“You're 37 years old, you're still a doctor, and you don't want to look for a job when you go back to the countryside, what do you want to do? Won't you make money marrying a daughter-in-law in the future? In the face of his elderly father's bitter heart, the 37-year-old high-achieving student doctorLi MingliangBut I didn't care:"You're thinking about money, but have you ever considered my feelings?
If the 37-year-old Li Mingliang has a wealthy family and eats old age at home, the key is to provide him with education at homePoor as a clang, the old parents are sick and have no money to watch. So why would Dr. Li Mingming, who is able-bodied, prefer to live at home rather than find a job?
In 1980, Li Mingliang was born in an ordinary peasant family in Hunan, and he could barely maintain the family's life by farming, and he also had a younger sister. Although the economic conditions are not good, Li Mingliang has been favored by most of his parents as a man, and Li Mingliang has been very obedient and sensible since he was a child.
Although Li Mingming's parents have little culture, they pay great attention to the education of their childrenReading is the only way to be productive。So, gritting his teeth, he also provided for Li Mingliang and his sister to go to school, Li Mingliang has been very smart since he was a child, and he basically understands everything. The same course content, before his peers understood it, Li Mingliang had already learned it. Li Mingming's academic performance is very goodThe awards alone covered an entire wall
Even the neighbors around them will use Li Mingliang as a template when educating their own children. Li Mingliang knows that knowledge can change fate, and in order to let his parents live a good life in the future, this has always been his motivation for learning. Li Mingming's parents will do odd jobs to make money in addition to farming for Li Mingliang's schooling.
But as Li Mingliang gets older and the tuition fees increase, Li Mingliang's parents have obviously felt powerless, because there is a younger sister at home who is also in school. Li Mingming's parents summed it upDecided to drop my sister out of school, the whole family went to school together** Li Mingming. After all, in those days, people's thinking was still more patriarchal, and girls didn't need to be more educated.
In this way, my younger sister, who was still in elementary school, had no chance to continue her studies for Li Mingming, so she began to farm and work with her parents at a young age, and went out to work with her parents when she was a little older to make money. Li Mingliang became the only hope for this family.
Li Mingliang also lived up to the expectations of his family, and after graduating from junior high school, he was admitted to their best local high school with excellent results, and was successfully admitted to a 985 university in Hunan at the age of 17. For a while, Li Mingliang became a well-known figure in their small mountain village, and Li Mingliang's parents were also extremely proud of him.
After being admitted to the university, Li Mingliang did not relax at all, and was still addicted to learning every day, during his master's degree, he was noticed by his tutor because of his outstanding grades, and under the recommendation of his tutor, the school wanted to keep him for further study, and even promised that he would introduce him to a job after graduation.
But Li Mingliang had already decided to go to other schools at that time, so he rejected the suggestion to stay in school, and he was admitted in 2004Ph.D., Southwest University。The news caused a sensation in his hometown, and Li Mingming's parents also felt that their faces were bright. 9 years of Ph.D. studyDuring the time, Li Mingliang never returned home.
Although his parents were sad, they also understood, after all, the child's future is more important. However, all these expectations of theirs were shattered by Li Mingliang himself.
In 2013, Li Mingliang suddenly returned to his hometown in Hunan, which was the first time he had returned home in nine years of studying, and he did not greet anyone beforehand. And there was another one who came home with himMore than 50 bags of books, Many of these books were neatly packed and mailed back before they could be opened, and Li Mingliang spent just mailing these booksMore than 3,000 dollars,Of course, Li Mingliang has no money, and all this money is paid in advance by his sister.
No one knows why Li Mingliang came back suddenly, they only know that this "golden phoenix flying out of the chicken nest" is now returning to his hometown, so the people in the village have come to congratulate him after learning that Li Mingliang is back. Li Mingming's parents also came back simply because their son hadn't come home for so long, and this time he suddenly came back just because he was homesick.
The villagers came to congratulate the family, and Li Mingming's parents were busy taking care of these fellow villagers, but they didn't notice that their proud son had never shown up once. In the evening, Li Mingliang's parents wanted to say a few words to their son, but they were also directly shut out by Li Mingliang, and his parents thought that Li Mingliang had just come back today and was tired, so they didn't say anything.
But slowly, they realized that something was wrong. Since Li Mingliang returned home, he has never stepped out of the door, and he has been reading books in the house every day, not caring about anything at home, let alone going out to find a job to make money. Li Mingming's mother was worried that her son would be bored if he stayed at home every day, and wanted to persuade Li Mingliang. But Li Mingming's father stopped his mother's behavior, worried that Li Mingliang would be disturbed by them doing academic research.
