had an opinion about her. She tried to communicate with Zhang in various ways, but Zhang never spoke. Mei felt very angry and helpless, and she felt that she had no say in her relationship with Zhang.
Later, Xiaomei went to seek help from psychological counseling. The counselor helps Mei understand that the reason why Zhang is silent when they quarrel is because he is afraid of conflict, and he is afraid that the argument will ruin their relationship.
The counselor also taught her some healthier ways to express her feelings and resolve conflicts. Mei used these skills to communicate with Zhang, and the number of arguments between them was reduced, and Zhang was able to express his feelings better each time they argued, and their relationship improved.