A farmer was bitten by a poisonous snake while mowing grass in a field.
The farmer was very angry, took up the scythe and tried to chase the snake, trying to catch it, get rid of it.
Climbing over a hill, wading through a small river, and walking hundreds of meters of dirt, the peasants could not afford to fall to the ground.
After a while, the villagers found that the farmer had been poisoned and that the snake was gone.
This is the law of chasing snakes.
Anyone with a bit of a brain knows that the farmer should go to the hospital immediately to save his life, instead of fighting the snake.
When we laugh at the peasants, look at our families, too many parents use the logic of peasant thinking to educate their children.
When the children grow up, they are not outstanding, but the parents have used the power of prehistory.
Angry parents can't teach "strong-willed" children.
As the saying goes, "Impulse is the devil." ”
When people act impulsively, they do unbelievable things. The farmer was like that, bitten by a snake, gritting his teeth and furious.
Otherwise, he will know how to ** himself.
When parents see that their children are making mistakes and their grades are slightly worse, they immediately lose their minds. Anger rises, there is chaos in the family, education turns into a "beating", and so on.
The "kick cat effect" tells us that anger can be transmitted from one person to another, and even to the cat or dog in the home. You can imagine the consequences.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, Zengzi and his father Zeng dug together, and Zengzi accidentally damaged the melon seedlings.
Zeng Dian was very angry, picked up a hoe and hit Zeng Zi.
Zengzi fainted, woke up, trembled, and apologized to his father.
When Confucius knew this, he said to Zengzi meaningfully: "Today, the father of the strategist, committed to anger and did not evade, both died and fell into the injustice of his father, what is his unfilial piety?"”
It is unkind and unjust to obey a violent father. This is what Confucius meant.
Later, Zeng Zi and Zeng Dian worshiped Confucius as a teacher, learned etiquette, and no longer "met each other in arms". As a result, Zengzi became a great filial son, and Zengzi also became elegant.
In the process of growing up, children will hurt their parents and will do things that make their parents unhappy. Parents are angry, and if they educate their children again, they will definitely regret it.
Parents who put the cart before the horse are unable to educate children with "direction".
Forgetting the importance of life and chasing snakes is the wrong direction.
The ancients also told the parable of the farmer and the snake: in the cold winter, the farmer met the frozen snake and held the snake in his arms.
The snake warmed up, woke up, and instinctively bit the farmer. The good intentions of the poor peasant did not bear good fruit.
If you go in the wrong direction, no matter how hard you try, it will be in vain.
Xu Xiake of the Ming Dynasty liked to read since he was a child, and in addition to his own books, he would also go to others to borrow books.
Reading good books, preferring to exchange clothes for them.
At the age of fifteen, Xu Xiake went to take the boys' exam, but during the exam, he hesitated, resulting in no exam.
When his father saw Xu Xiake's achievements, he did not get angry, but encouraged him and said: "If you are not interested in fame, don't force it. ”
Later, with the support of his parents, Xu Xiake became a "travel master", and his wisdom was not buried.
and Yuan Fan of the Ming Dynasty, who went to study medicine under the arrangement of his mother when he was a child.
Yuan met Mr. Kong, talked about it, and felt that it was more appropriate to participate in the scientific expedition.
When my mother heard that Yuan Jiafan was going to change careers, she said frankly: "Since you have decided, follow Mr. Kong." ”
After years of hard work, Yuan Jiafan became a ** and thinker.
Look around us, how many parents are messing around. Whether the child wants it or not, just push it. The consequences of condescending are all too obvious.
When the child goes to college, the parents are still in bondage, forcing the child to take exams, go to big companies, and so on. The child is reluctant to take this path, so he fails again and again, and his youth is wasted.
Tangled parents can't teach "flexible" children.
The farmer and the snake become entangled, causing the farmer to injure himself.
Why don't you adjust your direction and "open up" in the pursuit?
It's funny to have a mindful approach that makes us look at others and not know that we have a similar situation.
I saw a joke: the tiger chased the snake, and the snake jumped into the water.
The tiger waited on the shore for a long time, the snake did not come ashore, but a turtle came.
The tiger held down the turtle and shouted, "Where are you going, do you think that if you change your vest, I won't know you?"”
It is not difficult to find that the "stubborn" person is more ferocious than a tiger.
Parents should be flexible and allow their children to be flexible when they encounter setbacks, or when they make mistakes.
The children had to go to Beijing to study, and later they were allowed to go to Shanghai. The child used to be a good girl, and then went on an independent trip, and that's OK.
Good parents guide their children, but don't force them;And know how to let go. On the contrary, bad parents go around protecting their children without knowing that it is a "prison of love".
The two generations are too close to each other, always entangled, and will also kill each other. Parents hate their children for being disobedient;Children hate parental interference too much.