But as time passed, Li Mingming's father couldn't sit still. A month, two months, a year, or two years can be said that Li Mingliang is doing academic research, butThree or four years have passed, and Li Mingliang still has no intention of going out to find a job。To know,Their family used all their savings to ** Li Mingliang to study
The surrounding neighbors have all rebuilt their houses and lived in new houses, only Li Mingming's family still lives in the old house, the roof is broken everywhere, and when it rains, it rains heavily outside, and it rains lightly at home. The only bed in the family that can be seen is still given by someone else, and in order to ** Li Mingliang to study all these years, his father has to work several jobs every day, and long-term overwork has caused his health to be poor, and Li Mingliang's sister has been working to make money even if she is married** He studied and carried it on his back at a young ageTens of thousands of foreign debts
But Li Mingliang didn't seem to know at all, he relied on his parents to eat and drink every day, he didn't go out to work to make money, he only read books at home, and he always ignored others when they talked to him. Over time, Li Mingliang has changed from everyone's envy to a laughing stock in his mouth, everyone says that Li Mingliang is stupid in reading, and Li Mingliang's family has become a joke in the eyes of others.
Li Mingming's father couldn't bear to watch their proud son become in the eyes of others."Giant babiesmade others think that he would only gnaw at the old, so he persuaded Li Mingliang to go out and find a job. But Li Mingliang was suddenly ignited with anger and directly attacked his father, and in desperation, his father called the police. But with the first time, there is a second and third time, because Li Mingliang and his family have a big fight, theyReported to the police 4 times
However, what made Li Mingliang's father feel even more chilling was that once when Li Mingliang's father was working outside, he suddenly fainted, and after being found by the villagers, he sent his father back to the house. Outsiders all know that Shuhan asks Nuan Lang to care, but Li Mingliang, who is also under the same roof, has never shown up from beginning to end. He didn't expect that the son he had worked so hard to raise would be a white-eyed wolf.
The whole family didn't understand, why did they read books outside for so long, but it made Li Mingliang what he is now, obviously when he was not admitted to the doctorate, Li Mingliang was normal, what happened to make Li Mingliang what he is now?
Parents who had no choice but to watch Li Mingliang continue like this, but they had no good way, so in desperation, at the suggestion of others, they turned to the local **. With the help of **, they finally knew the reason for Li Mingming's drastic change in temperament.
According to ** learned from Southwest University, where Li Mingliang studied,Li Mingliang studied for 9 years, but he did not get a degree certificate at allIn order to find out what is going on, ** specially invited onePsychological counselor, under the comfort of the psychological counselor, Li Mingliang slowly said the pimple in his heart.
It turned out that after Li Mingliang studied for a doctorate, he did not relax for a day, he still studied hard every day, did not have any entertainment activities, and was unwilling to socialize with others, and was isolated by his roommates over time. And every time he sleeps, his roommates make all kinds of noise, making him unable to sleep at all.
And he was reluctant to communicate with other people, and over time, the long-term rest was not good, coupled with the lack of communication with others, which led to problems with his body. Every day listlessly, he found that he actually suffered from a very serious dyslexia. But when he was so difficult, he never received the slightest care from his family.
In his opinion, he is like a machine, and when he mentioned the dispute with his father, Li Mingliang suddenly became very emotional, he saidHis parents didn't care about him at all, all they cared about was whether they could go out to work and earn money for the family. But now Li Mingliang has no way to go out to work.
Because of the long-term suffering from insomnia, Li Mingliang now has headaches every day, which can only be relieved by medicine, and such symptoms have been with him for many years. How can such a body still go out and find a job? And he was worried that his parents would be dissatisfied with the job he was looking for, so he simply didn't want to go out.
Li Mingliang has endured too much pressure that his peers have not endured since he was a child, knowing that this family has paid too much for him, and he carries all the expectations of the family, under such huge pressure, his psychology has gradually been distorted. After the appraisal of psychological experts, Li Mingming's psychology has a problem, and he belongsNaïve personality
People with this kind of personality have a very big difference between their mental age and their actual age, like Li Mingliang, although he is 37 years old, but his psychology is still like a child, extremely dependent on others, and his ability to bear is also very poor, and he is unable to take on a responsibility that he should bear at his age.
And Li Mingliang's family also regretted not being at the beginning after learning that Li Mingliang suffered from such a mental illness, but now no matter how much they regret it, it will be useless, maybe with the understanding and companionship of his parents, Li Mingliang's psychology will get better and better. Today's Li Mingliang is 43 years old, in recent years, his parents have been even more sad for him, took him to see a lot of doctors, and took on more debts, but the effect is average, and now he still hasn't gone out to work, gnawed at home, single, and the once genius young man has completely fallen, which is really sad and lamentable.
For parents, children's academic performance is important, but in the current environment, it is even more important for children to have a sound personality and psychology.