Whether at home or abroad, the vast majority of boys seem to be very mindful of the cohabitation history of girls, and the Chinese people under the influence of Confucian culture are particularly mindful of this.
Even if it is said that it doesn't matter, but the vast majority of boys can't let go of the mustard in their hearts for a few years, decades, or even a lifetime, compared to the girl's tolerance for boys' cheating, in the matter of cohabitation or ** history, boys' tolerance is even lower. One day, a small quarrel, the girl's cohabitation history is likely to become an amplifier of the quarrel, remembering her past, anger and dissatisfaction erupted in an instant, and the small quarrel instantly evolved into domestic violence and divorce.
When it comes to falling in love, why do boys mind the girl's cohabitation history? There are 10 reasons for this.
1. The influence of traditional concepts
In traditional culture, cohabitation is seen as an immoral act and even a shame. This belief is deeply ingrained in the minds of some boys, who may perceive cohabitation as a question of a girl's purity and moral character. As a result, they may be prejudiced against girls who have lived together as not being emotionally serious or pure.
2. Concerns about stable relationships
When a guy is looking for a love partner, he often wants to find someone who can get along with him steadily for a long time. They may worry that girls who have lived together are more emotionally hurt or more susceptible to the influence of their ex. This concern may lead them to become concerned about the girl's cohabitation history, as they fear that the girl will not be able to form a stable, long-term relationship.
3. Respect for personal privacy
Everyone has their own past and privacy, and cohabitation history is part of the girl's past and is also their privacy. Guys may respect girls' privacy and think that they shouldn't ask too much about or ** girls' pasts. However, when it is learned that the girl has a history of cohabitation, the boy will feel that his privacy has been violated and will become concerned about the girl's past.
Fourth, the comparison of their own value
Some guys may compare a girl's cohabitation history to their own worth. They may think that if a girl has ever cohabited with someone else, then her value is diminished. This comparison may lead to boys being mindful of a girl's cohabitation history because they believe that such a girl is not worthy of them.
5. Worries about future relationships
Guys tend to take into account the other person's past and personality when considering a future relationship with a girl. They may worry that girls who have lived together are not independent or mature enough in terms of personality. This concern may lead them to become concerned about a girl's cohabitation history because they believe that such a girl is not a suitable person for their future partner.
6. Misunderstanding of cohabitation
Some boys may have misconceptions or prejudices about cohabitation. They may perceive cohabitation as an irresponsible act or a sign of disrespect for feelings. This misunderstanding may lead them to be mindful of the girl's cohabitation history, as they perceive the girl as lacking a sense of responsibility or respect for feelings.
7. The impact of personal experience
Everyone's experiences and upbringing are different, which can also affect their perceptions and attitudes towards certain things. Some boys may be concerned about a girl's cohabitation history because of their own experience or family background. They may feel that their values and moral standards do not match those of girls who have lived together, and they may be prejudiced and mindful.
8. The Quest for Purity
Boys often have a pursuit and yearning for purity. They may perceive cohabitation as an impure act and will therefore become suspicious of girls who have cohabited together. They may think that such girls lack purity and cannot satisfy their need for purity.
9. Influence on the concept of marriage
For some boys, marriage is one of their important pursuits. They believe that cohabitation history influences girls' attitudes and attitudes towards marriage. If a girl has a history of cohabitation, they may be concerned about whether she takes marriage seriously or whether she will be able to appreciate the importance of it.
10. Social pressure
Society** also has an impact on boys' perceptions. In society, girls who have a history of cohabitation will be subjected to some negative evaluation and pressure. This kind of pressure can cause boys to mind the girl's cohabitation history because they are afraid that such a girl will be discriminated against and ostracized by society.
Of course, these reasons do not apply to all boys or all situations, and a very small number of boys do not care too much about the history of cohabitation in girls.
Cohabitation history does not represent the whole of a person, everyone has a past and present, we should respect everyone's choices and experiences, and should not judge a person's value by past things. In a relationship, communication and understanding are the keys to a stable relationship. If the guy is concerned about the girl's cohabitation history, both parties should be open and honest about each other's thoughts and feelings to find a common understanding and solution. Through mutual respect and understanding, both parties can build a healthier and more stable relationship.
If you really mind the girl's cohabitation history, no matter how good the relationship between the two is now, it is wise to let go in time and turn away. There are some things left in the psyche that time does not wash away.