Every parent wants their child to be well-behaved, sensible, and endearing. But it backfired.
Well-behaved children are all from other people's families, and as long as they can stay quiet, it's already very good.
Yes, how many mothers sighed:
"I had dreamed of raising a well-behaved and beautiful little lady, however.How many mothers, the picture of mother's love and filial piety that they once fantasized about was broken by their children's "ruthlessness" before they were completed.I thought that my son would be a sensible little warm man.
The difficulty of bringing children has become an indescribable "pain" in the hearts of mothers.
However, if the child is not well-behaved and likes to be naughty, does it mean that he has no interest when he grows up?
On the contrary, children who are "difficult to carry" when they are young often grow up to be more promising.
Like to ask whyWalking the baby in the park with his girlfriend on the weekend, the 6-year-old child ran around excitedly looking at the fallen leaves all over the ground.
He would hold up a leaf and ask, "Mom, why are the leaves yellow?" ”
After a while, he excitedly picked up the two leaves, "Mom, why do these two leaves look different?" ”
Under the child's series of "why" questions, the girlfriend gradually lost patience.
There are so many whys, that's it! Well, play by yourself! ”
The child didn't get a reply from his girlfriend, so he could only bow his head and play with the leaves by himself, talking to himself while playing.
I believe that many parents usually feel impatient when faced with the strange questions raised by their children.
But children like to get to the bottom of it, asking questions one after another.
Impatient parents often feel that their children are "too much" and "difficult to bring".
But for children, the unknown answers to questions that parents are reluctant to answer are more attractive and can attract children's curiosity.
Since there is no reply from the parents, the child will have the idea of wanting to do it, and will want to study and explore it by himself.
In the long run, children's desire for research and exploration will become stronger and stronger, and their thinking and practical skills will also be improved.
Therefore, it is not a bad thing for children to ask why, and it means that children's curiosity is slowly growing.
In order to maintain children's curiosity, parents should be patient in facing children's questions and encourage children to ask questions.
Because children who like to ask why, they will have better thinking skills and a desire to explore when they grow up.
Love to talk backThe neighbor's 7-year-old boy's favorite thing to do at a young age is to contradict his mother.
From time to time, you can hear the interesting conversation between mother and son:
Neighbor: "Look how cute this puppy is".Children like to talk back and always have their own ideas, which is a headache for the neighbors. It's getting harder and harder to discipline, and you have to refute me for everything.Child: "It's not cute at all, it bites".
Neighbors: "Eat more vegetables for your health".
Child: "I'm not a rabbit, I want to eat meat".
Indeed, for most parents, a well-behaved and obedient child is a good child.
Most of the children who like to talk back to adults and do the opposite with adults are not worry-free.
Not really!
Love to talk back to children, if parents guide well, the future will be more promising.
There are studies that show that
80% of the children who are more rebellious grow up to be able to make independent judgments;
Only 24 per cent of children with weak resistance are able to act on their own when they grow up.
Therefore, arguments can help children become more independent and confident.
In fact, talking back is also a technical job, which tests the child's observation of the environment and the use of language.
People with stupid mouths can't even quarrel and win, that's the reason.
For this reason, parents should be happy and should adopt a persuasive and rational way to guide their children correctly.
It is even more important to make your position right: although I do not agree with your point of view, I defend your right to speak!
While giving your child the freedom to speak, tell him if what he says and does is correct.
So, parents should be happy when they find out that their children love to talk back.
Because children who are good at talking back will have stronger logical thinking and more outstanding expression skills than their peers.
EnergeticMany parents will have the same question when taking care of their baby: "Why do you feel that your child will never get tired?" ”
True, the child is energetic, and the old mother is not his opponent at all.
Not only is it energetic, but it also recovers quickly, which can be described as "five minutes of charging and two hours of talking".
For example, my 5-year-old child likes to run like crazy every time he goes out.
At first, I would keep chasing after the child, and I would run and shout, "Don't run, beware of falling."
But every time I shouted, I would find that the child was running more and more energetically, more and more excited, and he couldn't calm down at all.
Later, I simply gave up chasing and let the children play on the premise of ensuring safety.
You will find that your child will come back every once in a while to drink and eat on his own to relieve himself.
It is undeniable that energetic children will be more lively and cheerful, and their hands-on ability will be stronger.
Although parents will be more tired and more likely to lie down in the process of bringing the baby, for children, vigorous energy is a gift of growth and will be more conducive to growth and development.
Parents don't have to think about how to restrain their children, and on the premise of ensuring safety, letting children consume their own energy is actually a kind of growth experience.
Studies have also shown that dopamine, serotonin and adrenaline are produced during exercise, the former two can stabilize mood, and the latter can strengthen children's concentration.
Therefore, energetic children will not only be more lively and cheerful in personality, easy to make friends, but also have stronger learning ability.
There are a thousand Hamlets for a thousand readers, and similarly, a thousand children have a thousand different blooms.
As long as parents follow the laws of their children's own growth, they don't force too much and keep their children's pure hearts.
I believe that even children who are difficult to bring will bloom their own wonders in the process of growing up, and there will be a day when they shine.