Original article No. 288
In the past few days, everyone has returned to their hometown for the New Year, and they were originally full of spirit and joy, but the sky is not beautiful, and there has been snow one after another.
I was trapped on the highway for too long, and I was in a hurry to eat in the car, especially worried about fuel consumption, and I didn't dare to always turn on the air conditioner. At this time of cold and hunger, the nearby farmers come to deliver charcoal in the snow, are they like gods?
In the past two days, I have seen my tears. The simple and deep love of us Chinese, our Chinese peasants, is really like the earth.
If it was just a small reunion before when they just went to their own homes and looked for their own mothers, then the scene in front of us reminded people that human beings are a community. It's a reunion.
Ice and snow, you are cold and I am cold, everyone is cold. But there are people who don't want to play cards at home, but drive miles or even more than ten miles, carrying food and hot water on their shoulders to help these people who don't know each other. On the road in the countryside, in this weather, few people are willing to even take a walk with their bare hands, not to mention the heavy burden? The meaning of this "reunion" has become different.
In addition to strong men, there were also women and children. Some children wrote the word "free" on a piece of paper and pasted it on their bodies. I'm afraid you don't know. How much can this love be calculated? What is the standard of reference?
From the perspective of economics, some people think that it is appropriate to set prices and form an economic behavior of buying and selling. But have you ever thought about what you will lose once the market enters? The warmest thing is missing, and that thing is called --- love.
Some people say that the income of farmers is inherently low, and people who go on the highway are not short of those two small money, and they are not poor when they are trapped, and they give it to you for free, are you embarrassed for nothing? The people who said these words must have been very, very kind, and felt that they should not take advantage of the peasants, and it was not easy for them.
Don't worry, let's interpret it from another angle. We know that these food and hot water are from nearby farmersBe spontaneous and proactiveNo one asked them to do so. So what drives this behavior?
It's love, it's emotion, it's the hot empathy that is deep in the heart of a human being.
Because I know what it's like to be hungry and cold, I understand you, so I want to help you save yourself from suffering. Your suffering is relieved by me, and it will make me feel happy, and although I have some material losses, I have also gained spiritually.
From a psychological point of view, in this kind of behavior, whether it is the helper or the recipient, once the giving and receiving are connected, it will have a firelight-like effect. The altruistic is emotionally sublimated, and the recipient is emotionally sublimated. Later in life, the recipient is likely to have more love for the world because of the favor of a stranger one day.
They will take over the baton of helping others and help others within their capacity in the future. Spread love everywhere.
I also told a child yesterday that none of the homework on the highway was as meaningful as the one who brought hot water to people on the highway. Because altruism will make people happy.
There were also people who gave money, but they refused. Because giving money insults their hearts. If it's for money, they don't necessarily do it, they act precisely because they don't intend to ask for money. If someone comes to do business in the back, I think there is a high probability that the first few waves of farmers who do free public welfare will not participate.
How many days can the highway be blocked, and how much money can you make from it? In special circumstances, it may be most appropriate to leave it to the hearts of the people, rather than encouraging market behavior.
Once the money enters, it will breed another pair of eyes, which will be picky, discriminatory, and even abusive, which will make a person not particularly like a "person".
For example, if a farmer sells you a bucket of noodles, you say, "It's so expensive, it's cheaper!"
When it's over, you'll still ask, help me brew it!
It's over, and you still ask: Why didn't you give a napkin!
It's over, you still ask for the garbage to be cleaned up and taken away ......
If that's the case, we'll never have to cry anymore.
He Xiangqun, founder of Ningbo Xiangqun Psychology Studio, full-time psychological counselor, and member of the popular science expert database of the Chinese Psychological Society.